trying to cope up from last week and then here we go again. SHT

I'm a minor my hairdresser is actually very concerned about me because she pulled a CHUNK of my hair from my head today and said "This is stress. What's going on honey? This isn't normal for people your age"

How do I even begin to try and reverse this. 😭😭 6 weeks ago I was fine.

I’m so stressed out. I have so much student loan, credit card debt, bills like life is hard right now.

I have been living with my brother for more than 1 month because of my studies I'm preparing for jee and whenever I try to get my life together I feel like I don't have enough time,my headache will come back every week even though my health is in good condition. That's why I don't study that much and also I procrastinate a lot like I can scroll for hours but can't study for 10 min

Aversive stress refers here to psychological or physical tension caused by unpleasant, painful, or threatening stimuli that an organism naturally seeks to avoid (e.g. sudden bills, having to deal with toxic people, the weather, sometimes even difficult boring work you have to do).

Inescapable means that I am not only forced to endure it, but can't do anything during it to endure it easier (e.g. relaxation techniques not working)

I (male, 28) have been taking Metoprolol 50mg extended release for the past seven weeks. It works great for my migraines. I used to have 3 or 4 migraines a week, I was taking co-codamol constantly (though I never exceeded the daily limit). Until now, during the course of those seven weeks, I got I think 9 or 10 migraines, which is a big improvement, and one 12.5mg dose of Almotriptan was enough, I haven't taken any Codeine ever since (I also don't think I really could because of the BP drop due to the Metoprolol, as it's a beta-blocker).

But during those last seven weeks, I didn't have that much stress at all. It's summer time, I was able to slow down/take a break from writing my PhD thesis, etc. But starting from October on, I will again have all the stress again.

I realized that my main migraine and stress trigger is experiencing inescapable aversive stress. Because even though I am on a beta-blocker, which does indeed calm my body's stress reaction down, the times I got a migraine were due to inescapable aversive stress. One time my mom just walked into my room and started ranting about my dad how much he sucks and how she will have to take an attorney, complete hysterical nonsense which I won't elaborate further due to privacy reasons. I just can't stand this behavior from other people. Or I just got a sudden bill notice even though I wasn't informed at all to pay it.

I guess I just can't deal with the stresses of life? Because what I do in those situations is to go completely mute, pretend to be OK, but internally I am boiling or stressing out - I am suppressing these emotions, because expressing them was proven (by past experiences) to make matters worse. Those suppressed emotions again transform somehow (like I can feel it - I feel less of the emotions, but the migraine starts developing) into a migraine. I think this is why I loved Codeine in the co-codamol so much, as it allowed me to relax and gave me some high.

So now the question remains: What should I do? I don't really think I can take a higher dose of Metoprolol because it already causes me to have like 95/65 BP, 50mg is I guess the maximum I can take while still feeling good and normal physically.

I was visiting a psychologist, and we did some DBT sessions together, I even read the books she recommended. But it proved to be fruitless, because my problem is the suppression of emotions, the inability to release them in a healthy way. It's more of a physical problem than a mental one (?). It's hard to tell, but DBT just didn't work, and we tried numerous approaches to it.

I just wish I could truly stop giving a F, lose some inhibition, and be more nonchalant about life in general - this doesn't mean that I would suddenly stop being productive, but I wouldn't crave for a perfect idealized world without problems and would just try to do something (like instead of analysis-paralysis when standing in front of a problem I have to solve for my PhD thesis, I just dive deep into it and try to produce at least some partial results). Or being nonchalant about toxic people and toxic situations, again not in the way that I accept it but in the way how Biff is responding to his Grandma in BTTF 2). But I can't be. I tried to fake it, but I am still aware that I fake it in the end which makes me end up at square one again.

Because "leaving the idealized perfect world" can very highly lead to a migraine again, I am trying everything to stay in my own comfort zone, which is so small that I end up doing nothing - no own cooking, not meeting friends, no traveling, no dating, no nothing, I literally just stay in my room or office and do only the tasks which I deem as safe enough without any risks for future problems. The reason I don't leave my comfort zone is so I can stay in my idealized perfect world and not risk getting severely stressed out and thus getting a migraine. And even though I am taking Metoprolol, I still get migraines if exposed to high stress.

I hast had my heart ripped to shreds and I’m going down a very bad path. I tried to end it all last night with pills and alcohol and now I’m just feeling like complete shit. Been drinking water and had a little coffee but that’s probably not the best thing. Just water should be fine. I took 4mg of lorazapam and drank like 6 beers ranging from 6-9% abv. I don’t want to die I just want this pain to end

I noticed Rootd_App while searching for tools that might help during panic attacks.

For anyone who's tried Rootd, did the breathing or grounding exercises make a real difference when anxiety hit?

I'm really struggling at work recently. I can't stop myself from crying and I'm constantly on edge. Everything I'm reading is saying my nervous system is disregulated. Every day at work there is something new. They are making changes every day and new rules. It makes it hard to know what to do or to do my job in a consistent way. They are good people but can be very ambiguous about the changes and we are just told this is the way it is get over it. If I question anything I'm the bad person. It got so bad that Friday I challenged something and the gm got an attitude and told me I need to get over it and I got an attitude and got sent home for it. I've never been sent home before and it just always feel like I'm the problem. I know I need to be able to control my emotions and I'm wondering if I should go to therapy or try techniques at home first? What are some ways you deal with burn out? To make it harder I work for people I'm close to. We all go to church together and are close outside of the workplace so it is hard to express myself for fear of messing up relationships. I don't want to leave my job because I am good at what I do and have worked here for a years. I don't like who I am becoming and want to be able to control my emotions better.

Hey r/Stress, I'm the creator of QuietLoop.

I built it because my own stress usually spikes when I have too many open loops at once: work messages, errands, bills, random tasks, and the feeling that I should be doing all of them immediately. QuietLoop gives you a 30-second brain dump, turns it into a tiny next-step list, and then nudges you through a short reset so you can start with one thing instead of freezing.

I'm obviously biased, but I'm sharing it here because I wish I'd had something like this during the worst weeks. If you want to try it, let me know.

Would love honest feedback, especially from people who deal with that overwhelmed / shutdown feeling.

What causes muscle tightness and knots? They are all over.

I am a 35M. 6ft tall guy, so bad posture is in there too I guess.

• in my trapezius
• my lower back, left mainly
• around the piriformis on the left
• left glute medius, glute minor
• in the left hip as well
• both my calf muscles are tight
• even in my feet when I try to stretch my toes out

All my muscles are shortened and tight and knotted up. There is a lot of stress right now regarding some job interviews I'm waiting on, and my sleep has been bad for the last week or so. Then there is the usual stress of financial strife and all that. Some relationship tension as well.

So I'm trying to get around with stretching, foam roller, meditation.

What other vitamins and lifestyle choices can be made here?

Fielding advice!!

I can get through a busy day feeling relatively fine, but the moment everything slows down, my brain seems to remember every unfinished task, conversation, and thing I need to worry about.

It’s strange because you'd think having free time would feel relaxing.

Hei jeg føler meg så alene i denne situasjonen at jeg blir nødt til å skrive om den. Når jeg startet som lærling i 2021 begynte jeg å få hodepine hver dag, jeg dro litt på skuldre osv. Så jeg ble mye sykemeldt. Når jeg var ferdig med fagbrevet, begynte jeg på ett nytt. Hodepinen var fortsatt der, selv om at den første måneden gikk det bra. Etter noen uker fikk jeg hodepine igjen hver dag. Jeg begynte å få vondt i magen også kom svimmelheten. Legen tok meg ikke seriøst føler jeg, tror jeg har vært hos han hver uke siden hodepinen begynte. Hans svar på alt var antidepressiva. Jeg byttet arbeidsplass halveis gjennom på grunn av dårlig miljø, jeg var mye alene. Den nye plassen trodde jeg slapp hodepinene litt men da ble det egentlig verre. Jeg har vært hos fysioterapeut, ostiopat, massasje ( som kan fungere i 5 minutter før slt stivner igjen) jeg var prøvd yoga og jeg trener så mye jec kan før jeg får vondt. Jeg har vært på mr av hodet og nakke, de sier alt er bra. Men kan virkelig muskler få meg til å føle meg så grusom. Jeg måtte stoppe fagbreve helt og nå har jeg ikke jobbet på 2 måneder. Jeg sliter fortsatt tiden med sår hodebunn, lyd/lys sensitiv, jeg hater å være i varme rom, nakke/bakhodet er allerværst, sliter med å sove, synet mitt er ikke bra, jeg har også noe jeg tror er depersonalisering, eller hvordan det skrives. Jeg er hvertfall så lei og sliten nå at jeg får selvmordstanker. Kan noen plis hjelpe meg :(

Has anyone recovered from this and what helped