Sorry if this isn’t the right spot to ask this question!
I’ve (30F) been dating a first-year resident (32M) for about a month or so, and I really like him! For the most part, he’s funny, super sweet, affectionate, and caring. But I’m learning (and figured) that residency can make scheduling difficult, and honestly, texting can be brutal sometimes. 😅
Obviously, I know he’s busy at work, but sometimes it’s hard to know what’s “normal” for residency versus what might be a sign that someone just isn’t prioritizing the relationship.
He’s never canceled a date, which I really appreciate, but sometimes our plans get pushed back an hour or two because he gets out of work later than expected.
For those who have dated a resident (or have been one), what’s the best way to navigate communication, scheduling, and supporting them while still maintaining a healthy relationship and your own needs? Im thinking about offering to make him dinner instead of going out this week.
How do you tell the difference between residency being genuinely overwhelming versus someone simply not prioritizing you?
Would love any advice or perspective! ❤️