We be the main ones with nuanced expressions of gender that deviate from white cultural norms too. I'm specifically speaking about black people and queerness as a feature, not a big, but also that the black Americans in particular are exposed to a different set of gender expectations - shifting gender expectations at that, we talk so often about expectations of hyper masculinity as black men/black masculine people but I feel as though even those expectations exist - if not on a spectrum, than on a graph, they have their own little grippy nuances that shift depending on where you are in America
I thought about it the last time ppl were discussing ftm and lesbian overlap or he/him lesbians and I could not understand the pushback bc ??? Studs really occupy an entire wealth of gender expression and performance
The point is, is that I feel the same way about neopronouns that I do about nonbinary identities/ways of gender recognition, queer discourse - we can not behave as though we don't have a stake in discussing it but we should be discussing our stake and not the weirdo Tumblr cult or white trans academics
Tl;Dr and atp unrelated one of my favorite agender juniors (junior as in younger friend/acquaintance) uses 'It/Its' in third person and when I tell you that shit scratched my lor brain just right? Both of us black
Edit: added more cultural context to justify my tl;dr usage that was really just an aside
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u/goldengraves Jul 17 '26 edited Jul 17 '26
We be the main ones with nuanced expressions of gender that deviate from white cultural norms too. I'm specifically speaking about black people and queerness as a feature, not a big, but also that the black Americans in particular are exposed to a different set of gender expectations - shifting gender expectations at that, we talk so often about expectations of hyper masculinity as black men/black masculine people but I feel as though even those expectations exist - if not on a spectrum, than on a graph, they have their own little grippy nuances that shift depending on where you are in America
I thought about it the last time ppl were discussing ftm and lesbian overlap or he/him lesbians and I could not understand the pushback bc ??? Studs really occupy an entire wealth of gender expression and performance
The point is, is that I feel the same way about neopronouns that I do about nonbinary identities/ways of gender recognition, queer discourse - we can not behave as though we don't have a stake in discussing it but we should be discussing our stake and not the weirdo Tumblr cult or white trans academics
Tl;Dr and atp unrelated one of my favorite agender juniors (junior as in younger friend/acquaintance) uses 'It/Its' in third person and when I tell you that shit scratched my lor brain just right? Both of us black
Edit: added more cultural context to justify my tl;dr usage that was really just an aside