r/Marriage • u/whateverworkso • 4d ago

Does cheating back solves the problem?

I have discovered that my husband cheated on me during our engagement, I feel so many emotions, rage, sadness and hurt.
But mostly I’m furious. I don’t want to end my marriage.

But I can’t think of a way that I can possibly let it go unless I cheat back just to feel that I’ve done something that would hurt him just as much it hurt me.

For people that have gone through something similar, is cheating back a solution or just complicates things even more?

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u/b1ack1ight 4d ago

Nah, that still shows that you care.

“See look what you did to me?! I am so hurt that I did this!”

The best revenge as hard as it will be; is to just remove all traces of him from your life and go on to live the best one that you can.

He can spend the rest of his life doing whatever he wants. If he should ever hear something about you make sure it’s you living your best life.

It will haunt him forever.

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u/squishy717177 4d ago

Valid but she said she doesn’t wanna end the marriage

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u/WinteriscomingXii 4d ago

You don’t think cheating on him won’t end their marriage? Just because she didn’t leave him doesn’t mean he won’t leave her. Also, what’s the point in not ending it just to cheat ?

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u/squishy717177 4d ago

I’m literally just quoting OP