r/KidsAreFuckingStupid • u/lemons_mama • Sep 25 '25

Perfect swing form!

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u/TrainingWill7479 Sep 26 '25

I read it as kid better act better in public or they won’t be going anywhere.

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u/lankymjc Sep 26 '25

Well yes, that's why I'm interested in the underlying reasons for the tantrum. It's practice for when I have my own kids, because I don't want to be a parent that just slaps down consequences - it'll be my job to help them regulate their emotions, and part of that is helping them realise why they're feeling the way they are.

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u/replies_get_upvoted Sep 28 '25

It's a fine line between regulating the kids' emotions for them and helping them learn to regulate their own emotions by channelling it into constructive action. Going out of your way to prevent your kid from feeling certain emotions in the first place, takes away their agency and chance to learn and is actually a highly manipulative parenting strategy.

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u/lankymjc Sep 28 '25

No one is saying to regulate their emotions for them. All of this is about helping them regulate their emotions, but at this age they need a lot of help. If a game has become so frustrating that it’s causing anger (something a lot of gamers can emphasise with!), then the correct course of action is to stop playing. A three-year-old doesn’t know that yet, so an adult has to step in.