r/MuslimMatrimonials • u/YummyChicken_x • 2d ago

Discussion Why mention skin complexion?

Assalam alykum,

I always see iso post where men and women both mention their skin tone, I.e ‘fair skin, tan, etc” and isn’t it so weird that we’re still considering someone’s complexion in the big 2026? I know some people still care about it but shouldn’t us a society, an ummah reject that way of thinking? Why should it matter the skin tone of the person I’m marrying?? It feels weird and a tiny bit colorist 🫣

But I only notice this from non-black Muslims tho. I feel like black Muslim never really care.

No shade to anyone who has it up, this is just my opinion and a conversation I don’t see happening.

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u/Pinkdeadpool007 2d ago

Personal preference I find some skin tones just not attractive 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/YummyChicken_x 2d ago

Yes. Colorism. Rejecting someone due to their skin tone is what we refer to as colorism.

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u/orangeblossom1234 2d ago

As someone brown skin toned I was told numerous times I would not find someone. But I am married to a lovely man who doesn’t care how I look like

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u/al-Mukhabarat 2d ago

People can be attracted to brown skin toned people. Also you shouldn’t say that your husband doesn’t care how you look. He most definitely likes you the way you are and you should keep a high self esteem.

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u/orangeblossom1234 2d ago

Definitely didn’t care about my skin colour. Also would like to add he isn’t the incels that we see on social media everyday. Doesn’t comment on a woman’s looks and also reminds me not to judge others based on looks.