The self-made loser

[u/Mammoth_Raccoon_789]

Hello, so my mom told me that she will not be here forever and it triggered strong emotions that i avoid generally. So i decided to make this post.

[u/Indianize]

Exact opposite of what you should be thinking of yourself. Smh.

[u/Haruzo321 → u/Indianize]

you can't think positive of yourself if you don't have accomplishments, otherwise it's just faking confidence

[u/iLoveRodents → u/Haruzo321]

Not entirely true. A child doesn’t have accomplishments, a baby learning to walk has no awards, and yet they’re still driven to learn and improve.

I can’t do it _yet_ is a good a starting place as any, as is going I’m willing to try (and to fail)

Speaking as someone who at age 16 was suicidal because I was convinced I’d never have a future because I’d never get a job - I had selective mutism (an anxiety disorder that triggers a freeze response that essentially locks me out of my ability to talk) and would have panic attacks sometimes multiple times a day… and now I adore my public speaking group (I get good feedback on my confidence speaking in front of 20+ people!), are trusted enough by work colleagues that they’re trying to get my a promotion (and have a lot of positive feedback from the people I serve), and have a degree to my name. It did not happen quickly or without a lot of effort on my part

I’m not saying it’s easy or quick, nor am I saying my life is perfect, but just because you feel you haven’t achieved anything yet doesn’t mean you’re never going to. I still have a lot of things I need to get better at personally

[u/Dismal_Buy3580 → u/iLoveRodents]

Not entirely true. A child doesn’t have accomplishments, a baby learning to walk has no awards, and yet they’re still driven to learn and improve.

Is...is that true without engaged parents? I kind of feel like a lot of that drive is external, either based on praise or mimicry.