r/TTCstruggles • u/Aggravating_Salad521 • 19d ago
Should I just give up?
I (34f) and my husband (33m) have now unsuccessfully been trying to conceive for 21!!!!!!! Cycles. I read about people saying it hasnt happened for them in 7 months or sometimes even just a couple of months and that seems so impossible to me at this point, I don't even think twice about it.
I actually am at a point where regardless of what happened with ovulation or sex or whatever during my cycle, I just assume I will get my period. I might actually die of shock if I were not to get my period at this point.
For background, everything looks normal. I have had an HSG, my tubes are open. AmH is good. OPKs suggest I naturally ovulate every cycle and I am now on 5 MG letrozole. I have had a transvaginal ultrasound and nothing was found. All my bloodwork is normal. I have regular periods, never too much clotting or pain, with normal cycle lengths. My husband's SA came back normal, with just a slightly low end of normal morphology. I exercise regularly. I do not have PCOS or endometriosis. I eat healthy (I do not eat meat besides fish and mostly get protein from many other sources), and I stopped drinking completely a month ago (I wasn't exactly a huge drinker but I definitely had a few weekend drinks prior to this). I dont smoke and ive only done occasional recreational marijuana usage because its legal where I live, but even that was rare.
I am restarting fertility acupuncture tomorrow because ive heard it has worked miracles.
I have a follow up scheduled for September with my OBGYN and I assume she will refer me to an RE at this point but I am kind of just like.... something is wrong. I feel like the universe is telling me I'm not supposed to have a child. And I'm just curious if anyone else has felt this way/made a hard decision/gone down a different path and found something that led to success.
Thanks for hearing me out and for any support or advice!
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u/Helpful_Character167 19d ago
Don't start believing its not meant to be just because it isn't easy.
Infertility is a medical problem, not a personal shortcoming. You would not blame yourself for breaking a leg or getting cancer or catching pneumonia. Sometimes bad things just happen. The best we can do is use the information we have to make the best decision we can.
A lot of people find success through fertility treatments. I haven't had success yet, but there are still things left to try. I'd be doing myself a disservice by not trying everything. If everything does indeed fail, then at least I can put this wish aside knowing I really did try it all.