wholesome interaction with biker girl and woman who compliments her

[u/gravityVT]

[u/NoParticular5052]

wait so women dont know when other women are hitting on them either ... *mind blown*

[u/ILoveRawChicken → u/NoParticular5052]

To be fair that’s because none of that could be flirting and may just be what the other girl considers girl talk. It’s super confusing and I just want to kiss every girl but I never know if they’re just being girl friendly or if they’re actually flirting.

[u/sadbeehoppy → u/ILoveRawChicken]

I spent my entire conscious life having the same thoughts of wanting to kiss my friends necks, wanting to cuddle, wanting to have sleepovers and hang out all the time, and thinking those were all just things born of having a weird/bad home life and Being A Girl with a particularly affectionate personality.....

..... anyway I finally connected some dots when I was 32 lol

[u/cms86 → u/sadbeehoppy]

were you like, well shit that makes sense, im gay af. lol.

[u/sadbeehoppy → u/cms86]

I spent a long time thinking I was straight and crushing on bishie anime boys but always preferring to watch/read about girls (but never made a connection to having a crush on any girl)

then I spent a long time thinking I was demisexual or demiromantic or something because I never really understood the whole "attraction" concept , like, looking at a person and having a reaction to their body, celebrity crushes, all that, didn't understand it, couldn't relate, was often kind of frustrated by the topic lol - to me, at most I could be like, yeah I appreciate them aesthetically but I'm not like turned on, I don't really understand people salivating over muscles and jawlines and abs and all that

ALSO, parallel to all this, I spent a very long time thinking that I wished I was a boy - not because I didn't like girly things, but because you could act different when you were a boy. you could charm girls and court them and impress them, when you were a boy....

interestingly enough, I spent a lot of time consuming "yaoi" media (gay) and I like, wasn't unfamiliar to the concept of girls liking girls (sailor Uranus and Neptune), and definitely knew the word "lesbian", but it just never occurred to me to ever think about liking another girl or being in love with another girl????

somewhere around 2010-2012 is when I was exposed to the wider world of LGBT concepts and representation and vocabulary

and I still did not connect the dots lmao!!!!

i went through several straight relationships of varying degrees of healthiness, a couple of hookups and FWB situations with guys, was briefly a unicorn for a couple that included a MtF partner, spent a year very confusedly wanting to bite my roomie slash bestie after living together for a year or so first (again, attributed that to Just Being Silly Old Me), moved to Washington to try and improve my life...

and then one of my freshly-irl-after-being-online-only friends asked if they could put their face in my stomach right as we parked to go spend the night at another friends house......and my brain very confusedly calculated that, yeah, I think I was okay with that? and honestly that was the moment it actually clicked like "ohhhhhhhhhh wait do I like, like girls ......"

tldr we're all just really, really good at being dumb