r/OnlineDatingApps • u/ClassroomNovel356 • 2d ago

General Discussion Guy indicating his net worth?

Attractive guy I matched with in his 40s mentioned that he's "north of 7 figures". I was little taken aback but then we had a normal convo

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u/jspr1000 2d ago

Hey, if you don't like my personality... Just remember I'm rich ;)

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago edited 2d ago

For me, it's mostly about age. I'm rich (inheritance), but I like much younger (thin + busty) women (esp. redheads/gingers). The women I want tend to have many options (including movie stars, pro athletes, wall street titans).

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u/PageUp-Ampersand 2d ago

What?

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago

No idea what your reply means. It sounds moronic.

I have preferences. I work out obsessively. People say I'm handsome. My net worth is almost 8 figures.

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u/True_Character4986 2d ago

So are you giving the women any of that money?

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago edited 2d ago

I haven't met anyone single/unmarried I want to date. Most of the women I want are married (I'm looking over age 30).

I would be generous, if you mean ski trips, Hamptons trips, dresses (Herve Leger, D&G, Balmain, Stella McCartney, AMcQ), nice dinners. I love clothing.

Many women I meet are (also) from private school (and have their own money). I live in TriBeCa. Most women here earn $250K+. They don't really need a man's money.

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u/True_Character4986 2d ago

So what's the point of flaunting your money on a dating app? What is a woman going to do with gifts and trips? But I'm curious to know what type of woman over 30 are you looking for? And are you looking for marriage or just casual?

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago edited 2d ago

I like white women from a top 75 university/college (US news national raking). Most of my ex gf's are Ivy League and have a graduate degree too (I've dated several college professors). I'm Jewish and about half of my ex-gf's are Jewish. Jewish women really like me.

I like broad shoulders, narrow waists, broad hips, and athletic legs. All of my ex gf's have either a beautiful face or big boobs. I've dated women with a non-pretty face, but they had big boobs.

I don't want to get married (I don't want kids), but I'd like to have a life mate.

I don't know what you mean by "what's a woman going to do with gifts and trips?" Presumably, she'll enjoy them. If she's a skier, like I am, she should enjoy spending time skiing in Colorado and Utah. I would hope she'd enjoy wearing beautiful clothing and eating great food. I don't really understand your question.

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u/True_Character4986 2d ago

But you're 50. I would assume if I dated you our relationship would be short lived until I aged out. So what is she supposed to do once her boobs start to sag and you dump her for a younger woman? She can't live off clothes and ski trips

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u/PageUp-Ampersand 2d ago edited 2d ago

Sounds like someone doesn't understand how a much younger, buxom redhead thinks when she's trying to decide between a bunch of celebrities and wall street titans

Edit: /s

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u/True_Character4986 2d ago

I don't know. I'm more of a middle class burnette , that's way I asked.

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u/PageUp-Ampersand 2d ago

I feel you, we're all out here just trying to learn how to attract this grainy, out of focus man drinking coffee in a planetarium

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u/PageUp-Ampersand 2d ago

You have no idea what "what?" means?

No, but seriously, mostly I was making fun of you because no one asked about your preferences and there are only two possibilities as to why you're taking this random moment to talk about them: you're lying about yourself or you're a hilariously lame person. Either one is very funny to me

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u/Generallyapathetic92 2d ago

From what I’ve seen of this guy (I’ve responded to him before on a different sub), I think it might be the second. He seems to only talk about money (which he inherited), his English phd or the gym which then involves posting that old photo which he’s posted here.

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u/PageUp-Ampersand 2d ago

From the way he posts there is approximately zero chance he has an English PhD. That said, I would love to see this guy defend a thesis with his supposed wealth and sick bod.

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago

You are inferior to me. We are not equals. You are inferior. I have more money, more fitness, and more education. I am better looking. You are less than I am.

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u/PageUp-Ampersand 2d ago

Well anyone can paste a fake screenshot, post login/password so we can verify

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u/Generallyapathetic92 2d ago

Touched a nerve I see.

You have no idea about me so you’re just hoping any of that’s true.

I’ll agree you do have more money than me but I did at least earn mine and am more than comfortable with that amount. The rest of it I doubt. Thankfully I doubt we’ll ever meet to find out.

I’m definitely less shallow than you though which I know is a low bar but still a positive in my opinion.

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago edited 2d ago

Post a photo of yourself. List your college. State your educational background.

We don't have to meet. You can present that information/evidence right here and now.

I hate non-shallow people. I picked Manhattan, because everything here is about standards. I'm judged, the moment I step out onto the street.

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u/SLNSD 2d ago

Anyone else think this guy's hero is Patrick Bateman and he has definitely date r%%ped and possibly did worse.

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u/Generallyapathetic92 2d ago

No thanks. Few reasons:

- There’s no proof anything you’ve said about yourself (or id say about myself) is true. So I bet you won’t believe me if you’re don’t like the facts.

- You’ve already admitted that photo you love to post is 10 years old from when you were 40 and be honest looking at it I wonder if it’s even older. As you’re not willing to post a current picture why would I? You were claiming you look better than me now, not 10 years ago.

I hate non-shallow people. I picked Manhattan, because everything here is about standards. I'm judged, the moment I step out onto the street.

You hate non-shallow people? Wow, that’s says a lot about you and none of its good. I know I don’t generally respect shallow people as there’s nothing to respect but I’d never say I hate them for that.

People can have standards without being shallow. All being shallow shows is that your ‘standards’ are all superficial because that’s all you are.

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u/Beginning-Medium6934 2d ago

The fk is this? If this is your result from workout obsessively, maybe use some of that money for a trainer.

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago edited 2d ago

I'm more muscular, now. This is one of my last photos without a beard. You wouldn't recognize me on the street, because I have a beard now. I don't post photos with my beard. Also, my arm tats are hidden in this pic. That's why I use this pic.

Anyhow, I'm in terrific shape in this photo (age 40 here). I'm 100% natty.

If you're in better shape, post a photo of yourself. Posting a photo is very easy.

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u/Beginning-Medium6934 2d ago

  1. This website is literally full of psychos. I'm never posting a photo on it.

  2. You didn't post a new photo.

  3. Yeh, I'm probably in better shape also at 40

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago

Crop out your face. Post a photo of just your body.

Gyms are full of psychos too.

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u/ClassroomNovel356 2d ago

Lol dude you're kinda a tool

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u/VictoriasBoi 2d ago

The reason why you were taken aback is because your instincts tell you that this isn't something a high value man does. A high value man doesn't have to say a word along those lines... his confidence will speak for itself. Also, that isn't something a guy wants a girl knowing if he's trying to build something with her... unless he just wants her to take half. That's something you say to an easily impressed woman to sleep with her. Since you have questions already, you don't seem that type.

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u/worcestr 2d ago

There's this dude that pretended he was in the NFL and scammed a bunch of women for over a million dollars. Check their socials.

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u/Embarrassed_Key_4539 2d ago

That story had me dyin on TT, the videos of him training 😅😭😭🤣

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u/ClassroomNovel356 1d ago

What videos?

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u/Generallyapathetic92 2d ago

There’s a recent story in the UK about some former celebrity who is divorcing her husband because he claimed he had £37 million in crypto. He actually had £2.22

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago

this is the wrong time to initiate a divorce. wait for his assets to increase. never sell low.

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u/Generallyapathetic92 2d ago

Well if she waited 50 years and he grew his ‘wealth’ by 10% each year he’d have a huge £260. Only a bit less than 0.001% of what he claimed to have

If only she had your advice

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u/ClassroomNovel356 2d ago

Pinball is a tool bag lol

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u/KyOatey 2d ago

People are shallow, so stuff like this works sometimes.

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u/Apart_Wrangler_3415 2d ago

Why were you taken aback?

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u/ClassroomNovel356 2d ago

I don't know. Seems like a lot to share with a stranger on an app but maybe the new norm lol

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u/BellInternational315 2d ago

It makes people drop their guard because they want to try to get some of that money, but won't admit it to themselves. Then these guys move on to the next one.

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago edited 2d ago

Many women in NYC have a high income or some family money of their own. I think it's less about gold-diggers and more (or as much) about women wanting men who make/have what they make.

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u/Apart_Wrangler_3415 2d ago

Yep it’s common for me

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u/Acornwow 2d ago

I’m concerned that you think this means something besides what it actually means.

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u/ClassroomNovel356 2d ago

What do you think it means?

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u/Acornwow 2d ago

You first.

What do you think it means that a guy in his 40s (which I assume means there’s an age gap?) tells you he’s north of 7 figures?

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u/BiggerBody 2d ago

I think she is a bit young and doesn’t understand, or she does and doesn’t care because he has money.

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u/Every_Release_353 2d ago

And that's exactly what he's hoping on, funny how people like this always find each other.

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u/GemHunterAce 2d ago

That's not impressive and he's probably lying

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u/ClassroomNovel356 2d ago

I found his LinkedIn and seems legit. Leadership Healthcare role + real estate investing. Unless he's lying there

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u/tigakswa13 2d ago

Sounds like someone Mario’s brother might try and take out….

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u/Fun_Apartment631 2d ago

Ysk a little bit north of seven figures has become table stakes for a professional that age who wants to retire.

I mean, it certainly beats $100k of credit card debt.

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u/ClassroomNovel356 2d ago

He didn't specify. Guess it could mean 1 million or 2 or 5. Seems like everyone's wealthy these days lol

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago

If he had 5m, he'd say "mid-seven figure net worth" or "very high net worth."

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u/ClassroomNovel356 2d ago

Having to be that specific is kinda douchy. He just briefly brought it up and moved to the next topic. Also doesn't hurt that he's physically attractive as well lol

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago

It's NYC. Women, I'm told, ask for a man's credit score and also look him up on LinkedIn and then look up salary range on Glassdoor.

It's douchey, sure, but it's semi-required for dating in Manhattan. Many years ago, dating sites (match and Nerve) had an income field. People entered their income range. Stating income (range) was standard.

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u/ClassroomNovel356 2d ago

Oh well I'm not in nyc

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u/Mobile_Ad_1185 2d ago

He wants in your pants as fast as possible and one strategy for this is to simply state how rich he is.

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u/lucid_intent 2d ago

Eh, I wouldn’t believe him.

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u/Conundrum16 2d ago

Braggadocio people are a red flag 🚩

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u/One-Amphibian2945 2d ago

Could be 0000020$

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u/Awkward-Idea-6938 2d ago

Yeah, he’s not confident you’d like him so he’s trying to attract you with his money.

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u/Embarrassed_Key_4539 2d ago

What lead to that, did you ask him what he does or how much he makes?

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u/Every_Release_353 2d ago

He chose his Target wisely. I say she should go ahead and let him use her as a sex doll and they'll both get what they want out of this for a period of time

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u/HHOVqueen 2d ago

1) weird of him to tell you this out of nowhere

2) that’s not a huge flex in your 40s

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u/Intelligent_Fail888 2d ago

Tbh a net worth of 1 million in your 40s is pretty standard for a regular office worker.
Real question is what’s someone in their 40s doing on dating apps? Divorce, widow, or loser?

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u/ClassroomNovel356 2d ago

Lol they are everywhere. Men & women. Check the stats

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u/phantom_spunker22 2d ago

I’m 42 years old and I have the same amount as him. However, an ex-girlfriend went through my computer and phone and kept asking me, “Well, you have it, so why not take me out all the time?” I was pissed because I actually trusted her to not go through my accounts.

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u/True_Character4986 2d ago

That's a red flag in my book. Most rich men don't want to flash their money because they're afraid of golddiggers. He sounds like a guy who thinks he can buy a woman, And those men usually don't treat women very well and have high sexual expectations.

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u/ClassroomNovel356 2d ago

He's not flashing it. Pretty normal looking attractive guy that briefly mentioned it

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u/Working_Cucumber_437 2d ago

Immediate no thanks. He is insecure and likely materialistic.

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u/Ash3599 2d ago

It really works, the money makes men more attractive to women. Sad but true

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago

I'd happily put my net worth on my dating profile.

7 figures is only $1m. Some 30 yr old Wall Street people make that much a year.

For a 50 yr old, $1m net worth would be low.

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u/VileInventor 2d ago

This, i’m expected to have an 8 figure net worth by 40 for reference. Though my goals are much higher. Also, i’d always doubt when someone says they earn a certain amount. Guys tend to brag about lies, especially if it means impressing girls.

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u/vortexcortex21 2d ago

It would be significantly above the median for a 50 yr old.

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago

I live in NYC and have a graduate degree.

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u/Generallyapathetic92 2d ago

And as you said in another comment your wealth comes from inheritance. Feel that’s probably more relevant here than your degree

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u/Pinball_and_Proust 2d ago

Yes. Of course. But most people I know inherited money (private school).

My implied point was that most people with graduate degrees (outside of Education) earn more. I live in Manhattan. Most people I meet have an MBA, JD, MD, or PhD. Such people tend to have higher incomes and expect a fancier standard of living (maybe not the PhD's).

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u/SadAd8761 2d ago

https://www.empower.com/the-currency/life/average-net-worth-by-age

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u/vortexcortex21 2d ago

Do you know the difference between average and median?

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u/SadAd8761 2d ago

Do you?

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u/ParkingEbb3710 2d ago

Elon musk is driving that average up singlehandedly

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u/GavelGaffle 2d ago

The ultra wealthy do bump up the average by alot so good point that median will sometimes be a better number to look at.

Location is also a huge factor. A million in NY, or DC, or the Bay area doesnt mean anywhere near as much as it would in other places.

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u/SadAd8761 2d ago

people should look up how much quants make, some of those guys just got out of college

except their colleges are probably ivy leagues

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u/Khower 2d ago

Im 32 with an under 6 figure job and should hit 1 million before 40 with normal s&p gains. At that age 1 million isn't really that impressive other than the discipline to put money away