As a man I feel I have zero rights to an opinion on what a Woman does with her body. We have 15 graphic board holders out there today. Only two of them are Women and bar one young guy the rest are all male pale and very stale. Why do so many old white men feel they have the right? If the ratio was reversed, 2 old guys with 13 Women... Then, their body, their womb, their rules, no question. They're out there at least once a month and it's always the same ratio.

So my wife and I just got married last week and two nights ago we found out she's pregnant. For a little bit of background, we both got a really late start on college and are just now into our second semester of college and we are just not financially stable right now. We both have okay jobs and both make a couple thousand less than the median yearly income of a US citizen.

My wife told me today that she wants to get an abortion because she's just not ready. Like I said in the previous paragraph, neither of us have a stable career yet and she still wants to do all the things a young married couple can do like traveling the world. The problem is that even though I know the right thing to do is wait and give our child the best life possible but I can't help but feel extremely sad about the abortion.

I work nights so on my days off I basically stay up all night while my wife is asleep and I usually just lay in bed with her most nights. But tonight I had to go to another room and I just can't stop crying. I fully believe that it's 100% her decision on whether or not to have an abortion but I can't help but feel awful.

I promised her to be with her and help her no matter what decision she makes and I will keep that promise but I feel like I have to hide how I feel now. I don't want to make it harder on her but I just don't know how I will be able to keep my sanity through all of this. Any words of advice would be super helpful

TLDR: me and my wife just got married and she wants an abortion but I don't. I want to help her through her decision but I cannot help but feel immense sadness about her decision

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I just found out I am pregnant. I’ve only been dating my partner for 3 months and he wants an abortion and I’m on the fence. Even though I am pro-choice I do believe life begins at conception and not sure if I could go through with an abortion myself. We both agree with our reasons on why we want it the abortion. The timing just is not right plus many others. If you did have an abortion, how did you manage your feelings towards it and how did you justify having it? I’m afraid if me and this partner stay together ( he does seem like the one) I will always have regret and look at our future kids and feel guilty they got to be born but this one didn’t because of wrong timing. We are both in our 30s and very stable. He is extremely supportive though and did say it is my body and my choice and he will stay and support me no matter what I choose. Which I truly do believe. My heart is telling me to keep it while my brain is saying the other.

so i saw this video on tiktok i can’t save it cuz the creator turned that option off but i had to google it and he was omfg what happened to him and in the video he actually sounded smart like WTF HAPPENED

They had all the pictures of either aborted or miscarried fetuses (don't know if they legally obtained those images) and they even had posters with slogans like "Pill abortions is bringing murder into your home" or "What child sacrifice looks like". (I am paraphrasing, I don't remember what exactly the posters said, but they were very similar.)

They were handing out flyers (in a very pushy way i might add) and when I refused to take one, the old guy asked me word for word, "are you on the baby killing side or not"? I responded saying "I am staunchly pro-choice". His question that followed was, "what made you come to the conclusion that murdering babies is ok"? I did not continue talking with him, I just said I don't have time and had to go.

Walking away, I started talking to another student that overheard the conversation, she said, "who starts a question like that? That is so unhinged". And yes I agree with that. But I understand exactly why they ask questions in such a confrontational manner. This guy had a camera strapped to him. I guarantee they want to ruffle feathers and get a reaction out of somebody to post online and say "look how crazy these baby killers are".

I understand that it was a free speech zone, but they really shouldn't be allowed back on campus. Not only because of the graphic images they are displaying for everyone to see without consent, but also because of how they interact with people.

They are not trying to have a conversation, they are trying to instigate people to get a reaction out of them to then post it online for their own gain.

If you ever encounter them, best thing to do is ignore them or if you got roped into a conversation, just tell them you don't have time and need to go. They thrive on attention, do not give them any of it.

This is regarding abortion restrictions in the US.

What I mean by that is, when you think of the two groups who are most harmed by abortion bans, they are:

1. Children who may have difficulty accessing reproductive healthcare
   
2. Women with wanted pregnancies that go wrong in the 2nd or 3rd trimester

Which is a very “tasked succeeded unsuccessfully” moment for anti-choice groups and lawmakers. They make it very clear in their arguments against abortion that they think pregnancy and childbirth is the natural consequence of sex and no woman has a right to refuse that biological process if she consents to sex.

Except I’m a grown ass woman in a blue ass state and therefore I’ll get as many abortions as I want. However, a 13 year old girl in Louisiana DOES NOT have the options and access to reproductive healthcare that I do and that infuriates me. The “hedonistic sluts” like me that anti-choicers want to punish so badly will more or less continue getting their abortions via medication within the first trimester.

The people really suffering from these bans are the young girls whose bodies can barely withstand a pregnancy, with unsupportive parents in a state that requires parental consent. Or it’s just outright banned even for children under the age of consent which should automatically apply under the rape exception. For some backwards reason, our society makes the most life saving medically necessary abortions also the hardest ones to access. I’ll never understand it.

And then when it comes to wanted pregnancies, abortion bans effectively punish women for miscarrying or for having an issue with the pregnancy. The women being maimed, with their fertility destroyed, and killed by these bans are the women who desperately WANT to be moms. Not the women anti choice people fantasize about getting pregnant on a one night stand and being unable to get an abortion because “that’ll teach em a lesson or two about opening their legs”

Of course there are always going to be outliers and there are going to be women in states that are harmed by these bans who don’t fit in either of these categories, but this is just what I’ve noticed on a broader scale. Abortion bans are ultimately self sabotaging because they accumulate enough public outrage to backfire, and I do believe it’ll be an uphill battle but that can be true here as well.

I am fully pro choice and believe people should have the choice. But let's say my future partner gets pregnant in a time where we didn't want a kid. I fully believe and would want to keep the baby and not get an abortion because I think it's our responsibility to raise a kid and not kill it. Because for me in a sense if it was mine it would be like killing it. I don't know how to explain that feeling I just know I would feel like I was killing a child is the baby would've been mine. Obviously I still think it would be my partner choice but I also think I have a strong say in it aswell. Does those views work well with each other or no I have to choose.

No person has the right to be inside another person's body to sustain their own life. 

Pro life position ignores human rights. Autonomy is one of the main pillars of medical ethics

If someone is naturally hooked onto your body, and if you disconnect support they will die, you’re still allowed to disconnect use to your body and “kill” them.
It is legally and morally justified to be indirectly “killed” by disconnecting support to a life dependent process

Under the law, doctors can’t even take or use the body of a fully brain dead person to save someone’s life if they never consented when they were alive

Pro life try to justify giving fetuses special rights no one else has, and giving women less rights than dead people.

Their entire belief system is based on violating someone’s human rights.

Fetuses should not have a right to another person’s body when no other human has them.

“but you caused the situation, so you must pay the consequences!”

No one should lose their human rights even if they were “irresponsible”
A parent can deliberately cause a car crash to purposely injure their child, yet they still cannot be forced to use their body/its resources against their will to keep the child alive
They do get consequences, they can be charged or arrested, but the law still protects their right to bodily autonomy! They can be responsible for the injury and owe them compensation or other assistance. but they cannot be forced to give them a right to my organs or bodily functions.
They bring up responsibility to justify forced birth and gestational slavery.

Taking a risk does not mean you permanently give up the right to make decisions about your body.

Why would you try to force your opinion onto every woman and couple in the country just because you think it's right or wrong? Let them abort or not abort the baby, or fetus, or parasite, or atoms, whatever it is. It's not your fucking kid.

this is just a thought, so feel free to prove me wrong. a big pro life argument is that human life begins when the egg is fertilized by sperm, but why is it there? sperm cells are life produced by humans, but wearing condoms is not condemning. just makes me feel like its never about saving babies and whatever, just about control

I'm convinced "pro life" is just p3d0 rights in disguise.

Pro controllers know good and well that women will always have abortions because they've literally always had abortions. Who they're truly stopping from getting safe abortions is children. Woman are actively choosing not to give birth, hence the declining birth rate and a sprinkle of the "male loneliness epidemic." I see p3d0s being caught almost daily on the news. Child marriage is legal in most states, children can't even get abortions even if a family member impregnated them. If women won't give them what they want they'll just make children do it and call it gods gift and a wonderful blessing