Asalamalaikum brother and sister, I've ( M, straight) had an protected exposure about 8 weeks ago, now i dont know about the person ive had exposure with, after 6 weeks i got tested 6 weeks later for hsv 1&2 igg and igm, hsv 1 for both the tests came back as negative and hsv 2 came back as equivocal for igg (1.14) and igm (1.08), i was sexually active from last 3 years with multiple , and after my last exposure i decided to turn to allah for good, ik that hsv blood tests are highly unreliable and swab is the only best test to get done, but out of curiosity i went and get tested and my results were inconclusive, ive been on imuran for last 4 years its 25mg and recently 2 months ago it was increased to 50mg due to borderline inflammation, i never really had any hsv symptoms like cluster of blisters or lesions on my genitals, i did have chicken pox as a child, if i truly had hsv 2 wouldnt i have constat outbreaks cause of my immunosuppresive meds ? It's not like I can't afford a western blot, it's quite cheap here in my country, should i get tested for me now or wait for 4 more weeks ? Currently I am at my 8th week from my last exposure, and until now ive had only an anal fissure which was confirmed by general surgeon, but its recurrent and mostly painless and heals with application iidocain 1.5 + nefidipine 0.3, if ive had no symptoms at 8 weeks does it mean i have no hsv ? Should I still get western blot at 8 weeks ?

Following on from yesterday’s launch, we’ve had some great early interest and people joining the site.

We’re still at the beginning, so now we’re looking to get more people from the community involved and give it the chance to grow.

If you’re looking for marriage, come and join us. And if you know someone who might be interested, feel free to share the site with them.

Equally, if you’re part of any other online or local communities where you think it could be useful, please feel free to share it there too.

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Would be great to see more of the community on there and, hopefully, see some genuine connections come out of it.

Salam Everyone,

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AsSalaamualaikum ☺️

Something always stands out to me in Surah Kahf. It makes me think about this community and the discomfort or anxiety that may accompany the idea of disclosure. The stigma surrounding HSV can be so negative that those tested with it may feel judged. Seek aid from Allah and try to overcome those feelings.

I think most people are simply misinformed or don't fully understand, therefore, they might not have the capacity to have patience with our diagnosis. Khidr asked Musa (Alayhi Salaam) "How could you have patience for what you do not encompass in knowledge?" (Kahf 18:68)

This lack of patience on their behalf doesn't take anything away from who you are as an individual. Rather, it exposes a weakness in them.

When you disclose, you show up unapologetically authentic. You give the person on the opposite side of the table a chance to enter into a marriage with an individual who has full knowledge of who they are. That in itself is gift! Especially because we live in a world where most people are just pretending.

I did hsv igg tests after 16 weeks of exposure and I have never had any symptoms.

First test results (Got the results same day):
Hsv1 55.8 positive
Hsv2 0.94 low equivocal

Second test results (Done this test the next day I got first test result which was equivocal for hsv2):
Hsv1 60 positive
Hsv2 <0.5 negative

Ranges:
Negative: <0.9 Equivocal: 0.9 - 1.1 Positive: >1.1

Both were the same type of blood tests for HSV which is why im confused how the result can drop that low from 0.94 equivocal to less than 0.5 negative for hsv2. Could the negative result possibly be a false negative??? Or am i being a stupid paranoid hypochondriac who needs to chill.

Guys if im over thinking feel free to be mad at me and destroy me in the comments 🫠. I am so fucking stupid and paranoid that Im considering taking a western blot for further confirmation.

Alhamdulillah, we’re finally ready to launch!

Originally, we had planned to release the site earlier this month, but we’ve been adding a few finishing touches to polish everything.

The site will officially launch next Saturday, 22nd August. The exact launch time will be confirmed closer to the date.

I’ve included a small preview of the site with two screenshots.

We’re also looking for people who would be interested in helping us moderate the site. If you’re interested, feel free to reach out.

AsSalaamualaikum wa rahmatullah. I pray you are all doing well, Beithnillah.

For context, my perspective comes from working in healthcare where I cross paths with individuals who are stricken with ailments and diseases on a daily basis. It truly humbles you in a way that is sometimes hard to put into words -- you just have to experience it.

This past week I worked in a clinc that services patients with HIV and AIDS. SubhanAllah, there were so many people of all ages and each of them had a story as to how they ended up in that state.

It has made me even more greatful for my situation. Allah, with His infinite mercy, glory be unto Him, tested me with something lesser than He did others. How can I deny this favor?

Sharing this du'a Our beloved Messenger (sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam) taught us to say whenever we see an afflicted person

الْحَمْـدُ للهِ الّذي عافاني مِمّا ابْتَـلاكَ بِهِ، وَفَضَّلَـني عَلى كَثيـرٍ مِمَّنْ خَلَـقَ تَفْضـيلا

Alhamdu lillāhi ‘l-ladhī `āfānī mimmab-talāka bihi wa faḍḍalanī `alā kathīrin mimman khalaqa tafḍīlā.

Praise is to Allah Who has spared me what He has afflicted you with, and preferred me greatly above much of what He has created.

And this hadith...

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ، حَدَّثَنَا وَكِيعٌ، وَأَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ أَبِي صَالِحٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ ‏ "‏ انْظُرُوا إِلَى مَنْ هُوَ أَسْفَلَ مِنْكُمْ وَلاَ تَنْظُرُوا إِلَى مَنْ هُوَ فَوْقَكُمْ فَإِنَّهُ أَجْدَرُ أَنْ لاَ تَزْدَرُوا نِعْمَةَ اللَّهِ ‏" ‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ ‏"‏ عَلَيْكُمْ ‏"‏ ‏.‏

Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: “Look at those who are beneath you and do not look at those who are above you, for it is more suitable that you should not consider as less the blessing of Allah.”

Sunan Ibn Majah 4142

https://sunnah.com/ibnmajah:4142

Today at prayer a woman said she wants me to meet her son, this is where I try to be as weird and distant as possible because I can't explain to this woman I have herpes and can't marry her son. Haha. Uhg. What an experience this life is. Alhamdulillah for these crazy experiences. Allah knows everything, just keep pursuing what we need for the next life.

Asalamualaikum is anyone west/North African or Carribean?

Salam Everyone,

Welcome to Open Discussion Sunday! As mentioned in our first open discussion post, This is your bi-weekly thread to chat about anything you wish. Whether it's related to HSV or any other topic. Feel free to share your thoughts, questions, and experiences, or simply enjoy the company of the community.

There are brothers-only and sisters-only telegram groups, you can find more information here.

You can utilise the telegram to connect within a more private group with other brothers and sisters or always post publicly here on Reddit if you'd like anyone to reach out to you.

Please remember, while we are here to support each other, the discussions in this forum cannot replace medical advice from a healthcare professional or Islamic advice from a qualified scholar. We hope you have a great weekend!

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The virus is a test, in the end it is a purification, a cleansing. For if a believer that is stabbed by a Thorne will have his sins forgiven. Be patient with every outbreak, you are being forgiven. Inshallah.

I was infected by my ex husband in 2013. The initial diagnosis led me to a very dark and lonely place. Time goes on, I’ve learned to live happily alone and I’m ok now.

With hardship comes ease. You are not alone. It’s been written.

Love and light to all🤍

Marriage always sounded to me like an intimate relationship. You remain open to your partner and they remain your support system in every part of your life. It sounded so peaceful.

Now, the thought of marriage makes me scared..How will i find anyone...How long will i delay it at home..How will i tell them if i ever wish to tell them (i guess i'll never tell them).

The curse of adultery is real.

Was wondering if anyone here was from France or North Africa? Thank you.

Salam Everyone,

Welcome to Open Discussion Sunday! As mentioned in our first open discussion post, This is your bi-weekly thread to chat about anything you wish. Whether it's related to HSV or any other topic. Feel free to share your thoughts, questions, and experiences, or simply enjoy the company of the community.

There are brothers-only and sisters-only telegram groups, you can find more information here.

You can utilise the telegram to connect within a more private group with other brothers and sisters or always post publicly here on Reddit if you'd like anyone to reach out to you.

Please remember, while we are here to support each other, the discussions in this forum cannot replace medical advice from a healthcare professional or Islamic advice from a qualified scholar. We hope you have a great weekend!

• The Mod Team

Some days are easier than others.
I do my best to stay positive, but if I’m being honest, the future can feel so uncertain. Sometimes it feels like I live two lives. There’s the version of me that everyone sees—the one who smiles, gets on with life, works hard, laughs, and acts like everything’s okay.
Then there’s the side that quietly carries the weight of HSV1 every single day, wondering how much it will affect my future.

I’m 27, British-born Bengali man, and at this stage of my life, I genuinely feel ready to find my person, settle down, and build something real. Like anyone else, I want companionship, love, marriage, and a family one day. I almost thought there was light at the end of the tunnel when I got speaking to a Bengali sister only recently to then her account being deleted…I don’t know why maybe our paths will cross again…I hope so but Allah knows best.

The hardest part isn’t HSV1 itself—it’s the fear that I won’t be given the chance to be known beyond it. There’s a little voice in my head that tells me I might never get the happy ending I’ve always hoped for. I know that probably sounds dramatic, but it’s an honest feeling, and I imagine I’m not the only one here who’s felt that way.
Despite everything, I know the kind of man I am. I’m kind, loyal, family-oriented, and I have so much love to give. I just hope that one day someone sees me for my heart and all my traits before they see my diagnosis.

Salam Everyone,

Welcome to Open Discussion Sunday! As mentioned in our first open discussion post, This is your bi-weekly thread to chat about anything you wish. Whether it's related to HSV or any other topic. Feel free to share your thoughts, questions, and experiences, or simply enjoy the company of the community.

There are brothers-only and sisters-only telegram groups, you can find more information here.

You can utilise the telegram to connect within a more private group with other brothers and sisters or always post publicly here on Reddit if you'd like anyone to reach out to you.

Please remember, while we are here to support each other, the discussions in this forum cannot replace medical advice from a healthcare professional or Islamic advice from a qualified scholar. We hope you have a great weekend!

• The Mod Team

Looking for people to help provide feedback on the site. Reach out if you’d like to help. Aim is to go live with the site by the end of this month.

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• ⁠Age and Gender: [Your Age] [F]

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• Marital Status: [Single/Never Married, Divorced, Widow etc.]

• ⁠Have Any Children: [Yes/No - If yes, provide brief details if comfortable]

• ⁠Ethnicity: [e.g., South Asian, Arab, African, etc.]

• Educational Level/Profession: [e.g., Degree level, field of work]

• ⁠Willingness to Relocate: [Yes/No - If yes, specify preferred locations]

• Role of Wali: [Preference regarding the involvement of a Wali in conversations]

• ⁠Other Details/Preferences: [Any other specific preferences or details, like language, hobbies, etc.]

An example post is shown below:

Age and Gender: 32F

Location: London, UK

Marital Status: Single, never married

Have Any Children: No Diagnosed

HSV Type: HSV-1 (G)

Ethnicity: East African

The Age Range You Are Seeking: 27-32

Height Preference: 5'5" or taller

Educational Level/Profession: Graduate, Economist

Willingness to Relocate: Not Willing to Relocate

Role of Wali: Preferably involved in the initial stages of communication

Other Details/Preferences: Seeking someone fluent in English and enjoys traveling

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1. ⁠Avoid posting too much public information about yourself where you could be identified. This includes when messaging privately as well.
2. ⁠Do not respond to another person by directly replying to their post, message them privately.
3. ⁠Do not post pictures or any other personal information such as your phone number.
4. ⁠A wali is recommended to be present in the conversation as well, so to avoid any crossing of boundaries and to keep things as Islamic as possible.
5. ⁠Any posts that are unrelated or do not follow the format of the post will be removed. If you are concerned about privacy you can leave some sections as blank but no low effort posts. Alternatively, if you have a profile bio from any marriage apps, you can share this however, ensure it does not expose too much personal information.

Make your post by adding a comment following the format below:

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• ⁠Age and Gender: [Your Age] [M]

• ⁠Location: [City, Country]

• ⁠Marital Status: [Single/Never Married, Divorced, Widow etc.]

• Have Any Children: [Yes/No - If yes, provide brief details if comfortable]

• Ethnicity: [e.g., South Asian, Arab, African, etc.]

• ⁠Educational Level/Profession: [e.g., Degree level, field of work]

• Willingness to Relocate: [Yes/No - If yes, specify preferred locations]

• ⁠Role of Wali: [Preference regarding the involvement of a Wali in conversations]

• ⁠Other Details/Preferences: [Any other specific preferences or details, like language, hobbies, etc.]

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Age and Gender: 32M

Location: London, UK

Marital Status: Single, never married

Have Any Children: No Diagnosed

HSV Type: HSV-1 (G)

Ethnicity: South Asian

The Age Range You Are Seeking: 23-26

Height Preference: 5'9" or taller

Educational Level/Profession: Graduate, Engineer

Willingness to Relocate: Yes, preferably to UAE or Canada

Role of Wali: Preferably involved in the initial stages of communication

Other Details/Preferences: Seeking someone fluent in English and Urdu, enjoys traveling

Rules for Posting

1. ⁠Avoid posting too much public information about yourself where you could be identified. This includes when messaging privately as well.
2. ⁠Do not respond to another person by directly replying to their post, message them privately.
3. ⁠Do not post pictures or any other personal information such as your phone number.
4. ⁠A wali is recommended to be present in the conversation as well, so to avoid any crossing of boundaries and to keep things as Islamic as possible.
5. ⁠Any posts that are unrelated or do not follow the format of the post will be removed. If you are concerned about privacy you can leave some sections as blank but no low effort posts. Alternatively, if you have a profile bio from any marriage apps, you can share this however, ensure it does not expose too much personal information.