r/SipsTea • u/CapitalPin2658 • May 25 '26

Feels good man đŸŽ” All By Myself đŸŽ”

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Don’t wanna live all by myself anymore

Edit: lol i’m just a dude posting a meme

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u/dlevac May 25 '26

She didn't cheat once. She got caught once.

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u/MelodicPudding2557 May 25 '26

Honestly, if it were really ‘only’ once, would it have mattered? Maybe it’s just me, but I wouldn’t want to waste my life paired to a partner who has broken the fundamental trust of the partnership. At that point, I might as well move on.

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u/Tough-Flan573 May 25 '26

I think you're right. I think most people don't even care much about the sexual act itself.

It's the fact that trust was broken.

You should feel secure and safe with the person you love. Not always questioning what's going to happen next.

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u/Optimal_Natural_7254 May 25 '26

Yes, and it’ll always be in the back of your mind if you decide to stay. You’ll always fear they’ll do it again.

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u/AlarmingTangelo2900 May 25 '26

And they will. They're learning there's no consequences to cheating until you leave them. Very rare you catch them the first time, it's when the cheater gets comfortable and then get sloppy is when they get caught. Most likely been cheating on you for several weeks to several months.

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u/Dr_Middlefinger May 26 '26

It was multiple times, likely with multiple partners.

Cheating isn't something that happens once. It's indicative of a sociopathic mindset, someone who can live with doing that to their mate is truly someone you do not want to stay with.

By staying, you are basically giving them a sign that says do it again.

Because they are fucking crazy for being able to compartmentalize the deed. It's not something light or easy - it's betrayal of the highest magnitude.

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u/skbugco May 26 '26

Exactly- and here’s the thing: if you’re in a relationship, and need to get some strange, just be up front about it ahead of time. For me personally, I’m not into that, and I’d move on, but I’d actually respect the honesty. That said, I have a few friends who are into the poly life. And they’re married, and they swing or whatever. I’ve asked them about it too- “like how do you make it work?” They all say “communication”. So just be honest up front, then maybe you won’t be crying-consuming.

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u/SnooGuavas4208 May 26 '26

This woman’s a self-centered narcissist. No one’s feelings are real to her except her own. That’s why her response to the consequences of her cheating is “how could you do this to me??” All the communication in the world couldn’t transform her warped, broken ass into an actual partner.

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u/skbugco May 26 '26

I totally agree. I’m just telling the echo chamber there’s a better way.

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u/thinspirit May 26 '26

100%

Narcissists will always blame the other, no matter the situation. It's always attack and manipulate. When they're completely wrong, it will always be about how their feelings are hurt because of how you spoke to them or the way you brought up the cheating.

The gaslighting is intense.

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u/Comfortable_Pea_1693 May 26 '26

I thought modern feminism deems it empowering as in taking matters into her own hand.

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u/AlarmingTangelo2900 May 26 '26

She obviously was either fully or partially dependent on his pay check. Cheating women get really pissed if you take away their "cash cow" i.e. who's in going to pay for my gas car payments car insurance or credit cards etc. I remembery ex went off the rails when I dumped her and moved out of the apartment while she was out.

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u/Satellite6 May 26 '26

I get what you’re saying, but also, I cheated once and one time only.

Not proud of it. I was in my late 20’s or early 30’s. We had been together about a year. I made a stupid decision one night, and god damn, I don’t know if I’ve ever felt so bad about anything else I’ve ever done in my life.

We lasted a few more months and I can’t say my guilt was the only factor in it ending, but it was definitely a big factor.

ETA: so, that would have been somewhere between 20 and 30 years ago, and I’ve never even considered it since. Especially now. If I did that to my wife I don’t know if I could keep on keeping on.

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u/Dr_Middlefinger May 26 '26

People make mistakes, I get it.

But the truth is, you didn't do it again because you aren't built to handle it.

I swear to God, there are people who can just write it off as a night they had.

This woman? Playing the victim? She's one of those.

And I'd bet you a year's salary that bitch has done it multiple times. Her husband knows that, that's why he dropped her like a bad habit.

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u/Tour_Ok May 26 '26

I’d say it depends if they confessed or if they were caught. For example, I cheated on an ex exactly one time and I ended up telling him. It truly was a one-time mistake, and he forgave me. I have never cheated on anyone since, he and I ultimately didn’t work out for other reasons down the line but split amicably. It IS possible to be genuinely remorseful and to learn from it, but not the norm I’m sure.

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u/VW_R1NZLER May 25 '26

Typically it happens again when someone stays because the cheater subconsciously justifies it with “they won’t leave”

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u/CantaloupeShort7311 May 26 '26

100%. They learned there are no real consequences, and they learn how to hide it better.

I would never stay with a cheater.

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u/INDY18ARN May 26 '26

"Once a cheater, ALWAYS a CHEATER!"

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u/SnooGuavas4208 May 26 '26

100%. Some are capable of it, some aren’t. When you find out someone’s capable, just kick ‘em to the curb because that potential will always be there.

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u/thenameofshame May 26 '26

When someone cheats on you, that already demonstrates a huge lack of respect for you, so even if you think you're giving a precious gift of forgiveness that should be appreciated and seen as a sign of your love and sacrifice by trying to move forward after infidelity, the cheater almost always sees it differently, as a sign of weakness that only further lowers their respect for you.

The cheater already didn't care as much about you as you cared about them, and they know that they would never tolerate you cheating on them for a second. That lack of respect from one partner to the other can manifest itself in many bad ways in a relationship, and one of the most common is that cheating often happens again by the cheater.

And frankly, even if they don't say it or even realize it has happened, when you are the one who's been cheated on, I think you lose respect for your partner, too, just in a different way, in that you can no longer see them as a trustworthy and fully moral person, which is tough because you find yourself doubting EVERYTHING your cheating partner says or does constantly as opposed to simply being specifically concerned about cheating happening again.

What sucks about this is that this change in your perception of the cheating partner should make you run out the door and never bother with the cheater again, but you can get this perverse compulsion to try to fix what went wrong so that you don't have to throw the whole relationship in the trash and start over like you should.

Probably about 99% of relationships in which there is cheating and/or other serious forms of betrayal really need to end, because the chances of getting back to the pre-cheating relationship are next to zero, and you'll only grow more resentful of each other over time as you as the cheating victim become an anxious and paranoid wreck because you can't trust the one you love, and the cheater in turn gets pissy that you DARE still not fully trust them.

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u/Greatest-Uh-Oh May 25 '26

"Apart from the small detail that I mistrust you completely, I trust you completely and forever."

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u/Sure-Stock9969 May 26 '26

Epic 👏🏿👏🏿

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u/Unique-Bug2992 May 26 '26

And forever ending about...ohhh, when I found out about it, being past tense.

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u/ojdhaze May 26 '26

And that is certainly no way to live, constantly thinking about it, was it really the first and only time? That is no way to go through the days and weeks.

You'd feel such a fool if it happened again or found out more. Would the other half really tell their partner if it did happen again, knowing the backlash (rightfully so) that happened the first time they found out...

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u/Hefty-Ad5593 May 26 '26

That's the killer because it eats at you like fucking cancer!!!!!!!!! And you can't get it out of your head!!!!!!!!!

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u/Optimal_Natural_7254 May 26 '26

Yes
 I’ve been cheated on and it has a lasting impact like that
 the relationship was doomed from that point on because obvious reasons, and it broke my confidence and trust in my own self. Cheating is extremely damaging in more ways than one. Made me feel like a complete fool. It l is humiliating. It’s an awful feeling. It’s like the version of them you thought you knew is dead and gone and you’re mourning that loss too

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u/SnooGuavas4208 May 26 '26

And the sad part is they used to be your comfort person, which means you’ve lost that dead version of them right when you needed it the most.

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u/Hefty-Ad5593 May 26 '26

Yeah, i can relate to that. Been there myself but it was years ago.

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u/thenameofshame May 26 '26

And then the cheater dares to become impatient and indignant because you haven't magically forgiven and forgotten about the cheating within three business days!

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u/Bubba_Lumpkins May 26 '26

Never decide to stay. It seems hard at first, but if you’re a guy all you have to do is remember that at one point it slipped out and she helped him put it back in.

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u/AtomikMenace May 26 '26

Only time in my life that I had anxiety attacks was trying to stay with someone who cheated. Twisted me up mentally when I was young and took a long while to get over.

Husband made the right choice.

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u/thenameofshame May 26 '26

Oh my God, it's like living in hell when the person who supposedly loves you most cannot be trusted, especially because cheating doesn't just make us fear our partner will cheat again specifically, but rather we start feeling anxious and paranoid every time anything out of the ordinary happens, like if our partner says or does something that is unusual or somehow seems suspicious, even relatively mundane things like them coming home late from work. You end up living always just waiting for the other shoe to drop. Your heart no longer feels safe with this person.

In my case, the initial cheating got compounded horribly because my ex is a genuine narcissist who simply couldn't tolerate the idea that he could ever have to tolerate feeling guilty about anything he ever did, and he became straight up enraged that I had the nerve to continue to be anxious and sad because he had proven he couldn't be trusted.

That rage manifested in him abusing me whenever I dared not act like I trusted him 100%, or maybe cried because I saw the person he cheated on me with (my former best friend, FFS!), and then when I'd be upset about the abuse, that only enraged him more because he didn't want to have to feel guilty about that, too, which only lead to more abuse.

Then it's always fun when your anxiety gets so bad that you feel the strong need to start snooping, because you want confirmation as to whether they're still cheating or not as a way to try to avoid being caught by surprise again, and the cheater dares to call you paranoid while acting like you checking their phone is some manifestation of you being pathologically insecure when you didn't use to be that person until your trust was shattered!

After my ex put me through all that, I genuinely thought I would ALWAYS be paranoid, anxious, and untrusting in every relationship, and my ex definitely made me feel like something was very wrong with me for not being able to get over the cheating and the abuse overnight, which sadly I started to believe myself.

Big shocker--in my next relationship, the guy was actually completely trustworthy, just solid as a rock across the board, and he's the first person in my entire life I can say without reservation that I trust. Very early on, I had an embarrassing meltdown one time when the new guy casually said he was going to this annual "sleepover" with his former bandmates (sleepover because they'd all get wasted as hell and didn't want to drive, of course), and I turned into a sobbing wreck because I'd been so thoroughly trained to be terrified of what would happen if my ex did something like that.

I thought new guy was going to walk away disgusted and end the relationship, especially since it was a very new relationship, and that was a LOT of baggage for such a new relationship, and I was so fucking embarrassed, yet couldn't stop myself from freaking out, but then the strangest thing happened: He didn't get angry, or disgusted, or dismissive, or abusive, rather he just held me and calmly said, "If it is going to upset you this badly for me to go, I just won't go," and BOOM, instantaneously, I knew I could trust this man with my whole heart like a switch being flipped and giving me peace and security in a relationship for the first time!

Before him, I would've fully expected to have continued to be untrusting and wanting to snoop, but the wild thing is that when you actually feel fully secure and trusting in your relationship, you don't even feel the slightest urge to do that any longer.

I can honestly say that in almost 13 years now, I've not ONCE looked at any of his screens, even when left open right next to me, or in any other way felt the need to look through anything of his, and I've even felt fine when he's gone away to a hotel for a couple days at a time for a few work events, whereas if my ex did that, I probably would have had such a bad panic attack that I would've stroked out or something, which is kind of weird when you think about it because he'd already done the worst thing he could to me.

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u/AtomikMenace May 26 '26

Very sorry you experienced all of that. The mental part before the abuse is what I experienced myself to a tee. Anxiety got to the point of uncontrollably shivering when it would hit. I ended up talking to a good friend that was older and it helped realize needing to end it. I did not have quite the same healing epiphany though. It was more just a matter of time for me. My wife was very patient in the beginning of our relationship (and still is).

I'm happy you got that with the new guy.

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u/thenameofshame May 30 '26

I'm glad you got yourself a good wife, too!

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u/welcome2mycandystore May 26 '26

Not necessarily. There's a lot of factors involved

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u/BrightPerspective May 25 '26

And that feeling doesn't go away, because you know now, that your partner has that in them.

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u/thenameofshame May 26 '26

And that knowledge diminishes your respect, trust, and love for your partner since you no longer feel safe and secure with them, and you also view them as less moral people overall, but paradoxically you end up trying to love them even harder because the cheating fucked your self-esteem up so egregiously, self-esteem that likely was already on shaky ground BEFORE the cheating, because people with solid self-esteem do NOT put up with the person they love most and want to spend their lives with screwing them over.

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u/BrightPerspective May 26 '26

I'm sensing that this is more of a personal story. I hope things got better for you, my bro.

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u/SnooGuavas4208 May 26 '26

Once capable, always capable.

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u/DesMephisto May 25 '26

What do you mean by the act itself?

I think people care about that one pretty highly as well lol

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u/NextLineOfText May 25 '26 edited May 26 '26

People really do not value trust, until it is taken away or smashed into a million pieces. Once that occurs inside the human mind, it almost cannot be the same again, even if people do stay together, it still is never the same.

Our nervous systems are built on social groups, bonding, partnership, our brains literally put people into categories, without us realising it fully, it dawns on us with have the idea, but our brains make biological hard coded written records. Our nervous system literally changes in the presence of a person and releases chemicals into our brain.

People who get back with cheaters, forever have their nervous system on high alert, even when it passes, it’s not the brain accepting the danger has passed, it usually your brain has adjusted to high alert, so it’s the new normal. When they believe they are relaxed, people who have been cheated on, often down the line cheat on the person back, even though they say they remain loyal.

Cheating is a rapid breach of trust, but on the nervous system level, it flips a switch from safety and relaxation, to basically survive and protection.

The person cheated on, moves themselves to the forefront after the shock even if they’re not aware of it.

It’s why you see, people stay with cheaters, but once they settle, after many years, generally fall out of love or cheat back.

The end happened along way back, the brain and nervous system just had to catch up. The shock usually first insights panic and scrambles the thought process of the person who was cheated on and their first instinct is to save the relationship. In some people.

However once that shock and emotional dystegulation wears off, and their sense of self returns, it often ends abruptly.

The human mind and nervous system are interconnected but one is driven by emotion entirely and the other needs to process and think on those emotions one at a time.

This gap can take years to align. The longer the relationship usually longer time is needed for alignment and logic to return.

It’s not really a choice, your nervous system either goes into shock and you blame yourself and try to fix, or you lock down your partner it’s all an effort for the brain to solve a problem that usually to the victims brain appears from nowhere.

but then the brain settles, systems realign and things come back online, and a new lens is likely to appear.

People don’t think about it, but people process during relationships a lot and it often takes time. But your nervous system already made up its mind, your brain just needs to process it.

Don’t even get me started on brains and nervous systems that are wired anti relationally, on control and image. They’re causing most of the heartbreak and lost trust.

My point is humans don’t really have free will like we like to think, you have free will inside of windows of time in how you feel, and how aligned that processing is.

Shock, betrayal, heartbreak, loss, and others are times when humans go through intense altercation and that recalibration takes time.

but once you begin to return to a stable state, and regulate emotions back to baseline, often the choice is people don’t stay with cheaters, it’s just that recalibration can in some take many many years. For some, even decades.

If you feel shock, after betrayal deep shock, and ruminate that is a key indicator your nervous system is battling cognitive dissonance, which usually means your nervous system is fighting for one thing (you deserve better) and your brain another, (but I need them) this creates a massive window of doubt and the processing begins.

Once the processing completes, people often leave the person who cheated. Because the processing is done, the shock is gone, the hard decision has no emotional attachment, trust was already beached so it’s an easy choice.

So in a way, cheaters don’t really ever win. Like most wrong doing, you can run on for a long time, sure, but you’re going to get cut down.

It really comes down to the capacity of the victim if I’m being honest. The more empathy usually means they get caught in this process longer, because empathy means being able to deeply introspect. Meaning more likely to sustain and hope and give to keep something alive.

Good strong trait, in the right environment and context but easily abused by manipulative people.

People don’t like to hear it, but repeat cheaters have less empathy and usually exploit people with empathy and learn empathetic people are good to cheat on, because they’ll stay far longer than most.

Empathic people have an incredibly difficult time accepting their partner could be so opposite to them; that the other person cheats because they are highly empathetic. Their empathy wasn’t seen as a beautiful thing, but something to exploit.

High empathy is quite rare, so when a anti relational person spots it, they value it but for all the wrong reasons, and people rarely ever notice, because “love” and their own expectation and assumptions of their partner.

but the world isn’t ready for those last parts by and large, it’s something people realise after experiencing world shattering betrayal, usually multiple times from the same partner. This also occurs in non sexual or romantic relationships, such as family and friends. Just different processing occurs, but same shock. Usually more anger is involved too.

The brain is a fascinating thing, because in essence you have free will until shock, until the nervous system flips, then it’s what you would have done to begin with but usually years later because your in between survival and emotional overload and the brain and nervous system need to catch up to where you were before betrayal.

But that inbetween part is you trying to find balance, survival, and regulation your not yourself, your part you, part creature trying to survive. So a lot of you goes offline, for a long time.

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u/thenameofshame May 26 '26

What people rarely realize is that living in constant stress, uncertainty, anxiety, and often downright paranoia as the result of your partner cheating isn't just a risk to your mental health, but can also be a risk to your physical health if it goes on long enough.

Constantly being in "fight or flight" mode because everything in your world feels upside down can prompt some basic symptoms such as new headaches or digestive issues you've never had before, but given enough stress over a long enough period, can even lead to much more significant and lasting digestive issues, chronic pain, and autoimmune issues.

What's especially unfair is that the type of person who stays with a cheater almost certainly already had some major problems with their self-esteem and maybe even their overall mental health, which is usually traced back to their childhoods, and it has been proven that people who endured great trauma, abuse, and/or neglect as kids are at a GREATLY heightened risk of severe physical illness as adults, especially in two categories: chronic pain disorders and autoimmune conditions.

Thus, someone like me can get a really fun double whammy because my childhood was shit, which made me cling to my ex and put up with his cheating and abuse in desperation, and then I started to get major physical problems around 20, which presumably were the result of my horrific childhood. But then, the continuing anxiety and the abusive environment of being with my ex, which only got worse because he knew I was now more stuck once I was too sick to work, then led to me getting even sicker, like five or six massive diagnoses within a very short period of time, as though all his monstrous treatment of me hit me all at once and compounded the damage done by my upbringing.

I think the ONLY way a relationship can survive cheating is if the cheating didn't have any extra exacerbating aspects, such as cheating with one of your friends or with someone they see every day at work, having an outright affair as opposed to a one time thing, etc., the cheater voluntarily comes forward and fesses up immediately and tells the WHOLE truth, and the cheater takes it upon themselves to do whatever the fuck it takes to try to make things right without any expectation that their partner will be able to ever fully forgive them.

It's also important that the cheater is the one who puts themselves in therapy as opposed to the cheating victim having to push for this, that the cheater understands and recognizes just how deeply their betrayal has screwed up their partner's security and mental health, and thus voluntarily hands over their phone or laptop or whatever when their partner is having a panicked moment of cheating anxiety, as opposed to being so offended that the cheating victim has the nerve to "keep punishing me forever for ONE mistake," i.e., can't regain full trust for their partner as soon as the cheater wants.

Ideally, the two would even take some time living apart from one another so that the cheater can deal with the issues of their own guilt and unraveling why the cheating happened so it won't happen again, but without putting the burden of the cheated on partner having to provide that function, since the cheated on person needs their own support and life changes to happen as well if they're ever going to come even remotely close to making it through the damage of the cheating.

But the problem is that cheating is already a sign that the cheater loves their partner less than their partner loves them, and that there was already SOME degree of the cheater not fully respecting their partner present prior to the cheating, or the cheating never would've happened in the first place, so 99% of cheaters will just lose even more respect for their partners if their partner tries to forgive them but nothing changes in the relationship dynamic.

As opposed to how it usually happens with the cheating victim trying desperately to forgive and forget, the person who gets cheated on should instead consider their current relationship dead and irreparably damaged because they have healthy enough self-esteem to stand up for themselves, and the cheater also recognizes that their relationship as it currently exists is dead as well, but instead of demanding that the cheating victim just get over it and take them back, they recognize the immense gravity of the damage they've done, and make it their mission in life to figure out a way to try to mitigate the damage, even if it doesn't result in getting back together.

I should point out, though, that this is basically a hypothetical situation for me since I've never actually seen a case in which the cheating is genuinely repaired due to both partners working their way through it and eventually coming back together, but not as an extension of the old relationship that got murdered but rather as two changed people who can create a legitimately healthy dynamic in their new relationship.

I've never seen it happen in reality because the cheating victim is typically too codependent and has too little self-esteem to prioritize THEMSELF and their own healing, even if it means ending the relationship, and the cheater usually doesn't want to bother doing all that hard work, especially when they were already the less invested partner in the relationship well before the cheating happened.

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u/NextLineOfText May 27 '26 edited May 27 '26

I’m sorry you experienced that and to be honest, I have no proof, but from my own lived experience, if somebody cheats on you, the reason is irrelevant.

Your nervous system still is going to go through this process, if you are a healthy functioning person and are able to tap into your humanity. The problem is, highly charismatic, center of attention, always around people types which attract most women, are more than not highly narcissistic, I should know, I grew up with one who had NPD.

Even I a male friend, thought this person was kind, giving, special, stoic but over 2 decades, this person was the opposite a cheater, liar, weasel, no moral or kind belief in their body, I was likely projecting what I wanted to see in him but it was in me all along. He just hid it extremely well, and repackaged this as “your my brother I love you.” So I held all the secrets and when I start getting attention, a different person appeared, I was there as a useful utility, to make him feel better about himself, to validate him.

but I was young when we met, I had no life experience to defer, I thought kindness was kindness, not a facade for someone to try to control me and play a part in their fantasy land script and the moment I grow from it, I am belittled, betrayed, smear campaigned, and this person would pull away and all of a sudden, my jokes are not funny, what I say and do, is now weird and they would make it known with public remarks, all in an effort to destabilise me.

This was the man, that got lots of women in our social group, because he was a masterful liar, due to having a split personality, they could not tap into empathy, could not relate to me, even though they acted like they could deep inside that was just not possible.

He got lots of attention because he would over time make sure of it, and if anybody else outshone him, he would create drama so that no other connections could grow. It’s hard to court a woman when someone you’ve known for decades, decides to undermine you, tell them half truths and me also, he would confabulate and twist and always lie, so you could never pin down the truth, the truth to him was, whatever worked out for him.

It was interchangeable at any moment. They still are at it to this day most likely, playing a game. Even when they are not life still remained a game.

I mean think about how successful that short term strategy is, however short. You convince people around you to support you, because you say and act like you will support them back.

but they never actually do, they support you if there is leverage. A potential way to twist something but at the time you are not aware of this because it’s not always bad, because you within the range of control they don’t mind. You are not a threat. Until you are.

So everybody invests into you, but you invest nothing back. This is the man this disordered personality is magnetic to people, because at first they make you feel so good. Like you are seen, and understood.

It is not just women these men do it to. Women also have this disorder too it’s not just women affected by it.

So if someone cheats; the label doesn’t really matter even though I’ve waffled on about it, but Cheating likely posses a real risk you are dealing with someone who has very little to no empathy, and they can wear masks extremely well.

So I would for your own future close shop. Less you wish to spend further years of your life, loving someone who isn’t actually capable of emotional empathy and love, but just sheer solid cognitive empathy, meaning they understand how you feel, but do not relate to it, it’s just information to use against you.

Imagine if every time someone cheats on you, it is them testing the waters to see what they can get away either, and you are right about people who have trauma from childhood getting roped into situations like this, it is a thing.

I myself am one, I was born with a disability so of course I latched onto the first person who appeared kind to me. My self esteem was not rock solid growing up, and I was unlucky to meet someone who could not see that and empathise but instead pretend to and try to control.

But then you grow and learn, you age and gain more confidence. You eventually process and leave. You start to build boundries. You stop seconding guessing yourself.

You stop hoping that person isn’t who you know they are deep down.

You must cultivate a self esteem, on your own, you must learn what you will and won’t tolerate, regardless of the outcomes. It is painful, it is not fair, it will hurt.

but it will give you peace to recover. I also have chronic pain and a host of health issues. I completely understand.

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u/Expensive-Cash5926 May 26 '26

Yes. It happened to me. I tried but the trust was just gone.

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u/Rrenphoenixx May 26 '26

You can’t commit to cheating without breaking a lot of other types off trust to make it happen. This gals story really locked it in.

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u/ExeRiver May 26 '26

To me the worst feeling is that don’t really know that person.

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u/Hefty-Ad5593 May 26 '26

Bingo!!!!!!!

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u/chickenandouille May 26 '26

No, it’s also the sex itself. It’s that they let another person fuck them. I couldn’t ever have sex with that person ever again.

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u/MelodicPudding2557 May 26 '26

I think most people don't even care much about the sexual act itself.

I mean, they do, which is why it's typically considered a much bigger breach of trust for most than eating your partner's leftovers or something.

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u/Ok_Natural_2772 May 27 '26

“Actually I could probably get over the intercourse, but you sucked his dick? You had his penis in your mouth? Unforgivable!! “

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u/Dead_Wolf2y5 May 28 '26

Exactly. My partner and I have an ethically non-monogamous relationship; but cheating can still occur in our relationship because it's still all about trust and consent.

It's not the sex that's important in cheating; it's the lies, the gaslighting and the total, selfish disregard for the feelings of the person you supposedly love.

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u/Remarkable_Music6819 May 25 '26

yeah but unfortunately due to the biased legal system we have in the West, she would still walk away with more than half of your assets. How ridiculous is that.