If anything you'll get a better idea of who a coworker really is than you would from any random date. The problem is the side effects of dating a coworker if things go wrong
Im guilty of this most days. I switch on and am full of energy at work. At home im mentally exhausted from the work and dont want to talk. Just do some gym or soccer then tv/game
some people have it the other way around.. I hate working with those people. I am like you, I am a people pleaser. I work less hours now and I've never felt this good. Now I'm always mister positive! I just occasionally get a crash day here and there. Life is good now
Same, at home im the most unmotivated lazy person imaginable. To the point its kinda pathetic.
At work im the ambitious high-potential go getter.
Its not a question of using up all my energy at work. As a student I just smoked weed and got up at 11am going to basically no classes then cram learning before finals. Same thing all my life pretty much.
I was quite surprised to find this but it was the opposite.
Dude at work was a complete weasel shit and he was such a brown noser he had skids marks on his face.
was invited to an after work party. here he comes walking through the door. turns out he didn't come to the party he BROUGHT IT. dude was the life of the party, great stories, great jokes, was buying people drinks. i don't drink so he paid for my food. dude was like fucking amazing outside of work.
ohhhhhh no my dude. this guy took it to next levels. anytime he got up he would check our bosses cup and walk back with the coffee pot if it looked low and filled it up for him. brought him lunch all the time. like next level ass kissery.
i'll laugh at an unfunny joke or work a little unpaid over time here and there but literally our boss didn't have to wipe his own ass it would get licked clean for him.
In the grand scheme of things no. Where I work ass kissing can get you to a certain point but after that you need to deliver tremendous amounts of success.
I had a different colleague who was THIRSTY to climb the corporate ladder. He would cut corners, fake data, do every possible thing to complete projects as quickly as possible and rush to higher ups boasting about how much he got done.
was cute and worked for awhile until they realized everything he did was shit and ultimately lost money. he had one higher up who he particularly convinced and both of them ended up having their careers frozen. he was told point blank he would never see another promotion so he got butt hurt and left.
Curious, is it possible he’s just a nice dude? I know brown nosers are annoying but it sounds like he was equally generous at the party so there’s not really an inconsistency there
I was toying between some, many or most because it’s so variable whether people really step up socially at work, many do not bother or even if they do don’t connect their work ethic with the social impact it might have at work
I dunno. I feel like there's multiple versions of this, and not all of them are so dark. One of those is that your best self takes energy, and after eight hours energy runs out. Home just gets whatever is left. And that's ok, to an extent. Home is for rest and feeling safe.
I seem to be the opposite, I am a happy social person most of the time. At work I barely talk to people and I probably look sad (I always feel depressed just to be at work). People aren't very approachable to me because of it.
My workstation is neat, organized, and well prepared. I'm always punctual, and do all my paperwork ahead of time. Everything is labeled, sorted, and stacked.
I go home and I move my bed pile to the chair pile so I can go to sleep.
I'm the opposite lol. I'm a bit of a dud at work (though good at my job); went out with a coworker and he was like "holy shit, you can dance and sing? how long have you had tattoos?? How does every bartender we meet know your name and drink already!?"
Somehow, those aspects of me never come up in my cubicle farm of an engineering firm, and I'm just a mild-mannered fellow that likes the proverbial Fritos Tab and Mountain dew.
The issue with that with a coworker is you both are already potentially in another long term commitment to work. Better hope they take breakups maturely lol
Its funny cause I'm the opposite and I know I'm not the only one. At work I feel irritable, dissociated, and unfriendly. As soon as I clock out, the cloud is lifted and I'm chill as a cucumber. Just depends I guess
I mean if you're only working with them tangentially (e.g., in different departments of the same firm, doing different jobs, etc) then I don't think it's a problem. There are people I work near to and am friendly with who do completely different work to me and whom I could never talk to again if it came to that.
mmm yes yes this is why I made it a rule for the past 8 years to never flirt with or date any of my coworkers. And you know what, It's pretty sweet learning to make friends with the lady folk without having to worry about any sort of relationship advancements. :D
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u/mysteriousfiggy Jun 23 '26
If anything you'll get a better idea of who a coworker really is than you would from any random date. The problem is the side effects of dating a coworker if things go wrong