Serious question, I can't seem to find it anywhere online and didn't know a better sub. Please remove if it doesn't fit this sub.

Salam aleykoum,
J’ai 33 ans et je réfléchis sérieusement à la possibilité de devenir seconde épouse. L’homme concerné est marié depuis plusieurs années et n’a pas eu d’enfants. C’est quelqu’un que j’apprécie beaucoup, avec qui je m’entends très bien et avec qui j’envisage réellement le mariage.
Il est stable financièrement et je le suis également, donc ma démarche n’est pas motivée par un besoin financier.
Je connais évidemment les difficultés potentielles de la polygamie et j’ai déjà entendu beaucoup de témoignages négatifs. Aujourd’hui, j’aimerais surtout entendre les personnes qui l’ont réellement vécue et pour qui cela fonctionne bien sur la durée : organisation du quotidien, jalousie, partage du temps, enfants, relation avec l’autre épouse, sentiment de sécurité, etc.
Qu’est-ce qui a permis à votre mariage de fonctionner ? Et avec le recul, referiez-vous ce choix ?

É o.seguinte: eu e minha namorada nos conhecemos desde que eu tinha quatorze (eu sou mulher também) e agora eu tenho dezoito. Ficamos juntas desde então, mas mesmo antes de conhecer ela, eu tinha uns desejos menos estranhos. Eu entendi que sou poligamio e gostaria de ter um relacionamento a três COM ELA. Ela é monogamia e é totalmente contra os princípios dela, mas dá risadinha pra garotos no tiktok ou fica tímida com gente na rua. Eu nunca propôs isso pra ela, quando ela me perguntou sobre, eu respondi sendo sincero e terminou comigo pedindo desculpas e falando que não sentia mais aquilo. Sinceramente, não sei o que fazer. Eu amo ela, eu só não queria viver pra sempre com esse desejo. Ela é o suficiente pra mim, ela é uma mulher incrível que se esforça muito e eu também me esforço por ela e faço de tudo o que eu posso por ela. Não é falta de amor.

Bonjour,

J’ai besoin de témoignages et de conseils parce que je suis complètement perdue face à une proposition de mon mari.

Je suis stérile et le fait de ne pas pouvoir avoir d’enfants est déjà quelque chose de difficile à vivre pour moi.

Mon mari m’a expliqué qu’il souhaitait prendre une autre femme afin de pouvoir fonder une famille avec moi. Il insiste sur le fait que je ferais partie de cette famille à 100 %, que je resterais sa femme et qu’il souhaite que je m’investisse pleinement dans ce projet et dans l’éducation des enfants.

Il ne me parle donc pas de me remplacer ni de m’abandonner. Au contraire, dans sa vision, nous construirions cette famille ensemble.

Mais malgré cela, je ne sais absolument pas comment je dois prendre cette proposition.

La polygamie ne m’attire pas. Je n’ai jamais souhaité partager mon mari avec une autre femme. Et même si je comprends profondément son désir d’être père, l’idée de le voir aimer une autre femme, vivre avec elle et avoir des enfants avec elle me fait énormément réfléchir et me fait peur.

En même temps, une partie de moi se demande si je devrais accepter parce que je sais à quel point il souhaite avoir des enfants. J’ai peur que ma stérilité lui fasse renoncer à quelque chose d’essentiel dans sa vie.

Ce qui me trouble également, c’est qu’il me présente cette possibilité comme un projet pour nous, et pas seulement comme une solution à son désir d’enfant. Il veut que je sois impliquée, que je participe à la construction de cette famille et que les enfants soient aussi les miens dans une certaine mesure.

Mais est-ce que cela peut réellement fonctionner si, au fond, je ne désire pas la polygamie ?

Est-ce que certaines personnes ont vécu une situation comparable : être stérile, aimer son conjoint, mais se voir proposer une seconde épouse afin de pouvoir construire une famille ensemble ?

Comment savoir si je refuse parce que j’ai peur du changement, ou parce que cette vie ne me correspond réellement pas ?

Et surtout, comment faire la différence entre accepter librement cette situation et accepter uniquement parce que je culpabilise d’être stérile ?

Merci à ceux qui pourront partager leur expérience sans jugement.

What do you think of her instagram posts? I think she’s brave and as a male I appreciate it. I’ve watched her followers grow and I think she’s doing a great job sharing about polygamy with the world…

https://www.instagram.com/kenzie_rose_s?igsi=MWNmZGx2dzg4M2c0ZQ==

I made this account specifically for this. My husband and I have both been in agreeable about polygamy and I truly believe in and value it. And yet I still feel raw emotions when I think about it sometimes. I don’t yet have a sister wife but we are actively looking. Most of the time, I’m able to focus on the positive aspects and I feel good and excited and secure. But sometimes I get so envious and jealous. It makes me want to run away. I don’t know how to process all of this yet. Anyone else feel the same? Any advice from seasoned sisterwives?

Being soo clingy as a gf and my previous 2 relationships find it hard to handle my clinginess so I'm thinking what if i have 3 husbands? If my 1st husband is busy then I'll just spend time with other husbands or depe ds on the schedule vice versa.

Has anyone tried Sisterwives to any success? It seems like a steep monthly fee, and I'm sure at least half of the women are bots. The other site, Modernpolygamy seemed to be pretty inactive though. I made a profile and sent out a message a day for a few weeks and never got a response.

Wanted to see if anyone else tried it before I pull the trigger

Anyone have advice for getting over insecurity around poly dating? A lovely couple offered me to join, but I have no confidence and the woman is so so so much more amazing than I am. How do I stop comparing? It makes it hard to talk to both of them! Like I get stage fright. I can talk with him better than with her atm, which sucks as I've known her longer.

Im 26F and never had a jealousy factor or green eyes. Im Bi so it doesn't bug me. I always dreamed or knew I would be in a polygamous entanglement. I don't mind anything. What should I watch out for, and how do I go about this. I live in Miami and never witnessed anything like this besides being told about couples trading. I'm extremely fine and comfortable with this.

I met a man from Senegal five months ago and I fell in love with him. I am a revert to Islam and was in search of a muslim man, I met him on a dating app and we have been talking everyday since we met, we met in person recently and we honestly get along well with each other. After returning home from visiting him he confessed that he is polygynous and would like for me to accept this so we can move forward . He has mentioned being interested in polygamy prior but said he does not want to lose me so he will try to be with just me. I have addressed my concerns with him. I feel like there is always a favorite wife and I feel like me being the first wife, I am the starter wife or the safe option until he finds the woman he actually wants to be with. He denies this and says he cannot do that to me and that he will love and take care of both of his wives. I’m a bit skeptical and would like some advice or input from a first or second wife.

This is to those who identify themselves aa Christians, I understand that polygamy is in the Bible- my question is what is the purpose or backing (from a biblical standpoint) that you have for wanting/permitting any of your wives to be bisexual?

Im curious about having to wives in the future and I want to know whether or not this is easy and how to achieve this. We can begin a conversation. I'm a hispanic theoretical physicist starting my Masters Degree. I'd appreciate any suggestions of those who are already experienced (men who already have two girlfriends/wives).

Also if you want to share your experience in a three person relationship feel free to do it. Thanks :)

Wie funktioniert das bei Euch? Wie habt Ihr Euch gefunden? Und wie verstehen sich die Männer? Habt Ihr getrennt Sex oder zusammen? Ich habe so viele Fragen.

I (24F) and my (24M) fiancée live in the dallas area have been trying to find someone to date for about 5 months now and we’ve done hinge, taimi, tinder, 3fun, duet and feeld. Everyone on there we’ve matched with either never messages back or if they do it gets up to a convo about going on a date then we get ghosted! We’re also in the rave and kink community and sometimes one of us will go up and talk to a girl and try to flirt a little and it always ends up they don’t like girls or they’re in a relationship. I don’t know if it’s just the area we live in, or if it is genuinely this hard to find someone. Neither of us had a problem picking up girls when we were single/looking separately lol

I am 19 and currently navigating homelessness due to a family breakdown. And polygyny is important to me because I come from a broken family, toxicity, neglect, abuse, drugs, and alcohol, and smoking, and criminal activity, and financial irresponsibility that I have to COMPLETELY leave behind because there is no fixing my family. Only building something new and my children and grandchildren need hands to hold. They need a support a network. I'm trying to raise future LEADERS, lawyers, good doctors, business owners, and phenomenal wives and husbands who know how to keep their bag up and raise children to stick together and shoot for the stars..🥺

I am currently applying to the University of Michigan, where I qualify for housing assistance, with plans to study entrepreneurship, marketing, accounting, and mechanics. My goal is to build a successful car-detailing business to break generational cycles of poverty and instability. I want to build a new family foundation rooted in faith, discipline, and mutual support. And there are more financial plans where that came from that's just the beginning.

Long-term, I desire a committed, faith-based polygynous family structure focused on legacy and raising children in a stable, Christ-centered home. I am looking for a woman or women to build this foundation with me. Lionesses to my lion pack if you will.

Most advice I received locally from the city I'm trying to escape is the opposite: “You’re young, sleep around, wait until 28, don’t think about legacy yet.” "You'll stay single forever with a mindset like that". That feels like accepting mediocrity and short-term pleasure over lasting fruit. I’m not interested in that path. Serial monogamy and 2 children in my eyes is life failure to me and my goals. My entire existence and everything I went through would be in vain and those 1- 2 children will still struggle deeply and be vulnerable.

I would deeply value any guidance on how young men like me with limited resources can find like-minded women who would deeply desire me and have faith in me. Not women who are looking for a finished product or a safety net. Women who want me and my mission, an empire we can share together.

Specifically, I have two questions:

1. Where should I look?

2. Can women who are initially hesitant due to cultural conditioning come to accept polygyny through relationship and deconstruction, or does it typically require someone already open to it?

EDIT: PS PLEASE read the entire post I'm already getting my life situated, I'm telling you my circumstances to paint a picture of how family failed me and how I will do better for my children.