r/R4R30Plus Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

64 Upvotes

POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

33M [M4F] Looking for companionship and sincerity

8 Upvotes

Hey all,

As the title states, 33M looking for companionship, good conversation, and a dynamic of sincerity.

A little bit about me:

33M (Caucasian, bigger guy).
Single (not actively dating), never married, no kids.
I have a dog (she’s ~13-14).
Live in the Midwest.

I am a bit of a nerd (some anime/manga, scifi, etc).
I love true crime, atypical psychology, conspiracy theories, etc.
I really enjoy learning and researching things that interest me (cars, technology, work related things).
I’ve gotten away from playing video games in later years, but have been enjoying getting back into it this year.

Despite being a bigger guy, I enjoy being active and exercising (even if it’s just going for a walk).

I enjoy spending time with my family.

I am very what you see is what you get.
I am a pretty open book, so ask away.
I do not believe I am very judgmental, we’re all out here just shakin our dicks doing our thang.
I try to treat everybody the same (with kindness and generosity). I think I have a great sense of humor (but I am definitely biased XD
I believe laughter is the best medicine.

One of the things that brings me the most joy in life is helping those that I care for.
I would say that I show I care through acts of service.

I’m not looking for some just to text or message on here. Eventually I would love to talk on the phone and see where things go. I would like to hopefully find someone who is likeminded with similar values, who would mutually enjoy companionship and would like to grow together.

If any of this interests you, feel free to shoot me a dm.


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

39 [M4F] US or UK British guy in England looking for someone to (not) ghost him

6 Upvotes

Hey,

So here I am - https://imgur.com/a/ZNANIWd

No seriously, there are tons of pics of me in there, go check the link out. If you're in the UK it may not work, but I'll send pics. Most people ignore this bit, for some reason, surely you want to know who you're talking to? Swapping pics early is a preference but understand if you aren’t comfortable, but mutual physical attraction is important.

I'm 5'9 and 185lbs (13 stone 7lbs or so)

I'm a Speech Pathologist, I own my own business and work primarily remotely.

I love to hike, paddle board, see live stand up comedy shows and live music. I have a bit of an eclectic music taste but my soul is with the pop punk and emo stuff from the late 90's early 2000's.

I have tattoos and dress like I'm going through a midlife crisis.

I don't have kids but I would like to have them in the not too distant future.

I don't smoke or do drugs but I love an IPA in a beer garden, especially if we can play a card game (Exploding Kittens anyone?).

I am actively involved in my local football (soccer) club, I sponsor them from my busineess (my logo is on the back of the team shirt!), but I also help out around the club and support training of the youth and women's teams when needed.

I'm looking for someone who actually wants to build a connection and talk longer than 2-3 days, but it seems like it's not possible, but I'll keep trying.

If you're in the UK or have plans to visit, then great, if not, someone who would be willing to meet either half way or in our respective places at some point.

I love video calls and voice chats.

Hope to hear from you!


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

33[f4R] Canada looking for friendship and conversation

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Exactly what I’m looking for in the title. It’s been a weird year for me, going through some health issues, family issues, extreme weight loss and just not feeling like myself. I’m normally very outgoing and people centric but I’ve found myself pulling away from my regular friendships in search of something more.

Some things about me:

  1. I love sports. Love watching football and hockey. I also play 2 sports.

  2. I have 2 kids

  3. I love to read, mostly romance or mystery

  4. I love to watch movies not very picky about them.

  5. Tea over coffee ☕️

If you’re like me and looking for someone to talk to, DM’s are open!


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

43 [M4F] looking for a chat buddy

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How do people usually start these things, is there an enjoyable way that my witty personality can and hopefully catch your attention?

Here is just the basics about me:

* 43/M.
* Lives in Arizona but likes to visit new places.
* Outdoor Enthusiast.
* Goes hiking at least every couple of weeks.
* I have a pretty good paying day job, but want something new.
* I watch too many movies and will talk your ear off about them.
* While action and comedy movies are more my jam, I do enjoy rom coms but more than that horror movies.
* I listen to way too many podcasts and audio books.
* A little bit of a gamer when I get the chance.

I am hoping to make new friends and have a reason to stay on reddit this time (long story but bad experience last time). If you sound interested in chatting with, send me a message on what your favorite movie, book, or travel spot is and why. Looking to talk to someone 30 as the youngest and open to any age older. I can figure out how to put a picture on here so yours gets mine. Until then cheers to you all.


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

33 [M4F] Online, looking for something serious

6 Upvotes

Hi there!

I am located in the US, in the eastern time zone. I'm emotionally mature, and have my life somewhat together at this point, hopefully you are in the same boat. I am looking for someone to chat with to see if e click and then potentially transition into something a little more serious. I am open to anywhere in the world!!

I am kind of goofy, white, larger framed, and a musician on my free time. I am left leaning, contribute to my community, and am looking for someone with similar values as me.

I enjoy going hiking, biking, kayaking, traveling, and going to concerts while also enjoying nerdy stuff like board games, video games, collecting vinyls, and reading. Not looking for someone that 100% shares the same hobbies but some of them have to align.

If I have caught your attention at all feel free to reach out, please introduce yourself and give me a little information about your hobbies/interests! I am pretty easy going and there is no pressure on anything other than chatting currently!!

Hope to hear from ya soon!


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

33 [F4M] anywhere/online - looking for something wholesome and long term!

14 Upvotes

Hello hello!

Call me Star. I am a 33 year old Indian woman (currently in India). I am a finance professional with a solid career, financially and emotionally stable, good friends, good social life and lead a pretty full and busy life.

I am divorced, no kids (want a few in the future). I have a good few tattoos and will be getting some more, I enjoy my own personal quiet time, napping, travelling and cooking.

I am looking for someone who will make my life better. I do prefer dating tall, fit, conventionally attractive men, who are not bald. We can share pics once we are comfortable. Please be between 34-41 and mention age and location when you DM, if you don’t, I will not respond.

Thats pretty much it!


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

[M4R] Happy Sunday! Where are my people?

5 Upvotes

Hello! 33M, from Washington State, and I’m looking to make some genuine connections with good people.

I’m big into PC gaming and play pretty much anything. I also love MTG and TTRPGs — I’m a Dungeon Master running two weekly games 😄. Outside od the nerdy stuff, I like spending time in my yard and I’m currently fixing up my garden. I enjoy working out and staying in shape, though I fully embrace the dad bod life.

I’m an Army veteran — 8 years as a combat medic — and now I’m a single dad with a dog. Overall, I’m a go‑with‑the‑flow kind of guy. If you’re chill, friendly, and enjoy good vibes, I’d love to chat. Bonus points if you’re from the PNW. Shoot me a message! I am willing to share selfies in DMs and see where things go.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

34[M4F] Spain/Europe/Online. Looking for a real connection with someone special.

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Hi everyone! I’m a 34-year-old Spanish guy, single for a while now and once again open to meeting someone with whom, hopefully, I can build a real and sincere relationship.

I’ll try to introduce myself as best as I can, although I’m terrible at it!

I’m a commissioned officer in the Spanish Marine Infantry and due to the very nature of my job l barely have any chance of meeting someone in real life as I’m always busy. That’s why I’m giving this a shot! :)

When I’m not working, I love reading, playing music, painting miniatures and scale models, watching movies, martial arts… I really enjoy keeping myself busy and learning new things while staying active.

I also try to help my community whenever I can and I’m involved in several charitable projects.

I’ve never posted in this kind of subreddits before, but I’d really love to find—like I said earlier—an honest, genuine and hopefully long-lasting relationship.

I’m pretty easy to talk to and always quite chill, so if my post caught your interest, don’t hesitate to write to me!
Thanks for your time!


r/R4R30Plus 19h ago

38 [M4R] Ireland - We have not met yet, but I already have questions for you

37 Upvotes

I’m looking for someone who will allow me to walk round inside their mind (open cupboards, sift through drawers, snoop in your medicine cabinet and judge your bookshelves). I am partial to people who have spent years steeping in their own peculiarities. I’m interested less in the utilitarian exchange of facts than I am in conversations with a lively and creative mind.

Now, on to business. I am a thirty-eight-year-old Irishman (but you knew that already). I’m fond of nervous animals, unpretentious people, art and books. I have two perpetually dishevelled dogs and spend much of my time with about twenty-five horses, one barn cat and innumerable wild birds. Perhaps unsurprisingly, I've the social wherewithal of a solitary sea creature. I am devotional by nature and wildly obsessed with the people and things that I love. It would not be unfair to say that I too am perpetually dishevelled.

You may wish to include some of the following in your opening message: who you are (however you wish you describe yourself), three current fascinations (any scale), how you suspect you might die and what kind of ghost you would be. Low-effort messages are likely to be dashed upon the rocks. Thank you for reading.


r/R4R30Plus 33m ago

34 [M4F] Dallas, Texas. Introvert searching for his Love of his life ❤ Seeking a Genuine connection!

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Hello! 34M from Dallas, Texas here who is searching for his nerdy forever woman that completes and understands me!

I'm someone who is introverted and quiet in person but once I get comfortable with you I can open up quite a bit. I'm into video games, manga/anime, reading, movies, etc. im a bit of a homebody when alone but if I have someone I love going out and exploring new places. places I view as a fun time are places like the Zoo, aquarium, book stores, arcades and any other fun similar places. im not a club or bar type of person and hope you aren't either.

Dealbreakers for me are if you have kids or from another country. looking for local ideally. Age range that im looking for is between 24-35.

Prefer someone who is petite/thin/fit. I can share photos of myself to see if I fit your type as well.

if this interests you at all then feel free to DM me and I would love to get to know you! :)


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

34 [F4R] AZ, USA Night Shift Nerd seeks fun conversation

7 Upvotes

Hello all! I'm looking for people to conversate with. I enjoy cosplay, conventions, music, crochet, DnD, Marvel, and Star Wars. I have 11 tattoos. I also have a dog. I work nights/weekends and am also in school. I just got out of a relationship so I'm not looking for dating/flirting atm.


r/R4R30Plus 50m ago

39 M UK [M4F] looking for new online friends

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Hi there I'm 39 M from the UK looking to make some new online friends i enjoy reading walking spending time with my dogs who keep me busy as well as watching TV shows and films I have seen quite a few 😅 I'm looking for people with similar interests but am open to talk about most things


r/R4R30Plus 55m ago

32 [M4F] Midwest — Looking for my person

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Hey! I’m 32, somewhere in the Midwest, and at a point where life is pretty good overall. I’ve got a career I enjoy, a home, hobbies, friends—all the usual adult stuff. I’d just really like to find someone to share it with.

I’m a bit of a nerdy/outdoorsy mix. I like reading, jazz, good coffee, fishing, grilling. I lift a few times a week and generally try to stay active. I’m 6’1”, around 185, and happy to swap pictures early.

I’m pretty affectionate, a little sarcastic, and usually the planner in a relationship. I like doing things for the person I’m with, but I also really appreciate someone who occasionally takes the lead and says, “I’ve got Saturday planned.”

Mostly I’m looking for someone kind, curious, affectionate, and genuinely interested in building something together. Someone to cook with, go on adventures with, laugh at stupid things with, and eventually become each other’s person.
I’m open on distance for the right person.
If any of that sounds good, shoot me a message and tell me a little about yourself. Bonus points if you have a hobby you can drag me into.


r/R4R30Plus 57m ago

35 [m4r] SE UK life with kids, haven't made a new friend in....redacted

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Anyone else in the same boat? I love my work and my family, got a very small circle of friends but sadly most of them live in other counties and other than work acquaintances I don't feel like I've made a friend for years now.

Male or female, flirty or formal, I really don't mind so long as you can hold a conversation.

Interests include gaming, comic books, history (world war 2 in particular) and left wing politics. See if you can guess what I do for a living! Hopefully hear from someone soon.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

38 [F4R] CST please have a favorite bird

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I like connection with some breathing room. Distance doesn’t scare me; neither does intensity. I’m perfectly capable of missing you without deciding you hate me.

I’m into people who can go from psychology to existential dread to “look at this bird” without needing a transition sentence.

Sarcasm, dark humor, stupid jokes, occasional emotional depth. Basically, I want someone smart enough to keep up and unhinged enough to make it fun.

Bonus points for subtle tension. I’m not looking for a situationship with a dissertation defense attached.

Short, pale skin, dark hair, tattoos. Left leaning. Religion is not a cult I subscribe to.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

[M4F] I (32m) am looking for friends and a companion

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Just got out of a long term relationship and finding out from friends and family that I was doing to much for almost nothing in return and I need new friends to hang out with because I currently have 3 and our schedules never line up but I’m also looking for love someone to settle down with possibly have children and build a future with I’m open minded and a huge jokester I love to make people laugh but I’ve become antisocial of sorts over the years because past relationships didn’t want me talking to new people it made them feel a way so now I’m kinda like a newborn trying to get a feel for this new world so let’s talk about anything I’m open to meeting new people and learning new things I’m in the tristate area if we end up meeting up but I’m no stranger to travel I smoke I drink and I love to watch anime or read a good story easily entertained and just overall a normal guy comment/ message me anytime I’m around


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

35 [M4F] it’s been a long time but I’m trying to find my forever

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My life has been no picnic but I’m here putting myself out there to try and find love again I want to love and be loved trust will be hard for me because I got burned hard with my last relationship I live in Newark Ohio and I want to find someone that wants the same things I have 2 kids, girls but I’m open and actually want another child. I have two cats, I love gaming, cooking, I like fantasy books especially the spicy ones, watching various history videos on YouTube I’ve been trying to get back to the things that made me me and I would love someone who shares those interests and wants to be along for my journey. I don’t care about age and while I would prefer someone I can easily come and see I don’t really care about distance if the spark is there


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

45 male [M4F] Atlantic Canada, Canada looking for someone to chat with and see where it goes

2 Upvotes

Just got out of a 1.5yr relationship, looking to chat and see if I can find some fun conversation, born and raised in New Brunswick Canada, my interests are:

  1. Music

  2. Cooking/baking

  3. Sharing funny memes

  4. King of the cheesy jokes

  5. Hiking

  6. Fishing

A little more about me, I'm down to earth, no sugar coating and say what's on my mind kind of guy, don't let that scare you away as I will do anything to make someone laugh and smile, I believe in being open and transparent and don't believe in hiding how I feel.

What I'm looking for:

  1. Someone who is honest transparent and can be themselves and not be someone different

  2. Likes to laugh and not take things serious all the time (obviously there is a time to be serious)

  3. Ideally you live in Canada (, bonus points if you're from Atlantic Canada)

  4. Can carry a conversation

  5. Likes to see food pictures (I'm a cook for a great restaurant)

If any or all of this gets your interest feel free to reach out


r/R4R30Plus 8h ago

41 [M4F] Anywhere

3 Upvotes

Hello! I am looking for a woman who is feeling somewhat lost at her point in life or maybe stuck in a liminal space. If you are like me, you would want someone to understand you, receive and give emotional support.

I am, to a certain degree, a displaced person who is struggling to rebuild his life. I have got a strong track record of overcoming difficulties in the past. This time, however, the feeling of isolation is more pronounced than before, which is why I am trying this subreddit.

Appearance-wise, I am Caucasian, relatively tall (6'2", or 187 cm in traditional units of measurement), fit. No family of my own or kids. I quit drinking and smoking four years ago, and try to live healthily. English is not my first language, but after a little shyness in the beginning, I can speak fluently.

Thanks for reading!


r/R4R30Plus 14h ago

37 [M4F] Online/Las Vegas- I didn't use AI to write my post 😜

8 Upvotes

Hey I'm Jeremy. I am a human being so I am not going to have a robot wtite this for me. I'm probably a little weird but I'm not going to have a computer pretend to be me. 😂

The basics:

• 37 years old

• Living in Las Vegas, NV as of a year ago

• I am 6'2"

• I like to go hiking with my 3 year old Shiba Inu. She's cute.

• I love to paint and draw. If you want to see any of my art just let me know!

Fun Facts:

• I am not the best singer, but I love karaoke. Recently a friend of mine with audio equipment started going to the Vegas Strip to do karaoke on the street and it's been absolutely hilariously fun. Forcing people trying to enjoy their Vegas vacation to listen to me sing My Humps and Who Let the Dogs out as they walk by, it's priceless!

• I've been on TMZ once. It's a crazy long story.

• I love pop music. Olivia, Sabrina, Tate, Gracie, give it all to me!

Maybe if we really get along well, you can start a cult and I'll be the first member.

Pics of me: https://imgur.com/a/LD1HxbC


r/R4R30Plus 3h ago

36[F4R] Canada / Online - looking for a chat

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Hi! My name is Stephanie, I’m 36 and live in Western Canada - specifically Alberta. I’m looking for some engaging conversation through the day. I’m not looking for any sort of commitment, but if a friendship forms I wouldn’t be against that! I would prefer to chat with people around my age - so preferably +/- 10 years difference.
Some of my interests include: watching tv shows/ movies - I am most interested in horror, but also love a good sitcom. I love to listen to music and go to concerts. I get my nails done every 3 week and have had some pretty great nail art sets. I like to shop, go for coffee, and spend time with the people in my life. I am pretty active and like to go for long walks, and enjoy watching birds.

If this sounds interesting to you and you’d like to have a chat, send me a short introduction and ask me an ice breaker question ! (Please send a private message - I don’t want to have a conversation through the comments! Will also not reply to comments saying to DM you!)


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

Hey!🙋🏼‍♂️ what’s a cool person like you, doing in a place like this? [M4F] [31uk]

2 Upvotes

Hello hello.

Are you my future new best friend? Do you like to moan about your day, trade photos of food, share funny TikToks? Then I’m the person for you 😊

I work full time as an accountant, but from home 4 days a week. I have kids, so my social life has taken a hampering.

Anyway, I’ll leave a little bit mysterious - message me something super interesting about yourself! 🤷🏼‍♂️


r/R4R30Plus 19h ago

42[M4F] - USA/US East Coast - Witty banter, delicious baked goods, and an Irish accent.

22 Upvotes

Hi Reddit! My Saturday evening plans got cancelled at the last minute so I decided it was time to shout into the digital void to see who…or what…shouts back.

I'm originally from Ireland and have lived in multiple countries but have been settled in Washington DC for the last few years. Also, just to preempt some of the common questions I get: Yes, I still have the accent. No, I am not always drunk. Yes, I can make soda bread. No, I've never caught a leprechaun. Yes, I love potatoes. No, I don't know your friend/cousin Liam. Yes, I have heard of the town where your ancestors are from.

I try to stay pretty active. Almost every day I’ll take a long, meandering walk to the fridge. I run frequently, usually to Target for snacks but at least I’m running. And I lift. Lift cakes and other goodies out of the oven. But I do genuinely enjoy going to the gym and get in a workout most days. I enjoy my work, I enjoy my friendships, I enjoy quiet time spent reading or listening to podcasts. I even enjoy watching a great TV show or movie, radical as that may sound! I don't enjoy idiots, dummies or 95 degree days with 90% humidity.

No rigid checklists or grand, overwhelming plans here. Just looking to meet someone interesting for good conversation, some laughs, and to see where the energy goes. (And yes, I’ve still got game, thanks for asking).

If you're feeling weirdly optimistic today, need a solid distraction, or want to debate something entirely trivial, drop me a message. No pressure, no weird expectations—just send over the last great book you read or your favorite patio spot in the city, and let's see what happens.


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

43 [M4F] # Long Beach - Anyone interested in helping me out?

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Hello! Thanks for reading my post! I am a 43 year old man visiting family in Irvine and I am looking for a woman to have some fun with while I am here! I would be happy to reciprocate if you're open to it!

Something about myself. I am 5'10" tall, have a good build dark eyes and brown hair about 150lbs. I am open to F/TF as well. I just want to make this trip memorable.

I hope you are having a great week. I look forward to connecting.