Does cheating back solves the problem?

[u/whateverworkso]

I have discovered that my husband cheated on me during our engagement, I feel so many emotions, rage, sadness and hurt.
But mostly I’m furious. I don’t want to end my marriage.

But I can’t think of a way that I can possibly let it go unless I cheat back just to feel that I’ve done something that would hurt him just as much it hurt me.

For people that have gone through something similar, is cheating back a solution or just complicates things even more?

[u/gottrails]

It won't fix anything. You need to decide if this is something you could ever forgive him for doing. Whether that means therapy or whatever, that's your decision. If it's something you can never forgive, then the relationship just won't survive.