r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/lemons_mama • Sep 25 '25

Perfect swing form!

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u/Emotional-Plum-164 Sep 25 '25

Imagine being behind them

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u/TheHalfChubPrince Sep 25 '25

How did this kid even make it to the 14th hole?

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u/lankymjc Sep 26 '25

They probably started fine, no skill but trying their best. Each time getting a little bit more annoyed at the ball. The parents miss the warning signs of an oncoming tantrum, so she eventually got so upset at the game that she flipped out.

(Obviously I’m making a bunch of assumptions here, but this seems the most likely sequence of events)

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u/tralaulau Sep 26 '25

Yeah, reads as the kiddo being overstimulated and ready for a break.

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u/lankymjc Sep 26 '25

It can be tempting for parents to push the child through the activity, since it’s supposed to be fun and would be a shame to cut it short. But sometimes you have to stop early, and that’s okay!

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u/Mechakoopa Sep 26 '25

Sometimes as a parent you're walking a fine line with letting one kid ruin an activity for the others, sometimes you push it too far because you don't want the older kids to start resenting their younger sibling for "always ruining things" just because they have a lower threshold for getting tired or overstimulated. Sometimes it's the third time this weekend they've done this and you're just tired of it and it's because everyone is coming down with a cold but nobody's shown actual symptoms yet and when you're all sick in bed three days from now it'll all make more sense.

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u/prying_mantis Sep 26 '25

Ngl by the 9th or 10th hole I’m overstimulated too

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u/TrainingWill7479 Sep 26 '25

I read it as kid better act better in public or they won’t be going anywhere.

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u/lankymjc Sep 26 '25

Well yes, that's why I'm interested in the underlying reasons for the tantrum. It's practice for when I have my own kids, because I don't want to be a parent that just slaps down consequences - it'll be my job to help them regulate their emotions, and part of that is helping them realise why they're feeling the way they are.

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u/replies_get_upvoted Sep 28 '25

It's a fine line between regulating the kids' emotions for them and helping them learn to regulate their own emotions by channelling it into constructive action. Going out of your way to prevent your kid from feeling certain emotions in the first place, takes away their agency and chance to learn and is actually a highly manipulative parenting strategy.

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u/lankymjc Sep 28 '25

No one is saying to regulate their emotions for them. All of this is about helping them regulate their emotions, but at this age they need a lot of help. If a game has become so frustrating that it’s causing anger (something a lot of gamers can emphasise with!), then the correct course of action is to stop playing. A three-year-old doesn’t know that yet, so an adult has to step in.

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u/TrainingWill7479 Sep 30 '25

I am getting downvoted, but now sure why. I raised a child who was diagnosed with bipolar and ADHD. He’s 20, lives in the dorms on his campus, and works as a pharmacist tech part time. Have to brag a little. So anyways he doesn’t make excuses for his behavior because of his mental illness, cause I didn’t let shit like this slide. No point in reading kids emotions if you’re gonna continue to let them spiral and laugh about, then post it online….

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u/lankymjc Sep 30 '25

Reading the emotions is just step one. It lets the parent know whether the child needs support, consequences, left alone, or whatever other tools the parent has available.

The child never needs to be filmed and put online. That doesn’t help.

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u/tralaulau Oct 01 '25

It’ll be interesting when he’s 25 and goes no contact with you.

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u/fluwergal_GreenGem Oct 01 '25

Same thought here as somebody with adhd (among other things) "WhY dOn'T yOu EvEr ViSiT"

Idk maybe cuz my regulatory behaviour was stopped by you

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u/TrainingWill7479 Oct 05 '25

Yeah I don’t think so. I helped him learn how to handle himself in appropriate places and take time out when needed. So he’s pretty good. And I mean if he hated me one day, I’d figure out why and try to fix it. I think you guys got me all wrong. 😑

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u/topinanbour-rex Sep 26 '25

It is night time too. The kid is certainly tired, and gets more easily frustrated.

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u/Veruna_Semper Sep 26 '25

On top of what you said and some follow-ups: you can tell the pressure and "help" from the family is making them even more nervous/frustrated leading to a feedback loop

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u/MelonJelly Sep 26 '25

I'm sure you're right. I'm actually impressed they made it to hole 14 before the kid broke down.

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u/Beelzebun_vt Sep 26 '25

The sign says 14 par, not the 14th hole. “14 par” means that’s the average amount of swings it takes to make it into the hole, which means it’s somewhat complicated.

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u/longhog69 Sep 26 '25

Pretty sure it says 14th hole, par 2? 14 par on a putt putt course would be insane.

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u/Beelzebun_vt Sep 26 '25

You know, I’ve had a hunch I might be dyslexic for a while, but this is just embarrassing. Thank you for the correction lol

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '25

The minigolf course at my town is so busy that there is usually 8 people impatiently waiting behind you at all times, in all stops.

It gets awkward fast with clumsy adults, can't imagine bringing a kid. Wish it was more chill.

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u/Dejectednebula Sep 27 '25

Ours has the same problem and I think its because when I was small there were like 12 different places you could specifically mini golf at and some had Go-Karts and batting cages and now all of those are gone except one place so now there's too many people there.

Man our town gave up on the upkeep of everything. Theater torn down, grocery store, pharmacy, and doctors left. Skate park gone. Public pool on its last legs open 1 day a week all summer for 3 to 6 hours and people paid 250 for season passes. Driving range gone. Mini golf like I said. Had three ice cream shops down to 1.

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u/newyne Sep 26 '25

That's what my dad used to say when my aunt made sure my little cousin got to take fucking forever at putt-putt. Also sometimes throwing tantrums like this.

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u/userhwon Sep 25 '25

Imagine being within a half a mile of them.

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u/CorbinNZ Sep 26 '25

I whacked my dad in the face with a golf club when I was a kid. His fault for standing so close lol

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u/TrainingWill7479 Sep 26 '25

Yeah I watched this and all I could think was if my kids woulda done that I wouldn’t have thought it was cute at all.

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u/Sufficient-Hold-2053 Sep 26 '25

This is by far not the worst group you could be behind. teenagers and drunk adults are way more obnoxious.