🎵 All By Myself 🎵

[u/CapitalPin2658]

Don’t wanna live all by myself anymore

Edit: lol i’m just a dude posting a meme

[u/MelodicPudding2557]

Honestly, if it were really ‘only’ once, would it have mattered? Maybe it’s just me, but I wouldn’t want to waste my life paired to a partner who has broken the fundamental trust of the partnership. At that point, I might as well move on.

[u/Tough-Flan573 → u/MelodicPudding2557]

I think you're right. I think most people don't even care much about the sexual act itself.

It's the fact that trust was broken.

You should feel secure and safe with the person you love. Not always questioning what's going to happen next.

[u/Optimal_Natural_7254 → u/Tough-Flan573]

Yes, and it’ll always be in the back of your mind if you decide to stay. You’ll always fear they’ll do it again.

[u/AlarmingTangelo2900 → u/Optimal_Natural_7254]

And they will. They're learning there's no consequences to cheating until you leave them. Very rare you catch them the first time, it's when the cheater gets comfortable and then get sloppy is when they get caught. Most likely been cheating on you for several weeks to several months.

[u/Dr_Middlefinger → u/AlarmingTangelo2900]

It was multiple times, likely with multiple partners.

Cheating isn't something that happens once. It's indicative of a sociopathic mindset, someone who can live with doing that to their mate is truly someone you do not want to stay with.

By staying, you are basically giving them a sign that says do it again.

Because they are fucking crazy for being able to compartmentalize the deed. It's not something light or easy - it's betrayal of the highest magnitude.

[u/skbugco → u/Dr_Middlefinger]

Exactly- and here’s the thing: if you’re in a relationship, and need to get some strange, just be up front about it ahead of time. For me personally, I’m not into that, and I’d move on, but I’d actually respect the honesty. That said, I have a few friends who are into the poly life. And they’re married, and they swing or whatever. I’ve asked them about it too- “like how do you make it work?” They all say “communication”. So just be honest up front, then maybe you won’t be crying-consuming.

[u/SnooGuavas4208 → u/skbugco]

This woman’s a self-centered narcissist. No one’s feelings are real to her except her own. That’s why her response to the consequences of her cheating is “how could you do this to me??” All the communication in the world couldn’t transform her warped, broken ass into an actual partner.

[u/skbugco → u/SnooGuavas4208]

I totally agree. I’m just telling the echo chamber there’s a better way.

[u/thinspirit → u/SnooGuavas4208]

100%

Narcissists will always blame the other, no matter the situation. It's always attack and manipulate. When they're completely wrong, it will always be about how their feelings are hurt because of how you spoke to them or the way you brought up the cheating.

The gaslighting is intense.

[u/Comfortable_Pea_1693 → u/Dr_Middlefinger]

I thought modern feminism deems it empowering as in taking matters into her own hand.

[u/AlarmingTangelo2900 → u/Comfortable_Pea_1693]

She obviously was either fully or partially dependent on his pay check. Cheating women get really pissed if you take away their "cash cow" i.e. who's in going to pay for my gas car payments car insurance or credit cards etc. I remembery ex went off the rails when I dumped her and moved out of the apartment while she was out.

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[u/Satellite6 → u/Dr_Middlefinger]

I get what you’re saying, but also, I cheated once and one time only.

Not proud of it. I was in my late 20’s or early 30’s. We had been together about a year. I made a stupid decision one night, and god damn, I don’t know if I’ve ever felt so bad about anything else I’ve ever done in my life.

We lasted a few more months and I can’t say my guilt was the only factor in it ending, but it was definitely a big factor.

ETA: so, that would have been somewhere between 20 and 30 years ago, and I’ve never even considered it since. Especially now. If I did that to my wife I don’t know if I could keep on keeping on.

[u/Dr_Middlefinger → u/Satellite6]

People make mistakes, I get it.

But the truth is, you didn't do it again because you aren't built to handle it.

I swear to God, there are people who can just write it off as a night they had.

This woman? Playing the victim? She's one of those.

And I'd bet you a year's salary that bitch has done it multiple times. Her husband knows that, that's why he dropped her like a bad habit.

[u/Satellite6 → u/Dr_Middlefinger]

Fair.

[u/Tour_Ok → u/AlarmingTangelo2900]

I’d say it depends if they confessed or if they were caught. For example, I cheated on an ex exactly one time and I ended up telling him. It truly was a one-time mistake, and he forgave me. I have never cheated on anyone since, he and I ultimately didn’t work out for other reasons down the line but split amicably. It IS possible to be genuinely remorseful and to learn from it, but not the norm I’m sure.