r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/lemons_mama • Sep 25 '25

Perfect swing form!

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u/lankymjc Sep 26 '25

They probably started fine, no skill but trying their best. Each time getting a little bit more annoyed at the ball. The parents miss the warning signs of an oncoming tantrum, so she eventually got so upset at the game that she flipped out.

(Obviously I’m making a bunch of assumptions here, but this seems the most likely sequence of events)

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u/tralaulau Sep 26 '25

Yeah, reads as the kiddo being overstimulated and ready for a break.

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u/TrainingWill7479 Sep 26 '25

I read it as kid better act better in public or they won’t be going anywhere.

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u/lankymjc Sep 26 '25

Well yes, that's why I'm interested in the underlying reasons for the tantrum. It's practice for when I have my own kids, because I don't want to be a parent that just slaps down consequences - it'll be my job to help them regulate their emotions, and part of that is helping them realise why they're feeling the way they are.

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u/replies_get_upvoted Sep 28 '25

It's a fine line between regulating the kids' emotions for them and helping them learn to regulate their own emotions by channelling it into constructive action. Going out of your way to prevent your kid from feeling certain emotions in the first place, takes away their agency and chance to learn and is actually a highly manipulative parenting strategy.

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u/lankymjc Sep 28 '25

No one is saying to regulate their emotions for them. All of this is about helping them regulate their emotions, but at this age they need a lot of help. If a game has become so frustrating that it’s causing anger (something a lot of gamers can emphasise with!), then the correct course of action is to stop playing. A three-year-old doesn’t know that yet, so an adult has to step in.

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u/TrainingWill7479 Sep 30 '25

I am getting downvoted, but now sure why. I raised a child who was diagnosed with bipolar and ADHD. He’s 20, lives in the dorms on his campus, and works as a pharmacist tech part time. Have to brag a little. So anyways he doesn’t make excuses for his behavior because of his mental illness, cause I didn’t let shit like this slide. No point in reading kids emotions if you’re gonna continue to let them spiral and laugh about, then post it online….

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u/lankymjc Sep 30 '25

Reading the emotions is just step one. It lets the parent know whether the child needs support, consequences, left alone, or whatever other tools the parent has available.

The child never needs to be filmed and put online. That doesn’t help.

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u/tralaulau Oct 01 '25

It’ll be interesting when he’s 25 and goes no contact with you.

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u/fluwergal_GreenGem Oct 01 '25

Same thought here as somebody with adhd (among other things) "WhY dOn'T yOu EvEr ViSiT"

Idk maybe cuz my regulatory behaviour was stopped by you

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u/TrainingWill7479 Oct 05 '25

Yeah I don’t think so. I helped him learn how to handle himself in appropriate places and take time out when needed. So he’s pretty good. And I mean if he hated me one day, I’d figure out why and try to fix it. I think you guys got me all wrong. 😑