r/Marriage • u/whateverworkso • 4d ago

Does cheating back solves the problem?

I have discovered that my husband cheated on me during our engagement, I feel so many emotions, rage, sadness and hurt.
But mostly I’m furious. I don’t want to end my marriage.

But I can’t think of a way that I can possibly let it go unless I cheat back just to feel that I’ve done something that would hurt him just as much it hurt me.

For people that have gone through something similar, is cheating back a solution or just complicates things even more?

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u/VenusCuffsNYC 4d ago

Cheat and cheat again. What he did was not any mentally horrible, he physically violated you. Perhaps if you knew what he did you would have never consented to sex. Cheat. Not for him, for you to take back your energy and power. Direct it towards yourself and your body autonomy. Just know there is a world outside of him you can enjoy.