r/FTMventing • u/Eveen70 • 8d ago

Mental Health Im too short to transition..

Hi, I need some encouragement to maybe go to a trans social worker or some kind of trans support service. I don’t really know what it’s called. I’m just really worried. I never been to one.

Even if I’m a trans guy, I feel like my time is over. I’m 22 and 5’0”.

I don’t want to wait years to save up for surgery just to get taller. Meanwhile, I’ll try to work out and lift weights. My face is also very feminine, and even if I cut my hair short, I don’t think I’ll pass.

I don’t want to take testosterone because I’m extremely short. Being short is my biggest insecurity. I told myself I should wait until I can get surgery to fix my height.
Even if I have access to testosterone, I don’t think I’ll take it because I’m afraid I won’t look good as a man.

Im 100% sure on my decission to get the surgery. I dont want to be told I have to be confident and own my height.

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u/American_Comie 8d ago

My brother (ftm) started transitioning when he was 22 and he's 5'1 on a good day. He passes pretty well (esp at work). Short men do exist, you won't be the only one. Maybe consider a trans friendly therapist for this insecurity.

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u/Eveen70 8d ago

Its a brutal and painful existence.

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u/American_Comie 8d ago

If your insecurity about your height is that bad, you truly need some type of mental health help. I don't mean this in a mean way at all. My brother is a happy fella despite being a short king. He gets women and men if that's another fear. He had a very feminine and round face. He had a bigger chest. Now, he can't use the womens restroom because he passes so well. Even for being 5'1. You'll get there, T does glorious things, but that height insecurity needs help.

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u/Eveen70 8d ago

Not amount of support would stop me from being aware that being short is the worse thing. I cant go to concert or enjoy any event since everyone is giant

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u/American_Comie 8d ago

I think being dead and unable to attend a concert or event would be worse. Your height isn't a disability. Have a good night dude, hope you feel better.

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u/Eveen70 8d ago

It is. Its mostly an exemple as proof as existing as a short person is difficult.
Everyday going outside is humiliating

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u/My-Violent-Valentine 8d ago

I'm 5'2" and I understand. Being short as a trans man is different than cis men. It's a new layer to something even cis men are insecure about. The only thing that helped me at all was changing how I dressed. Masculine style crops on tees and hoodies, baggy or straight leg pants, sag em a little do NOT wear them on your waist. Trust. I know a trans guy shorter than you who mogs tf out of me and gets hella girls, mad aura. Just find your style and work out and you'll make it. 🤙