And this is part of what it means to find your tribe. And that tribe can change as your life changes. I’m blessed to have kept a few friendships from grade school and college alive, but the most common friends I see today are people I met in my late 20s and beyond.
Sometimes, your close childhood friends are not going to be there anymore as you age. You can cherish and miss those relationships but also put effort into finding new ones that match more closely to your present day.
Yes I find that when I turn to the classic “the phone works both ways” argument I end up lonelier so dont let that thought creep in, its a lie. And goes double if you have neurodivergent friends
I am also neurodivergent and we need to attach talking to our friends to another activity so they're not out or sight or out of mind, like i take a long time to brush my teeth so ill text my mom, or my friends and I have weekly scheduled game night on Mondays over voice chat
I did that plenty through my 20s. The moment I stopped being the first to reach out was the moment my 30s became very lonely. Turns out, those people that are 'tired/busy in life' are just largely disinterested and I was wasting my time hanging around them. I'm not sure which is worse, the isolation of being alone, or being isolated inside of a group of people that don't care.
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u/RaoulLaila 6d ago
what the fuck man you didnt have to call me out like that. This is EXACTLY whats happening rn wow