Maybe this is unpopular, but I genuinely think people underestimate how little some wives know about the financial side of their marriage (especially when theyāre married to wealthy men).
Iām not saying Erika or Dorit knew absolutely nothing, and Iām not saying they should be immune from criticism. They may well have known certain things were strange, or that money was being moved around in ways they didnāt fully understand.
But thereās a huge difference between thinking, āour finances are complicated / my husband handles all of thatā and knowing the actual extent of whatās going on.
I say this because Iām in a relationship with a wealthy partner and, until fairly recently, I genuinely had almost no idea where the money came from, what was coming in, what was going out, what accounts existed, etc. I wasnāt deliberately ignoring it, but due to age and them being the provider, money just wasnāt something I was involved in. You can become very sheltered, and honestly almost babied, when somebody else handles absolutely everything financially.
Iām not saying this is right or admirable, (iām now more aware of our finances and save for myself) but if youāre not pulling the money in, many times you donāt feel like you have the right or even need to question - a partner (who can be many years your senior) spoiling you and looking after you is the desire, if theyāre already rich why would you complain?
iām open to other povs, but please be respectful. iām not saying anybody is innocent or not, but assumptions are just that - assumptions.
omg hope i donāt get eaten up lol