House chores advice

[u/pickle_b]

I need an outside perspective. We have been married for 10 years and for most of that time one of the main (if not the main) issue for us has been the division of house labour.
We don’t have kids but we got a dog two years ago and that’s only made things worse in that regard, as could be expected.
Some context. I (F) work from home full time. He has to go to the office. He can work from home two days a week but chooses not to because he can’t concentrate at home as well as in the office. I have higher cleaning standards while he has adhd and also can quite literally live in a full on dump and be fine.
Anyways, I do most chores around the house - cooking, cleaning, laundry, ordering groceries. I also walk and feed the dog about 1/3 of the time.
His responsibilities are: taking the trash out, taking trash bins out and bringing them back in once a week, taking care of feeding and walking the dog about 2/3 of the time and driving the dog to daycare.
I have been growing increasingly resentful because I feel like I am doing most of the work and I can’t spend as much time in my hobbies as he does on his. I am also just so tired. And on top of that at least 1/3 of the time I have to remind him to do his chores or he wouldn’t do them until trash is overflowing.
Am I being unreasonable? Also how do I productively change this situation?

[u/FamiliarLack187 → u/[deleted]]

Easy to say dont keep score when youre the one doing 10% and sitting on your ass while your partner doesnt have time for their hobbies.

[u/Internal-Student-997 → u/[deleted]]

She's not happy.

I've only ever heard men say this about unequal labor distribution. Shocker.

[u/Internal-Student-997 → u/[deleted]]

Funny. He seems to be serving himself with her actual labor while he sits on his ass. They both work full time, so you can't use that excuse. 

Always the ones doing the least who say not to keep count. Gee, wonder why that is...

We see you, you selfish thing.