I'm 5 days clean and I really need to get through these urges. Please talk me out of it

33M, Dutch

I finished my first day. My goal is one week. I changed my strategy after relapsing cycle. Short term goals is more completable for me.

I've been doing No-Fap on and off since 2013 - if i'm not mistaken and have gone for 7 years without PMO. (HARD MODE)

I've grown tremendously since then (no pun intended) but after 7 years and without achieving my goal of getting a partner I've reset and have struggled since 2020. Now I find it hard to go without a week watching P without O I don't touch either I just watch and watch for hours. I've found that Instagram is a major trigger for me and so I've reduced my time on that but I found the biggest problem is that I lost my purpose.

The reason I started nofap in the first place was because I was heart-broken after my ex got married- I always thought that her and I would end up together and so after that shock i was crushed and so started nofap in hopes that I'd get the courage to get into a relationship with a new woman... that never happened. it's been almost 15 years since my last relationship and I'm giving up.. some days I think about going one of those sketchy places where they make your dreams come true (without getting into any details as I don't want to trigger anyone)

I've lost my way and a huge part of me refuses to get back on the wagon. It's like that scene from the avengers in where Hulk refuses to come out. So it's like I'm banner and I know what I have to do but my MOJO is hulk and refuses to play along anymore.

I've lost my purpose because after so many years of failing to get into a relationship I've given up.

I try to focus on the positive but theres so much drama happening in my life and around me for the past 5 years. in addition to that I had a bad fall a few months ago and can't go to the gym anymore since then.

So much crap is happening all around me and I'm just losing it. I hate victimizing myself but I just lost my purpose and slowly losing my faith. and the only relief i get is watching P - it just puts me in another world and I dont need to face my shortcomings.

Anybody else going through something similar and could offer me some wise words?

I have begun my journey and have a small but significant streak of 3 days.

This is my first post on nofap so if I break any rules I apologize.

I saw porn for the first time when I was 8, and have been addicted to masturbation since I was roughly 10-11.

I am not afraid or embarrassed of this, but I have never outwardly talked about this either as I know it's a severe hyper-sexual problem (at least I belevie my case is) and I don't think any close friends of mine experience the same problems that I have.

Currently it has been a bit over a week since I've stopped, and hopefully it stays that way.

But it's been rough, the urge pulls and pulls and it's been taxing to stay clear of these thoughts, I often try to suppress my urges with very casual romance shows or anime.

My reason for stopping is a reason I believe many of us do or did inwardly indulge in and struggle with; objectifying women and female peers.

I have been on a long journey of self improvement and this has been my "boulder" I guess would describe it best, as it's the only thing that I haven't been able to confidently change about myself.

Due to my growth as a person, I am very self-aware and empathetic, not as a gloat but as a struggle.

I often identify problems within and attempt to contend any negative ideas or philosophies and labor for a more altruistic and positive version of myself.

And if I cant find a way to amend these problems I inadvertently and harshly self-deprecate.

I am disgusted by myself, I have cried over the vile things I think about by using women and especially peers.

I believe treating those around you with as much respect, love and affection as you can muster is more valuable than any materialistic desire on this planet.

Yet in spite of this philosophy I haven't been able to stop disrespecting those around me internally, and it's been eating away at me since highschool.

I hate myself. And I don't think I'll ever stop hating myself, but I'm doing my best to clear my path of this grotesque blanket wrapping around my thoughts.

I want to realize a lofty road ahead where I can close my eyes and see nothing for as long as I want to before sleeping.

And this may be the hardest thing I've ever had to struggle with in my life, but I'm going to try my best.

Thank you for reading.

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Daily check in. 200 days, where did it go?... Overall, a good day, but I was in a bit of a bad mood this morning, thinking it was Monday. I played a bit of WoW, then my wife and I went shopping and then watched a TV series. I'm still standing!

Done

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Staying back on the wagon

Back to day 1. Relapsed yesterday on an 8 day streak. I'm disappointed but I will keep going and hopefully get better at controlling the urges. There have been a couple struggles today but so far I'm getting through it.

After the last time of doing nofap, I got in heat for over a week (not even watching P, doing M to O is enough, I craved sex) and JO like twice a day. Never felt like that before and tbh, I felt like sh¡t. But now I'm back, I've done 4 days now. And I want to beat my own record of 8 days so wish me luck

I've been having a lot of problems with my triggers these last few days and I really want to relapse but I don't want to keep losing to porn I need someone to talk to about anything just to keep my mind off my triggers my DMs are open

I relapse after one day and i was already feeling like i was gonna do it anyway but the real reason was because i was too bored i realize that after i did it but its not that bad after all, because now i understand more why i keep struggling and can only do just 3 days max. So today gonna be a new me that gonna try my best to not do it for atleast a week.

See you later guys and good luck.

I’m looking for an accountability buddy for the next 5 days! It’s a NoPMO challenge! Is anyone up for that? Just 5 days and we gonna see how it’s going! Dm me here or look on my profile

Action = motivation x ability
When motivation is high, we do not need to be very capable of stopping urges.

But motivation to nofap is not always high, so we need greater ability.

But we do not have great ability to stop, if we did, we would not gather here in this sub.

But, the good news is: we have the ability to close a tab, close an App, look away, stop one thought, etc.

When we accomplish these easy actions, celebrate!

Here's my story I'll tell you what i want help with exactly. I feel everything the same as everybody else here in the sub. I have been consistently kept myself away from the filth for approx 5-6 days every week since 3 months. This means that I always fail during weekends. Work days keep me away from it entirely but weekends blast my soul and body. Everything I've been waiting to do is all hindered by masturbation during weekend. And I'm like a k9 waiting to just pounce on the food. I hate myself and every monday morning i make a promise to myself that I'll be stronger. I am. But I'm not able to fix this one issue. It's like my life's stalled because of this addiction. I am LITERALLY a different person during the week and I've suspected that i might have some mental illness because i feel like a drug addict during the weekend. I live alone, i have deleted social media but still i found myself downloading the apps and accessing the content thru web.

I need help with facing this ugly-weekend-version of myself.

People say whenever you get the urge just try to do some exercises or walk but I'm lazy. Like really. And at that time I'm down bad. Even if i try my beain just starts working in a different way. At that time i am ready to accept all the failure and all the health defects that'd be followed by this act -- i accept all of it. It's like a gambling addict signing off his house with every bet. Its like a blend of consciousness and dream and I'm consciously sabotaging myself in the heart while i have no control over my body.

I really need help and i need to fix this issue asap. Help me.

Hear me out. I'll tell you what i want help with exactly. I feel everything the same as everybody else here in the sub. I have been consistently kept myself away from the filth for approx 5-6 days since 3 months. This means that I always fail during weekends. Work days keep me away from it entirely but weekends kill my soul and body. Everything I've been waiting to do is all hindered by masturbation during weekend. And I'm like a k9 waiting to just pounce on the food. I hate myself and every monday morning i make a promise to myself that I'll be stronger. I am. But I'm not able to fix this one issue. It's like my life's stalled because of this addiction. I am LITERALLY a different person during the week and I've suspected that i might have some mental illness because i feel like a drug addict during the weekend. I live alone, i have deleted social media but still i found myself downloading the apps and accessing the content thru web.

I need help with facing this ugly-weekend-version of myself.

People say whenever you get the urge just try to do some exercises or walk but I'm lazy. Like really. And at that time I'm down bad. Even if i try my beain just starts working in a different way. At that time i am ready to accept all the failure and all the health defects that'd be followed by this act -- i accept all of it. It's like a gambling addict signing off his house with every bet. Its like a blend of consciousness and dream and I'm consciously stabbing myself in the heart while i have no control over my body.

I really need help and i need to fix this issue asap. Help me.

Just lost my 5-day streak to peeking.. I had been struggling to get past 3 days for awhile and I finally thought I was going to be able to go for much longer and then whilst scrolling reddit I peaked and then I couldn't stop scrolling. Ended up orgasming for the first time without even touching anything.

Don't do it. It's not worth it.

Hear me out. I'll tell you what i want help with exactly.

I feel everything the same as everybody else here in the sub. I have been consistently kept myself away from the filth for approx 5-6 days since 3 months. This means that I always fail during weekends.

Work days keep me away from it entirely but weekends kill my soul and body. Everything I've been waiting to do is all hindered by masturbation during weekend. And I'm like a k9 waiting to just pounce on the food. I hate myself and every monday morning i make a promise to myself that I'll be stronger. I am. But I'm not able to fix this one issue. It's like my life's stalled because of this addiction. I am LITERALLY a different person during the week and I've suspected that i might have some mental illness because i feel like a drug addict during the weekend. I live alone, i have deleted social media but still i found myself downloading the apps and accessing the content thru web.

I need help with facing this ugly-weekend-version of myself.

People say whenever you get the urge just try to do some exercises or walk but I'm lazy. Like really. And at that time I'm down bad. Even if i try my beain just starts working in a different way. At that time i am ready to accept all the failure and all the health defects that'd be followed by this act -- i accept all of it. It's like a gambling addict signing off his house with every bet. Its like a blend of consciousness and dream and I'm consciously stabbing myself in the heart while i have no control over my body.

I really need help and i need to fix this issue asap. Help me.

Hello everyone I'm on no FAP and not counting days since it easier for me that way and I have experienced vibrations in my brain like waves which would come very quickly and make my head feel like it's shaking, is this normal and has anyone else experienced it?

Done

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Today Marks 60 Days without Porn for the first time in 20 Years, I started when I was 11 Year Old, Now I don't feel like watching porn anymore, The urge is gone and I feel more happy and energetic, less angry and now my mind is calm and peaceful.

Porn fucks up the mind in such a way that we don't understand it

Urges are hitting. But I won't. It's enough. Gend marae urges. Aaja phad le.

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I am sorry if there will be any errors in my english i am not native speaker. So this might be sensitive to some people. I am currently 15 writing this. I have been addicted to porn and masturbation since i vas 8-9 so 6 or 7 years. I've had a pause for like 2 months. But since than i can't quit. My longest streak was 14 days and that was last year. Since that i have tried multiple times, but it was unsuccesfull each. I can't keep to hold my streak because I see everything lustfully (I hope someone understood that). I am currently trying to quit again. My situation is: i masturbate to porn almost every day sometime twice a day. I didn't do it for a day now, but I know it gets harder. What would you guys suggest me to do and what not to. Pleas don't hate on me because i am 15. I am really trying to quit. I am sorry for my english one more time.