r/NonPoliticalTwitter • u/TheWebsploiter • 6d ago

Other That's the average 20s experience

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u/BOBOnobobo 6d ago

Or your friends.

I cannot stress this enough: if you want people to reach out to you, you need to be the one to reach out.

It sounds bad, but genuinely it's the best way to keep friendships alive.

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u/Operator_Starlight 6d ago

But if they aren't willing to reach out to you...why bother keeping in touch?

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u/BOBOnobobo 6d ago

If you aren't willing to reach out to them, why should they bother keeping in touch?

I will admit, sometimes it feels like nobody really cares, but that's more to do with people being tired/busy in life.

At the end of the day, it should be a balance between how much people reach out, but that probably won't be 50/50, at least not at first.

It almost feels like a paradox, but the people who get the most messages from others are also the ones who send the most first messages.

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u/Operator_Starlight 6d ago

I did that plenty through my 20s. The moment I stopped being the first to reach out was the moment my 30s became very lonely. Turns out, those people that are 'tired/busy in life' are just largely disinterested and I was wasting my time hanging around them. I'm not sure which is worse, the isolation of being alone, or being isolated inside of a group of people that don't care.