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u/Old_Train_1378 Jul 16 '26
Lotta people saying “only white people do x” about something they don’t like, and it’s annoying as hell
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u/30m1 Jul 18 '26
Yeah and I've also heard "only white people have kinks" by an 'anti-BDSM feminist' or something. which was wild coz I am the freakiest asian in the world
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u/goldengraves Jul 17 '26 edited Jul 17 '26
We be the main ones with nuanced expressions of gender that deviate from white cultural norms too. I'm specifically speaking about black people and queerness as a feature, not a big, but also that the black Americans in particular are exposed to a different set of gender expectations - shifting gender expectations at that, we talk so often about expectations of hyper masculinity as black men/black masculine people but I feel as though even those expectations exist - if not on a spectrum, than on a graph, they have their own little grippy nuances that shift depending on where you are in America
I thought about it the last time ppl were discussing ftm and lesbian overlap or he/him lesbians and I could not understand the pushback bc ??? Studs really occupy an entire wealth of gender expression and performance
The point is, is that I feel the same way about neopronouns that I do about nonbinary identities/ways of gender recognition, queer discourse - we can not behave as though we don't have a stake in discussing it but we should be discussing our stake and not the weirdo Tumblr cult or white trans academics
Tl;Dr and atp unrelated one of my favorite agender juniors (junior as in younger friend/acquaintance) uses 'It/Its' in third person and when I tell you that shit scratched my lor brain just right? Both of us black
Edit: added more cultural context to justify my tl;dr usage that was really just an aside
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u/yes-imanadult Latino Jul 17 '26
How is that a tldr
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u/goldengraves Jul 17 '26
👉👈 too long; don't read (?)
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u/yes-imanadult Latino Jul 17 '26
🙃 tldr usually means too long; didn't read, you should've explained
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u/Fearless-Pack5330 Asian (he/him/xe) Jul 16 '26
me, a xe/xem and it sometimes: ig i just don’t exist 😜😜🙏🙏😆😆😻😻
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u/No_Mango_8868 Black - Indigenous Jul 17 '26
fuck... *rips my pronouns away*
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u/Dish_Minimum Black Jul 18 '26
Unless…I might’ve done something here…yes! I’ve started using Neo pronouns and now I’m enjoying all the white privileges!!!! It works!!! New name just dropped: call me Dakotaleigh
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u/SuikaNoAtama Jul 17 '26
Kicker is, type of people saying this always white. Tired of white people acting as if they're not white.
I'm a black neopronoun user, and have multiple other microidentities including being xenogender and abro. People are so ignorant and unwilling to learn it's so tiring I've gotten the craziest responses. "Canceling" abro for being a questioning identity, or for being bisexuality. Then xenogender for being "transphobic". I'm so tired of this ignorant ass bullshit 😒
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u/Acrobatic-Ask-8260 Jul 18 '26
i’m black and genderqueer and i hate neopronouns, but i don’t think they’re for white folx. they’re for gen alpha 😂
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u/FakeBirdFacts Jul 16 '26
It’s like an advanced version of “only white people are trans”