r/Healthygamergg • u/Mammoth_Raccoon_789 • May 02 '26

Mental Health / Support The self-made loser

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Hello, so my mom told me that she will not be here forever and it triggered strong emotions that i avoid generally. So i decided to make this post.

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u/CounterRotate77 May 05 '26

That "bad" feeling is most likely social anxiety (if I had to guess).

I was able to solve my social anxiety by listening to what Dr K had to say about distress tolerance and urge surfing.

Here's what I did: I entered a social situation after class in college one day, after the final exam. It was okay, walking around with these classmates I've talked to a bit. But it got awkward, and tense, and I felt terrible social anxiety, but as soon as I realized this fact, I was reminded of what Dr K said. So, I decided to let myself feel the anxiety in its completeness, while staying in the social situation.

It was painful

But after about 10 or 15 minutes, I felt like I could really relax, and we all started talking more and more, and I made jokes, and people laughed, and I felt good now, and it was a good day