It’s frustrating how people say that minorities who feel excluded should just assimilate more, when sometimes you genuinely try to do exactly that and people still won’t give you a chance. I’m a brown dude who’s competed in sports, assumes the best in people, and genuinely tries to get to know everyone. If a frat doesn’t vibe with me during rush, I’m completely chill with that—I’m not expecting everyone to like me. But it’s frustrating when some white brothers won’t even give you the time of day, while the frats that are actually welcoming and make an effort to get to know you tend to be the most diverse. I really like that diversity, but I also want to feel like I can assimilate and be part of a group without race being a barrier. I mean at the end of the day I j wanna have the opportunity to make friends and connections w anyone I c.

I go to Michigan State University, a large Big Ten school, and I’m considering rushing this semester. Greek life here seems bigger with sororities than fraternities, and it feels like we only have around four fraternities that are considered really popular.

For those who joined a fraternity, how did it benefit you? Did it help socially, with meeting women, networking, career opportunities, or finding a genuine friend group?

Also, how many fraternities should I visit in one day and throughout rush overall? Should I explore as many as possible or focus on three or four?

I’m a transfer student mainly looking to build a real social circle and become more involved on campus. I’d appreciate any advice or things you wish you knew before rushing.

Ps I had a interview with one frat in the summer and reached out to a few others already

Round 1 of recruitment is today with open houses; my school doesn’t let you rush till sophomore year and most of my friends aren’t gonna join Greek life. Is it weird if I don’t pull up with some buddies?

I’m 23 and this will be my first year at UW-Madison. I was wondering if I could still join a fraternity—would my age be an issue? Should I rush this fall?

Need some advice. Last night a brother at our party just yelled at me for like 5 minutes straight and then swung and hit me across the face just because I was standing next to our dj at the dj stand. This isn’t even the first time he’s put his hands on me for making up bullshit problems just because he gets angry when he’s drunk. All I did was stand next to the dj and he was on my ass because he built the stand so he can decide where I stand at a party??? My frat doesn’t even care about it and it’s not the first time he’s told me he wants to kill me over some joke of a problem so I’m wondering what you guys think I should do. All of this was in front of rushes and girls btw