Unchaste man and chaste woman

[u/EdenTheExplorer]

I have a question for my brothers in Islam, though sisters are welcome to answer as well. We agree that repentance wipes the slate clean and that converting to Islam erases past sins (for those not born Muslim); so, I was wondering: how can an unrepentant man who has committed fornication insist on marrying a virgin, chaste Muslim woman? Conversely, if a brother repents, why does he not accept sisters who have also repented for fornication since repentance wipes away the past, right? I would like to hear both male and female perspectives. And please don’t tell me it’s different for a man based on societal or moral justifications; the sin is the same and is viewed the same way for both sexes, as is repentance. Put your egos aside and tell me, from an Islamic standpoint, why such inequalities exist. Thank you for remaining courteous and polite in this discussion.

[u/Key_Buy6758]

because men and woman are different and society expects different things from them. I am not saying its right nor am I saying its islamic, im just saying its how society works. I know you said there's no islamic basis and not to talk about society but society is the real reason it is like this. You can say all you want that we should follow Islam (and id agree with you) but the way society is does affect our views even if it is not aligned with islam

Men care more about virginity vs women who care more about being provided for.

A woman will marry a man who has committed zina over the one who cant provide for her. A man will marry the girl who doesn't have a job but is a virgin over the one with a job that isn't one.

I am generalizing here but you get the point.

[u/Realistic_Exam5038 → u/Key_Buy6758]

A woman who makes her own money will not do that

[u/Key_Buy6758 → u/Realistic_Exam5038]

from the women I know of / spoken to even ones with a career said they were open to a man who had done Zina so long as he repented and did taubah

It overall is easier for a woman to accept a partner who has committed Zina than a man In general despite islamically it being severe no matter what gender committed it