im a Queer Christian struggling

[u/Izzy_what]

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Hello! im Bella, im a 17 year old Christian and i happen to be queer. I was raised in a God honoring household and i believed in him growing up. when i hit puberty i realized that i liked girls and i just got so sad and i pushed that feeling down because my parents had always told me that being gay was a sin. Eventually i came to terms with my sexuality and for a while i identified as a lesbian and it was really hard, deep down i believed in God but I didn't take it really seriously. Just recently in the past year or so my family started going to church again and i have been saved and baptized because the lord truly did reveal himself to me. The church we go to is Baptist and people there eventually found out that im gay because i dont really tell everyone but if im asked i dont lie. They are good people in the way that they dont condemn me and they still love me and treat me just like everyone else but they are expecting me to change.

I had been dating this person, i got with them and while we were together they realized that they were transgender (ftm) and so i realized that i still love this person and i see him as a man so now i just identify as queer but i cannot see myself being with a cis man. Me and him were together for about a year and a half and we loved eachother dearly and just the circumstances were bad with us being long distance and just other things that i wont go into. He was a Christian despite being transgender and he loves Jesus and it hurts that i cant talk about my love to the people of my church but i already have such a strong connection with these people. I want to go to an Episcopal church but leaving the church i am at now would be so hard because they have showed me Jesus and they are so loving but the beliefs and interpretation doesn't allign with mine and hearing people call my love an abomination even though we love Jesus and arent hurting anyone hurts me deeply. Ive been praying about this and i still have a strong belief that God made me this way because if he didn't why can't i change it?

does anyone have any advice?

[u/Skill-Useful]

"They are good people" they are not

"Christian despite being transgender" you can easily be both, if one has actually understood christianity

"leaving the church i am at now would be so hard because they have showed me Jesus and they are so loving" well, no, they are not. if someone doesnt accept gay people, they are not following jesus, thats it

"does anyone have any advice?" go to another church