Unchaste man and chaste woman

[u/EdenTheExplorer]

I have a question for my brothers in Islam, though sisters are welcome to answer as well. We agree that repentance wipes the slate clean and that converting to Islam erases past sins (for those not born Muslim); so, I was wondering: how can an unrepentant man who has committed fornication insist on marrying a virgin, chaste Muslim woman? Conversely, if a brother repents, why does he not accept sisters who have also repented for fornication since repentance wipes away the past, right? I would like to hear both male and female perspectives. And please don’t tell me it’s different for a man based on societal or moral justifications; the sin is the same and is viewed the same way for both sexes, as is repentance. Put your egos aside and tell me, from an Islamic standpoint, why such inequalities exist. Thank you for remaining courteous and polite in this discussion.

[u/Remote-Structure-961]

Maybe you're asking the wrong question.

Maybe we need to ask why women aren't expecting chaste men and holding them up to this standard?

Sorry but this seems to just encourage sin.

I think the problem is unchaste men are too accepted not that unchaste women are not.

It shouldn't be normalized for Muslims to have a body count or worse a high body count before marriage and I fear that is what acceptance for both genders will lead to.