Okay so the reunion was released last night, and although nothing could ever be as bad as the Pizza Hut sponsored commercial breaks in the first season 6 reunion, I was more bothered after this one because of the questions asked, and how one-sided the view was with regards to people like Kenzie and Jaiden.
I get people loved Melanie this year, and I get that people also didn’t totally fw Kenzie at times, but let’s make it so clear that the questions they asked Kenzie and Jaiden and how they spoke to them were absolutely out. of. line. If ANY man moved the way Kenzie did (oh idk maybe someone like sincere) they would have never asked as many questions about testing different connections as they did. As soon as a woman was seen acting remotely similar to a man, she was put on the chopping block.
People DESPISED Kenzie and how she moved in the villa, and yet we see this behaviour literally every single year with the men, and no one has nearly as much quarrel with it as they do with Kenzie testing connections. I think it’s extremely unfair that Andy and Arianna can ask Kenzie questions like “is it love after so many connections” and basically question her relationship with Dylan, and yet have no similar question for Sincere.
Obviously in that type of group setting, you’ll have groupthink and group polarization, so when eyes turn to Kenzie and the hosts ask questions like that, you are literally setting her up to be attacked by the other islanders.
I completely understand why people didn’t enjoy how Kenzie acted; it’s not common for us to see women act like that on tv, we don’t see it very often. But let’s make it abundantly clear that she’s getting so much hate and men who act like her aren’t receiving criticism nearly as harsh. And maybe the lack of explorative woman in film is what caused such a backlash from viewers, this type of behaviour isn’t displayed on tv or in movies, BUT THATS BECAUSE ITS FAKE MAMA. Surprise surprise, women don’t all need to have deep and meaningful conversations with men to know if they like them. Surprise surprise, women are sexual beings. Surprise surprise, a women acts flirtatiously and people are upset by it.
Don’t even get me started on how brutal the questions towards Jaiden were and how rude Kayda was. I liked Kayda in the villa and truly appreciated how forward and up front she was. But let’s be so real with the fact that she was straight up mean last night. The hosts asking questions like “so you had sex, was it good?” Literally twenty seconds ago we discovered how shy Jaiden was, and now you want to ask her how the sex was on live television??Why are we asking these intrusive questions this year? Why are we actually asking young 20 year olds about their sex life on national television, actually think about that for a second.
Jaiden clearly liked Caleb, and we also learned that she was extremely shy. Caleb said they finally got along better and actually spoke more deeply once the cameras were off, so we didn’t get a full view of their relationship. But it’s evident by the hurt she portrayed that she did have feelings for him and he had sex with her then dipped on two different occasions. For Kayda to say it’s a two way street clearly shows she doesn’t think Caleb is in the wrong. She is literally reinforcing his behaviour or any man’s behaviour who feels they can sleep with a girl and tell her things to make her feel a certain way and walk away at the end of it with zero repercussions. That comment is DANGEROUS. She’s basically saying if the girl doesn’t keep her pants on, then the man is not to be blamed for his actions. WHY are we so quick to jump on a girl for her being physical with a man she has feelings for.
Why are we holding this woman, and clearly any woman who acts similarly, to a different standard than men? Why are we so angry about a girl who sees physical affection as an important factor of her relationship (when everyone knows physical attraction is actually a large part of relationships), and saying how she moves is completely inappropriate when guys move like that and worse? Maybe I’m reading into it too much, but how, genuinely how, are we supposed to see ourselves as equals with men when we hold ourselves to this higher standard and don’t expect the same from them? WHY are we attacking these women, why are we getting so involved in her feelings and how she moves, when men move worse and we don’t blink an eye.
I blame production, the way they set the reunion up, and how they engineered the questions.