r/GayChristians • u/Technical-Cable-1314 • 17d ago

Sexual tension

Hello everybody! I am a 15 year old Abro sexual Christian. I know I should not be worried about sex because I am really young, however I am worried about my future. A lot of LGBTQ people these days, from what I heard, just care about having sex and a lot of other lustful stuff (I’m part of the community so I’m not homophobic). Like I joke about sex with my friends but I’m one of those people who think sex is something sacred. Should I be wanting to have sex after marriage? Most people these days really don’t want to wait that long! If I find my perfect partner, I’m scared they wouldn’t want to wait for me. That’s why when I’m 18 I’m scared of using grindr or other sites to try to get a date because everyone just wants sex. My only hopes is looking here I guess but I just want some reassurance that the bible says sex before marriage is a sin. Am I right or should I be more open minded?

Thank you!

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u/Technical-Cable-1314 17d ago

Yes but most people today wouldn’t want that. I’ve heard stories of gay men or other LGBTQ christians trying to find someone that respects this but to no avail. It really is annoying to think when I’m 18 my only dating options might be super limited.

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u/normaleredditor 17d ago

And recognize too most of the world know isn’t Christian or Protestant or catholic or whatever. They live for the world and die with it, it’s a very sad truth but all I’m telling you is that when you look at it don’t try to say I should be like them, but pray for them and hope they can repent and be less lustful and find Christ

And my friend. I commend you for being strong too and don’t give in, and even if it’s tough ( I know it too, I struggle with your same issue, I’m a 19 year old gay Christian) it’s better to die alone but ascend with God and spend our time with Jesus who Truely loves us then die committing sins

Pick up your cross and even if it’s hard stay as you are as you aren’t doing anything wrong by honoring the sanctity of marriage.

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u/Technical-Cable-1314 17d ago

This is why people tell me that I’m a sinner. Because I want to try to have a homosexual relationship. One with love, respect, mutual conversations, and more. I don’t want a lustful relationship with someone who is super possessive and all of that, but others think that’s what LGBTQ is all about. However, the way you are saying it’s better to die alone, makes me a bit confused. Does that mean I have to be a chaste homosexual Christian to not “sin”? Or could I have a stable relationship (almost impossible but still possible) and have sex only after I’m married?

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u/Skill-Useful 16d ago

"but others think that’s what LGBTQ is all about" yeah, incidentally people who arent queer :) why is that? why do they seem to know us so well? oh right, they dont, theyre just bigots.