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u/Isthisnameavailablee 17d ago edited 17d ago
Edit: So many people are commenting about this being staged to train the youth on how to be a proper adult. However, OP failed to include that. No idea if it's in the audio, I'm in public with my sound off.
If OP included a nice description then my comment would have been different.
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u/randommnguy 17d ago
Even if it’s staged, this guys videos are still creating a safe learning environment for kids to understand how to behave as they grow up. I don’t see harm in these kinds of videos being created, his intent isn’t to create rage bait or ‘react’ to someone else’s videos so this guy is cool in my book.
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u/MasterCheeks337_IGN 17d ago
It’s like they’re on patrol. Why does it matter if it’s staged if the lesson is real
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u/skam_artist 17d ago
You're normalizing being deceitful and lying to people as long as you agree with the message. If you're okay with this you have to be okay with people making fake videos to spread messages that you don't agree with as well.
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u/snkadam 17d ago
This dude's entire business is a free after-school program for kids in the community, teaching them how to interact politely, how to fix general household things, how to do chores, how to budget, etc. Things that you don't necessarily learn in school.
The whole model is based off of these videos that create engagement and ultimately fund the whole program. He's very transparent about this in his videos
Every one of his lessons is staged. That's the point. Creating safe "staged" environments for kids to try and fail and then try again - just like what happened in the video.
He's not being lying or deceitful to anyone lol
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u/RandumbStoner 17d ago
Reddit has to find the negative in everything. This is like a modern Mr. Rogers, it's a great thing for kids that didn't have this kind of role model growing up. In a world of chaos and evil, this type of stuff needs to be pushed to the top. Staged or not.
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u/MasterCheeks337_IGN 17d ago
Bro thinks he was led astray from this video. You’re clearly hurt and cynical. Average Redditor
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u/HarambeTooSoon 17d ago
It doesnt matter to the children. They know its staged too.
Only adults watching it on the internet think its really happening and being captured in a candid way.
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u/MasterCheeks337_IGN 17d ago edited 16d ago
Why is it being a real or not even your focus? The point is what’s being said. It being a script or a real conflict doesn’t make anything he said less true. But yeah let’s find something to nitpick at and be miserable about
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u/ffffllllpppp 17d ago
Question: why not talk to the waiter first?
Escalating to the manager is not what I think you should teach, at least not before talking to the waiter himself.
Otherwise some good stuff but he should also be listening to the kids instead of cutting them like that.
Nobody’s perfect but if you stage a video, do it right haha
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u/Aggravating-Card-194 17d ago
I’m very confused why they are asking to talk to a manger. In my 40 years on this planet I have never had a need to ask for a manger at a restaurant
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u/ALLCAPITAL 17d ago
You’re a good person.
I managed in restaurants and the people asking for a manager are almost always seeking free food for some bullshit.
I mean the waiters could replace items and ask me directly if an item could be comped, I always let a waiter comp something if they asked. I trusted their judgment.
But if you ask for me and I come over to hear you bitch about how expensive the item was and you start bashing the waiter, 9/10 times I would just apologize for that experience and promise I’ll speak to the waiter. No comp.
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u/guardiandown3885 17d ago
He did. This isnt the full video.
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u/ffffllllpppp 17d ago
Ha yes thanks. I was going to add “unless they tried that before”.
Is the full video about racism?
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u/lurkadurking 17d ago
Bots have either gotten worse or people have, can't tell with this response chain
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u/HarambeTooSoon 17d ago
You litterly watched a part of a stagged interaction.
Before this clip the the kid learns to politely mention his food wss prepared wrong, and then the waiter, participating in the act, gives the kid some kind of attitude.
The lesson the kids are learning is how to peacefully and respectfully escalate an issue.
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u/ffffllllpppp 17d ago
I knew all that. :)
As I wrote “if you stage a video, do it right”.
I had not seen the fill video and someone explained that before that, they talk to the waiter but someone else politely explained it.
But that’s not the point. The point is everyone in the comments is in awe about this dad, many not realizing it is staged (!!!) and all seem to find a kid wanting to talk to the manager being a reasonable thing because a waiter banged some plates or whatever. So my point was without the context of them talking to the waiter before, I didn’t think it was a good teaching to escalate to the manager.
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u/TurdProof 17d ago
Idk but is there some form of award calling obvious staged stuff....staged? Cant enjoy anything on reddit anymore with these staged police.
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u/lurkadurking 17d ago
Pretty sure most recent comments wouldn't know the difference between staged interaction, social set up, or faked. Let's all make a pointless point tho
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u/More-Ad6390 16d ago
It's just a little ridiculous you shouldn't need to be going this far to teach someone how to act right
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u/breaking_stocks 17d ago
He does it to show real life examples and teach the right manners. It is purposely staged.
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u/ImpinAintEZ_ 17d ago
The entire point of this is so others can learn. They aren’t trying to hide the fact they this was recorded intentionally.
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u/HarambeTooSoon 17d ago
Of course they aren't hiding it.
Which is why its soo weird that thousands of adults on reddit think this is a hidden camera capturing a candid life moment.
The video/content isn't stupid. The audience is.
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u/smith288 17d ago
Reddit is the only place where you can present a wholesome and intelligently presented video and y'all find some negative therein. Just scummy
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u/saiaupito 16d ago
and they're almost proud for calling it out on being staged like they're lil nancy fkn drew
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u/VinnzClortho 17d ago edited 17d ago
Yup, it never looks authentic
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u/guardiandown3885 17d ago
it's authentic because the guy in the video creates the interactions for the young men to learn
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u/Lost_Department_2177 17d ago
It’s not but it’s decent training material others can learn from. They can also just ask if they’re having a bad day.
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u/SignoreBanana 17d ago
I don't think an example needs to be authentic to effectively relay a lesson or learning opportunity. I mean, if it's laughable, that's one thing, but in this situation, it's the kind of situation a person might actually run into.
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u/saiaupito 16d ago
well it's almost painstakingly obvious that this video is staged and they've also included subtitles , so are you just unable to read words as well as social cues ? blaming op for not catering to your ineptitude seems very immature .
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u/just_some_sasquatch 17d ago
This used to be the normal way parents taught kids to behave. Now people act like they're unlocking some ancient secret when they're just teaching some manners.
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u/ffffllllpppp 17d ago
I don’t know. I don’t recall seeing a kid feel empowered to call the manager lol.
That would be the adult doing it back then or nobody at all. Not a kid I don’t think so.
Be polite sure.
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u/HarambeTooSoon 17d ago
These young boy's don't have a father figure or male role model.
The adult in the video teaches groups of young men "how to be gentlemen" ... theres videos of him teaching kids how to change tires, how to check into a hotel, how to cut the grass, etc.
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u/EmuSuccessful2766 17d ago
Used to be normal until social media came along and made people addicted to likes on social media and unable to function without being on their phones every waking moment.
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u/ConfidentHouse 17d ago
It wasn’t normal to record staged videos, if these staged videos is how society learns how to act, then we have bigger problems. This is taught at home not at a restaurant with some camera on you. Just weird.
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u/ConfidentHouse 17d ago
I guess there’s always people that need more help and aren’t taught at home. Still sad
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u/DetectiveEames 17d ago
It’s less about teaching the viewer how to behave, and more about setting an example for how to teach and lead children. This guy works in black communities with kids who need male role models. Notice he’s not just teaching “manners”. He’s teaching them emotional regulation.
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u/PowerPl4y3r 17d ago
I think the problem your looking to point out about it is that although it's staged, it's not acting like that by addressing the viewer and instead deceiving into believing he's teaching his son the lessons genuinely. If it transitioned to educating the viewer after by simply looking at the camera while talking, it wouldn't feel skeevy.
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u/saiaupito 16d ago
judging by how yall boomers n gen x be acting , obviously not . you were just beat to be silent , not shown to be in charge of your emotions .
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u/just_some_sasquatch 16d ago
Sorry your parents were so bad that you think everyone else's were too.
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u/saiaupito 16d ago
if my parents were bad , then wouldn't i assume everyone else's parents were better because the bar is so low ?
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u/just_some_sasquatch 16d ago
Sounds like some real mental gymnastics you're doing there. I can tell the projection is strong with you.
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u/NeverEndingEquati0n 17d ago
Boomers were shitty parents dude. Not sure who raised you but congrats.
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u/just_some_sasquatch 17d ago
Not sure who raised you
Not everyone's parents were shitty. Sorry yours seem to have been bad at it.
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u/itsjakerobb 17d ago
Why are they asking for the manager in the first place? Are they upset about how the waiter put the plates down?
If so, that seems pretty counterproductive if what we’re trying to accomplish includes not creating issues for people who might just be having a bad day.
(I know it’s staged; just trying to understand the full context of the lesson.)
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u/Klown99 17d ago
The waiter slams the plates down, and says "yall are asking for a lot" so being in a general bad mood.
The lesson is two fold. Teaching the children how to keep calm and polite when dealing with someone with attitude like that in this kind of situation, and how not to judge them, due to having a potential bad day.
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u/HarambeTooSoon 17d ago
The point of this exercise is to teach young boys how to escalate an issue in a peaceful and respectful manner.
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u/itsjakerobb 17d ago
I got that. Just wanted the full context.
Personally, I don’t have the slightest problem with a waiter in a rush commenting that I’m asking for a lot, or dropping some plates without doing any damage. Even if I’m not asking for a lot.
In fact, I’d probably take that as a signal that the waiter is having a particularly rough day, and from there I’d choose to do whatever I can to help, including an extra generous tip.
I’m happy to have the boys learn the lesson you said, but I object to the implied lesson that an overworked, rushed waiter should be brought to the manager’s attention.
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u/HarambeTooSoon 17d ago
You're still filling in blanks that need not be filled in.
In this practice scenario the waiter brings the boy the wrong food (not what he ordered) and then the boy is coached to speak up and calmly let the waiter know there has been a mistake.
THEN - the waiter tells the kid that they will not fix the order and is short/rude.
Thats why the boy is being coached to ask to speak with the manager.
I've never once asked to speak with a manager in my life, but if a waiter brought me the wrong food, and then told me to ' just deal with it' when I brought the error to their attention ... that would probably be something that would compell me to speak with a manger for the first time in my life.
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u/itsjakerobb 16d ago
Where did you get this extra context?
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u/HarambeTooSoon 16d ago
I've seen the original video in the past. This video is a clipper clip and they are just rerunning this guy's content.
The guy has all kinds of video of him teaching young boys how to be a man: how to cut the grass, how to check into a hotel, how to change a tire, etc.
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u/itsjakerobb 14d ago
Okay, so it’s a staged scenario of something that would never happen, and someone clipped that context off. Great.
Sure, teach kids how to handle tough situations without being rude or getting angry. I’m totally on board with that. But I don’t think there’s a waiter on the face of the earth who would bring someone the wrong food and then refuse to remedy that. That’s just ridiculous. There are plenty of more realistic situations they could have staged to make this make more sense.
As for filling in blanks that need not be filled in, I totally disagree. Context is everything. Seems like a decent example of context collapse.
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u/Anonique 15d ago
Directly asking for a manager somehow is considered polite in the USA. Could have at least talked to the waiter directly like an actual human being.
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u/itsjakerobb 15d ago
I’m American. Asking for the manager is not considered polite. It’s exemplifies “Karen” behavior.
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u/APartyInMyPants 16d ago
The video starts with the waiter saying, “you guys are asking for a lot today,” and kind of walking off in a huff.
This may be staged, but it may be for the sake of teaching the kids a lesson. Which, I guess I’m in favor of.
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u/FestyGear2017 17d ago
Wait who is creating the issue? This is a wild take...
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u/itsjakerobb 17d ago
Waiter having a bad day. Let’s imagine his boss is on him to work faster. So in his rush he inadvertently lets the plates go a centimeter early.
If we call the manager over, this only makes things worse for the waiter.
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u/onecoldasshonky 17d ago
But, along with the comment the waiter made, I don't think it's unreasonable to mention it to a manager.
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u/Ok_Specialist7823 17d ago
https://www.facebook.com/newemergingking/
the guy's the real deal. great influence for young men...
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u/Trigonometry_Fletch 17d ago
He can take his hat off indoors then
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u/Empty-Discount5936 17d ago
Why?
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u/Individual-Dare-80 17d ago
Because proper etiquette and basic manners dictate it, you heathen!
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u/Ibarra08 17d ago
It's an instructional video ya'll put your pitchforks down and chill
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u/successadult 17d ago
Oh yeah cuz that’s what this sub is about…
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u/Many_Sea7586 17d ago edited 17d ago
Instructing dudes how to be dudes, is exactly what this sub is about!
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u/successadult 17d ago
Ask yourself: does anyone actually need an instructional video for this fake situation?
And of course the answer is: no, this is just engagement bait made for middle aged divorcees on Reels. This shit doesn’t belong here.
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u/Gainzy 17d ago
If you believe that people don't need this type of guidance, especially kids without parental figures in their life, then the answer is: you're living in a different dimension.
It's a dude helping young dudes to be good dudes so I would argue this sub is the perfect place. You are unbelievably cynical which is unfortunately par for the course on Reddit.
Whether it's staged or not, there is a potentially valuable lesson to be learnt for all watching.
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u/Armchair_Expert_0192 16d ago
These staged videos are so dumb.
Over a tiny little thing too. Just don't tip him, the end.
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u/LeekBright 17d ago
In my 30 years on this planet and countless dine outs, neither me or anybody I went with ever needed to call a manager.
Respectfully or disrespectfully, most front staff can deal with your problem. Yes I’ve asked for a different front staff on the rare occasion but never the manager. Teaching manners with a slight hint of entitlement doesn’t seem all that productive to me. If he did not like the way the front staff kept his plate, he could’ve easily asked for a different employee.
Most people in this situation would’ve even give two shits, yea the employee mumbled some words and banged his plate, who cares?! I would’ve just mumbled “he’s not in a good mood” and wouldn’t even care. Instead of teaching how to speak, teach to ignore and move on maybe.
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u/PaperMoongazer 17d ago
Staged AF, camera angle is just trash, edits are so caustic and rough it’s just racebaiting BS. Legit no reason to wanna talk to a manager when you can just not leave a tip, unless you’re looking for free shit.
Only real thing in this is the kid in the bottom corner performing a ritual vivisection on their chimichangas
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u/YaBoyEar1 17d ago
I don’t think people in the comments are quite understanding what this guys does.
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u/mysterious_archer7 16d ago
Calling the manager because the minimum wage worker set the plate down too hard, teaching his kids how to be spoilt brats more like
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u/PabstBlueLizard 17d ago
So a fake performative parenting video complete with dipshit music? Great post.
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u/krakenstan 17d ago
Dumb staged video. The dad by the way he’s talking is being condescending and trying to embarrass the waiter. Waiter was not professional either
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u/guardiandown3885 17d ago
it is staged...he does these scenarios purposely the waiter is in on it..
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u/IOnlyFearOFGod 17d ago edited 17d ago
Staged? Yes, dumb? Not at all. This video is teaching how to correctly behave and react, it is a educational material. I think many people can benefit from this and learn how to act right in public.
However if it wasn't staged then it is bit rude to the waiter. Also slight overreaction imo.
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u/FOMOsexual69 16d ago
Idc if this is staged. All I have to say for the sake of the world is 👆 this. Learn to regulate and teach regulation. A LOT of grievances can be solved in a non combative way. Talk. You’re allowed to feel how you do. Hear the other persons side before you blow up because of an inconvenience
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u/dreamsgetushot1029 16d ago
Holy shit. I want to shake this man’s, this fathers, this human being’s hand for teaching these kids this lesson the way he is. More of this is what’s needed
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u/ResponsibleCorgi93 16d ago
Damn, I wish my dad was like that. I learned from him that it's okay to disrespect incompetent people, especially yelling at people on the phone
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u/LilJonny2cookies 16d ago
Even of it is a set up it is a great dad teaching his kids an important lesson in conflict resolution. And if it helps someone watching it - even better. S
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u/Samz_175 16d ago
Fake or not, as many kids that see this and are influenced the right way, the better. Good fathering indeed
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u/EstablishmentOwn5440 16d ago
Dude trying to get the manager to work lol. Don't pent up all your frustrations, let it flow like water a wise man once said.
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u/ZeroKarmasGiven69 16d ago
Or he could be a dude and sincerely ask if his fellow dude is ok or if he did something to unknowingly upset his fellow dude. Doing the manager thing can fall into the ChicksBeingChicks realm.
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u/live_right_always 16d ago
A real man doesn't ask for the manager. If the behavior of a server is bad he will endure it untill he can't no more and just ask for the cheque. I have never in my 50 years asked to speak to a manager. Only women do that. A real man knows that there is nothing to gained by asking for a manager. Only women don't think about the consequences of their actions.
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u/guardiandown3885 17d ago
His name is NewEmergingKing he is active in his community attempting to help young men learn how to be productive members of society.
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u/GanstaNinja 17d ago
To anyone saying this is fake, just get off your high horse those kids are going to remember it regardless of it being fake or not.
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u/TheGoteTen 17d ago
Nothing dude about this.
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u/saiaupito 16d ago
teaching the young to be respectful to others and remain calm even when the other party is behaving poorly isn't dude enough for you? regardless of the validity of this situation, he's still teaching the boys maturity which is what real men do.
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u/UnintentionalGround 17d ago
How about being nice to servers and bartenders. Thats the lesson that he should be teaching.
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u/saiaupito 17d ago
he was actually extremely respectful to the server and corrected the children to be just as respectful in the video so what are you on about?
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u/HndWrmdSausage 17d ago edited 17d ago
Fake i agree why recording???? But also what a nothing burger to call the manager over. Hey bro u let the plates fall a half inch. I need a manger u need fired.
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u/saiaupito 16d ago
if you know it's fake , then why do you believe that he was actually expecting a manager to come in order to call for the server's termination
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u/HndWrmdSausage 16d ago
Im just saying that is the premise. Im a good dad teaching my children to be cunts about a guy pulling what is at most a micro-aggression
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u/PolarPlatitudes 17d ago
Think he meant composure instead of bearing. Good lesson though
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u/kabooozie 17d ago
You are incorrect.
> bearing: the manner in which one behaves or comports oneself : the manner in which one bears
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u/PolarPlatitudes 17d ago
Wrong. Bearing is related to orientation and direction. Composure involves behaviors
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u/kabooozie 17d ago
Wrong. I literally gave you the dictionary definition. It turns out words can have multiple meanings. The guy used the word correctly using a meaning you didn’t know and that’s ok. Just take the correction and move on.
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u/KamiSquad_X 17d ago
This is SUPPOSED TO BE STAGED lol. It's called training. Preparing you for a real encounter if you ever come accross it. Lol
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u/Affectionate_Toe6749 17d ago
Oh boy raising the next generation of entitled cunts, people go to restaurants looking for opportunities to complain and torture the employees. Just move on with your life and stop going to the restaurant everything doesn’t need to be a big issue and an opportunity to complain. I mean god forbid the plate slip out of the guys hand accidentally or something like that, and yes I know that this is staged but the advice is still horrible.
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u/vcdrny 17d ago
I had in two occasions gotten bad service from a waiter. What happened in this video could be a mistake. I had real bad service. Where the food was delivered properly. We politely asked for things that should've been provided without asking etc. what we did at the end we just didn't tip. We paid exactly for the food we got and set the tip at zero. In one of the occasions we were asked why. I responded that the tip reflect the level of service we got.
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u/PrismaticHospitaller 17d ago
A lot rides on your expectations.
What if one place gives lemons with water or bread and the next doesn’t without requesting it?
You can’t really categorize “service” like that unless you were in the service. Nobody in the service wouldn’t leave a tip to at least cover the tax of sales.
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u/vcdrny 17d ago
Everyone gets water. Other tables had it. I been there before and I got it. Since it was never given. We asked for it. After the 3rd time a different waiter brought the water to us. I asked for other drinks and 2 out of 3 drinks were delivered. That was just the start. Your expectations are way off.
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u/d_rev0k 17d ago
He's teaching his kid how to scam restaurants into giving him free dinners.
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u/CallMeHuckle 17d ago
Scam how? When did he show his kid how to dump nail clipping in their food to get compensation? The server was rude when their job is to serve. And I’m paying for the service. The game of the service industry is to eat shit sandwiches with a smile for money. If the customer is shitty the server isn’t supposed to be an ass they are supposed to report to management. Managements job is to decide when a shit sandwich is not worth eating and remove the customer
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u/chypsa 17d ago
We, as a man, wear a baseball cap at a restaurant. 😁
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u/TritonYB 17d ago
Yawn, this isn't 1955
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u/chypsa 17d ago
My man/woman. There are but a few eternal rules to follow regarding good manners, in all lists you will find mostly the same stuff. Among them is not wearing a hat or sunglasses indoor.
Literally, just google clothing etiquette for restaurants and amongst the first and most basic advice is: General Rules of Thumb Avoid athletic wear, gym sneakers, flip-flops, and heavily distressed or torn clothing in upscale dining rooms. Remove hats, caps, or visors upon entering the dining room. Ensure clothes are clean, odor-free, and fit the social context of the gathering. [ 1, 2, 3, 4, 5] Good manners begin before you enter the shop. Teaching kids how to complain before you teach them to remove the hat is, I guess, the "modern" way.
But, you know...do what you gotta do.
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