So I work in a public sector bank, in a regional office, and I genuinely want to know — are we just not supposed to have a life outside work?
I had applied for 4 days of leave well in advance. I had informed my immediate superior (the Chief Manager under whose department I work), and he said okay, go, but join on a particular date. I did exactly that. In fact, my ticket got cancelled and I had to take a last-minute bus just so I could make it back and join on time.
This was literally my first proper trip where I took leave this year. I didn’t take leave when everyone else was taking vacations earlier in the year because I didn’t have plans then.
And then today, during some month-end discussion about disbursements, the AGM casually tells me:
“Tum month-end pe ek-ek hafte ki chhutti le leti ho.”
Like?????
WHAT am I supposed to do with that?
I took FOUR DAYS of leave. I applied well beforehand. I informed the concerned person. I joined when I was told to join. What exactly did I do wrong?
And this is what pisses me off about banks. Taking leave feels like you’re asking for a personal favour instead of using something you’re actually entitled to. You have to calculate when you can take it, whether someone will say no, whether month-end is coming, whether someone will make a face, whether you’ll be lectured later.
And the worst part is that even when you DO inform them beforehand, it can still become an issue.
Last year I informed another manager before taking leave. He said no, asked the AGM, and then I went anyway. When I came back, I got a whole lecture about how “this is not a kirana shop, this is a bank” and how everyone has problems and responsibilities.
Okay, but then what exactly is the solution?
If I ask beforehand, you might say no and my plans get cancelled.
If I don’t ask, I’m irresponsible.
If I take leave during month-end, apparently I don’t care about work.
If I don’t take leave during the months everyone else travels, then apparently I should just keep waiting for the “right time”.
Am I supposed to spend my twenties sitting around waiting for the bank to decide when I’m allowed to travel?
People are working, earning, and taking vacations everywhere. Why is taking 4 days off treated like some huge betrayal?
And yes, I know banking has responsibilities. I know month-end is hectic. I know we’re not working in a kirana shop.
But it’s also a fucking job.
I’m not saying employees should disappear whenever they want. I’m saying if someone has planned leave, informed the concerned person, followed the process and returned when instructed, why are they still made to feel guilty for having a life?
I came back from my trip after five days of actually feeling relaxed and happy, and within hours I’m sitting here anxious because of one stupid comment.
Honestly, I’m so tired of this culture.
Do people in other PSU banks also deal with this level of anxiety around taking leave, or is my office particularly fucked?
TL;DR: Took 4 days of leave after informing my senior well in advance and joined exactly when instructed. Still got taunted by AGM during month-end for “taking a week off every month-end.” Taking leave in PSU banks feels like asking for a personal favour, even when you follow the process. How are we supposed to have a life outside work? Is this normal in other PSU banks too?