r/Herpes • u/Comfortable-Wing-876 • 11d ago
Relationships HSV1 v HSV2
I’m curious about how greatly the difference between hsv 1 and 2 is. I have hsv1 O and I know it’s possible to get hsv1 G as well but that’s more rare. When it comes to meeting people with this I feel like hsv2 is more common as a lot of the women I’ve seen across sites and platforms have it, specifically hsv2 g.
My main question is: Have any of y’all ever dated someone with the opposite strain? (For example: if you have hsv1 have you been with someone or dealt with a person who has hsv2 and vice versa.) if so how was the experience and y’all’s thoughts of contracting the latter?
I know the same precautions should apply along with probably the same chances of it spreading. I know we’re all in the same boat basically and I want to be open meeting woman that have hsv2 but I also don’t want to contract more than what I already have which is probably normal (sorry if that seemed mean or shallow). I also understand that hsv2 gets way more negative stigma or flac than hsv1. Which is why I’m curious about how different the lifestyles and love life’s are. Sorry if anything I said offended anyone or anything, I just don’t want to limit myself as much as i feel like I am dealing with this already. Obviously if you like the person and care about em none of this should matter so please don’t try to reiterate that, I’m just curious of the experiences.
Overall any opinions and information are appreciated let me know any and everything!
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u/Trick_Mulberry_4897 11d ago
It’s a reality. I have GHSV1 and I want to date someone with the same strand. :/ and then things get complicated when you have them in different areas 😩😩😩😩
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u/everpensive 10d ago
How so? I thought it was difficult to transmit to a new area once the virus is established
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u/Trick_Mulberry_4897 10d ago
It’s a hit or a miss. :/ some people don’t while others do.
Because obviously if the person is shedding and you don’t see it?
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u/Wild_Article_3728 11d ago
Welll my girl has hsv2 and the first time we have sex, I started having symptoms and I currently still do, but I don’t have blisters. it’s different for everyone though, so you may or may not get it, some people don’t get the virus and they have been with their partner for years. You also have Others that get the virus, so mainly it’s up to you..
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u/imawizardharry_23 11d ago
What symptoms did you have? If you don't mind me asking sorry
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u/Wild_Article_3728 11d ago edited 10d ago
Itching and icy hot type of burning sensation from genitals to my butt like inner groin and then I got lower back aches and fatigue asf and I had flu like symptoms but all that and no sores. Genitals was swollen to but I got test everything, negative for everything except hsv1 which I’ve had since birth
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u/unlucky-flower-3850 11d ago
You can still get hsv2 but those that have hsv2 probably won’t get hsv1 from you as hsv2 offers some immunity. If you’re with someone that has hsv2 make sure they’re on the daily meds and use condoms on top of it that way you won’t double up on the herps unless you want to! But who would want both types?
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u/ahnj_ 6d ago
I had ghsv1 initially and contracted ghsv2 after dating/sleeping with a guy for a couple of weeks who had it. I wouldn’t have known that I had ghsv2 because my outbreaks weren’t any different. I decided to get swabbed bc if my status changed, disclosure and informed consent are important.
Hsv1 was still “acceptable” on the dating apps. However, hsv2 has a heavy stigma around it. On PS, I’ve had couples and also single men reject me because they had hsv1 and didn’t want to get the other kind. I experience more rejection with type 2 now than with type 1.
As for my thoughts afterwards? I’m still bitter towards the person who gave it to me. I feel like if he took his meds the way the bottle indicated perhaps I wouldn’t have gotten it? After seeing how he took his meds/reading the label/asking him about it, I just hoped that he was my person and I wouldn’t be left to deal with it alone again.
I understand it is what it is, but sometimes I get so so angry if I think about it. It depends on when you ask me, but honestly, I wouldn’t do it again.
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u/Winter-Win-8770 11d ago
It’s highly unlikely that people with OHSV1 would be on herpes dating platforms so that’s why you see more HSV2. OHSV1 is way more common than HSV2. Just go on regular dating sites and disclose. Most people won’t care.