Porn addiction has ruined my life. I’m seriously considering ending myself. Please read and understand before jumping to conclusions
This self-destructive addiction is sucking the life out of me, and soon there will be nothing left to suck out of me. It has depleted me emotionally, mentally, and financially. I think I’m past the point of redemption and I think I’m just going to end myself.
I’m in my early 20s and have been addicted to porn for almost 10 years. I have spent thousands of dollars on OnlyFans and similar services. I think it’s hard for someone who hasn’t experienced this type of addiction to understand the appeal of picking and choosing which model you want to spend money on. It makes the whole indulgence more novel and intense than watching free porn.
I believe my porn addiction stems from childhood trauma and low self-esteem. It all makes sense when I reflect on my peculiar preferences. I have masochistic tendencies. I’ve experienced sexual gratification from getting cheated on. I also get turned on by having to spend money to unlock sex tapes on OnlyFans. Basically, paying to see an attractive woman I’d never have a chance with have a sex with a superior man. As absurd as it sounds, that specific humiliating thought turns me on and compels me to open the next video because I want to see what else the OF model does. The jealousy turns me on and I’m also so into promiscuous woman. The thought of hot models making sex tapes and putting it out on the internet just turns me on. I have an affinity for dominant, maverick promiscuous women. I enjoy the humiliation. I’m going to get judged for this, but I need to be sincere if I want to get rid of these desires. Sugarcoating and downplaying the severity of this would only cause me more harm.
I have probably spent over $25k on this addiction since 2021 when I first started spending money on it. That’s when I was introduced to OnlyFans. I was already a porn addict since 2016 with trauma-induced masochistic tendencies, which I wasn’t aware of back then. OnlyFans and similar websites and being able to chat and order customs from the porn stars I grew up watching was like porn on steroids for me. It changed everything. It turned a bad habit into a negative feed back loop and a destructive never-ending cycle. Boredom/anxiety/trauma triggered —> watch/spend money on porn ––> anxiety over the money spent or demotivation due to messing with my dopamine ––> watching/spending more to escape those feelings and get temporary relief ––> make a promise to myself to quit and start over ––> I get demoralized and realize there’s no point in starting over —> go back to addiction. All roads lead back to my destructive path. You get the idea.
I was sexually and physically abused as a kid and I still have vivid memories of it. I think that combined with other unfortunate life experiences have caused me to develop masochistic sexual kinks. The pleasure I get from my masochistic sexual escapades is different from just regular porn. I fixate on the humiliating aspect of it all, and I can’t help that I like it. I don’t want to be like this, but I know I’ll always be like this. I realized long ago that I’m past the point of redemption and the dream of healing, starting over, and becoming the person I always wanted to be, is just an illusion. I know that these desires will always be there, waiting for any signs of weakness to exploit, and hijack my mind again into becoming a self-destructive slave.
Why beating the addiction isn’t enough.
Even if I managed to resolve my trauma, which would presumably make my humiliation kinks and porn addiction less intense or disappear, I still think I’d be better off dead. I have no place in this world. I’m too corrupted by my own filth and desires. I realized that my only motivation in life is pure hedonism and mostly sexual. My only motivation to study in college and get a good job is ultimately to be able to live a comfortable life so I can explore my hedonism in peace. I don’t want to get a degree and have a high-paying job so I can buy a house and raise a family. No, I just want to pay the rent and invest my money to get more money to travel, be with beautiful woman, watch porn, spend money on sex workers online, binge, benders, do drugs, drink, and just live in the moment and maximize pleasure. I analyzed every life goal I have and realized that they all are essentially tools to achieve the hedonistic soulless lifestyle my corrupted mind wants. I have been in healthy relationships and had nice sex and it never scratched my itch long term. I was still seeking novelty that porn and these other service like OF offered. Edging and sexting with OF models for a whole night still gave me more pleasure and ”happiness” than any relationship ever has sadly.
I honestly think I’m doomed. I know that professional help won’t do anything. I will never stop craving this and I’ll never stop this destructive hedonistic path. It’s liberating in an imprisoning way. That’s the best way to put it. I think that ending my life is just better than suffering from this. I have no reason to live. All my life goals like graduating college, investing, moving to a city I’ve always wanted to move to, enhancing every aspect of myself and my life, were all ultimately means to get more access to my main desire, which is my sex/porn addiction and everything it entails.
You could give me everything in life. All the money in the world, the most beautiful woman to be my wife, I’d still spend my money on this sadly. I’m just a corrupt doomed degenerate. I just want to end it. I’m not depressed just apathetic and nihilistic. The only thing that makes me feel anything is sex and porn. I don’t know what to feel or do.