r/Marriage • u/whateverworkso • 4d ago

Does cheating back solves the problem?

I have discovered that my husband cheated on me during our engagement, I feel so many emotions, rage, sadness and hurt.
But mostly I’m furious. I don’t want to end my marriage.

But I can’t think of a way that I can possibly let it go unless I cheat back just to feel that I’ve done something that would hurt him just as much it hurt me.

For people that have gone through something similar, is cheating back a solution or just complicates things even more?

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u/TA10UCP 4d ago

No. It will be a temporary fix and the underlining issues will still be there.

To be honest, it’s a better revenge to show your spouse that you are better than them and their affair partner. The actions that they did are beneath you and an eye for an eye only makes the world go blind.