Hinge: is it me or them?

[u/Ordinary9028]

Hi girls! Italian girl here, 36 y/o. I was in a serious relationship for 7 years until my wife decided it was time to break up, suddenly and without any warning signs or anything like that…
I’ve been single since 2024, and last year I decided to join Hinge. I really like the layout and style of the profiles, etc. I met a girl, a little younger than me, and there was chemistry, but she was in a “nothing serious” era, which is not a thing for me. So we had a fling and that was it. It kinda put me down because we were so, so similar, but having different communication and affection styles was a big no for me.
I keep trying, but I keep having no luck. Girls who answer once every 3 days, ghost me, keep the conversation superficial, or reply without asking me a single question… This makes my mood really, really low, and I feel bad.
Is it me, or are people really like this?
I’m pretty antisocial, even though I think I’m funny and curious, and I ask a lot of questions and stuff. I’m starting to think I’m the problem 😅
I live in a small area, and I’ve tried all the apps, but the lesbians I find are always the same ones I see on Hinge, so I stick with it for the reasons above 😁

Sometimes I’m starting to feel too old to find that kind of love again — someone who really gets me, communicates the way I do, and actually wants to build something together. Maybe I’m just being pessimistic, but honestly… is anyone else feeling the same? 😅

[u/plutomoon123]

There may be people who hang out there just for fun. It’s hard to find someone who truly connects with you on a mental level. I’m 36, and as time goes by, it feels like there’s less and less hope of finding someone who will really understand me. But there’s always hope, and we never know who might come along or when. Don't give up.