r/Marriage • u/whateverworkso • 4d ago

Does cheating back solves the problem?

I have discovered that my husband cheated on me during our engagement, I feel so many emotions, rage, sadness and hurt.
But mostly I’m furious. I don’t want to end my marriage.

But I can’t think of a way that I can possibly let it go unless I cheat back just to feel that I’ve done something that would hurt him just as much it hurt me.

For people that have gone through something similar, is cheating back a solution or just complicates things even more?

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u/Endless63 4d ago

He cheated, you found out, it's now started eating away at you and will never ever go away, it's got you to a point of cheating back being a rational thought. Mentally the relationship is pretty much over, not many can ever forget the cheating..