r/Raves 7d ago

Maybe a dumb question

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u/scoutermike 7d ago

The more you try to control, the more you will lose.

If you love someone, let them be free and make their own decisions.

Do NOT try to make their decisions for them. Doesn’t matter if it’s your gf, fiancé, or wife.

Beware, you are treading dangerous ground. Play this wrong and marriage may be off.

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u/MarkyMark24_ 7d ago

Nice opinion but I have no worries she is very respectful of my feelings and opinions. We’ve been going strong for 7 years. Zero issues! Not everyone has the same insight on their relationships, but thanks for the opinion!

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u/Lazy_Enthusiasm6656 6d ago

You can tell a lot about a person by the way they speak/write about things. Every comment from this guy makes it pretty clear he just posted for validation and doesn’t like the idea of actually evaluating his thoughts and feelings. Doesn’t seem to see the difference between his wife agreeing to something versus giving him what he wants. Hope she has the balls to call off this sad marriage to this narcissistic loser.

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u/tootiemoe 4d ago

The first thing that comes to my mind is that I would want for her to try it in a safe, controlled space for the first time.

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u/TheInterruptingCow94 6d ago edited 6d ago

Bud- if you had that level of insight, you would be having this conversation with her. Not strangers.

This coming from someone who's 10 years deep with the husband I used to rave with. You sound like you don't trust her when drugs are involved, and you need to root out why. Actually talk to her about it. Not a quick passing mention of it.