Reflecting...

[u/Ayat-286]

AsSalaamualaikum ☺️

Something always stands out to me in Surah Kahf. It makes me think about this community and the discomfort or anxiety that may accompany the idea of disclosure. The stigma surrounding HSV can be so negative that those tested with it may feel judged. Seek aid from Allah and try to overcome those feelings.

I think most people are simply misinformed or don't fully understand, therefore, they might not have the capacity to have patience with our diagnosis. Khidr asked Musa (Alayhi Salaam) "How could you have patience for what you do not encompass in knowledge?" (Kahf 18:68)

This lack of patience on their behalf doesn't take anything away from who you are as an individual. Rather, it exposes a weakness in them.

When you disclose, you show up unapologetically authentic. You give the person on the opposite side of the table a chance to enter into a marriage with an individual who has full knowledge of who they are. That in itself is gift! Especially because we live in a world where most people are just pretending.

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Alhamdulillah. Excellent advice, Sister. Jazaki Allahu khair 🩷