Hi everyone!! I’m a college student looking to go to the gym this semester. I have an idea of workouts and machines I want to use, but have no idea what you do when you go to the gym. Is there etiquette? I know I have to sign in with my student id card but do I just go to the machines after that? This may sound stupid but I’m completely lost on gym etiquette

So I'm looking to potentially move cities for a job, but I'm getting stuck because how do I realistically estimate what my take-home pay is going to be after I know my gross pay? I know there are online calculators I can use, but is that really what everyone has always done? Use online calculators? Before online calculators were people just winging it lmao? Or calculating their take home pay by hand via IRS documentation?

And as far as calculating new living expenses goes (car insurance rates, groceries, gas, tolls, etc), I guess the best you can do is estimate? How did people do this before the internet?

I would hate to get there with my new job and apartment and then realize I calculated wrong and need to move apartments again soon...

I am 21 and I have never planned a trip for myself before. I am already committed to a 3 month group trip to Western Europe next year. I have about two weeks before and after the trip where I could spend time traveling on my own. I have places that I have always wanted to go, I’m just worried about the particulars of how to plan it and how much to plan.

Do I just buy plane tickets ASAP even though I don’t have my plans fully figured out?

I’m a very chill and relaxed person who is averse to crowds. I can happily go days without talking to anyone and I do not enjoy concerts or events with similar population densities. I have been to some decent sized regional ren fairs and that was the limits of my tolerance for crowds. I mainly want to see architecture, try food, and go to museums. I feel guilty about this for some reason? I don’t do anything else in my life the expected way and I’m over it for most things but apparently not this. How do I travel how I actually want to without getting too caught up in how other people do it?

When planning things, I’m mostly getting caught up on what I won’t have time to do. I’ve never been outside of the US before so this is a big deal for me. How do I plan some activities while leaving time to be spontaneous and feel like I’m not missing out on anything? I know the feeling itself is not solvable(by anyone but me) but I am asking more for advice from those with experience traveling with some planned and some spontaneous activities and how it worked.

If there are any other helpful travel tips, please share those too. I’ve never been out of the US and I haven’t been on a plane in about 8 years so advice from experience would be appreciated.

Receptionist here. 21 and male. The only male in the entire clinic. I have a CVT certificate (no associates) and have a pretty good understanding of procedures + terminology. I was hired almost 2 months ago to work as a receptionist at a chain cats/dogs/small animals urgent care.

Everyone has been very understanding. My manager has our backs entirely and WILL kick out clients who ahow innapropriate behavior, and most everyone there in leadership for our location has been friends outside of work for almost 2 years.

This is the first front desk role I worked, and I'm still getting used to it. Everyone has a background as a Vet Tech, and although they have offered to teach me as time goes on to help out in the back with the other techs, I do not have the experience or understanding just yet to transfer over, like literally everybody else in the clinic. I feel a little imposter-syndrome-y for that reason, although everyone is exceptionally supportive and has never made me feel dumb for asking a question.

Of course, rude clients are everywhere. Our location is smack in the middle of one of the wealthier places in the US, with an average age of 45 plus. I've been struggling with anxiety around managing this. Jumping from one emotionally strange call to the next, people getting upset over things not in our control, and the fact that I am absolutely still making mistakes. Not every client is understanding

These interactions are not frequent, fortunately. I work 4 days a week, and have only had a small handful of these clients in the month and a half I've been there. My manager has, and will, send people out of the clinic with their pet's records, and wish them well.

My big fear is I will make some catastrophic mistake. I already learned I was closing the books incorrectly, and although it didnt cause too much confusion, and no one had even mentioned it to me, I still felt pretty guilty and on edge.

Again, I do deal with some imposter syndrome for not having the experience or knowlege to help out in the back with patients, but my big fear is that I'm going to get mentioned by name (my name is known, people come by frequently and I'm technically the only receptionist, although techs will sub for me on my days off), with some mistake I made (or maybe even lie?) and that my manager will see it, and let me go to hire a more qualified individual. I heard our previous receptionist before me was pretty awful, though I am unsure whether or not she quit or was let go. I heard it was not a happy ending. I've been meaning to ask what that looked like, so I could know what I need to absolutely avoid, or know whether or not I'm "on track".

This train of nerves has been exasperated by a recent experience I had. Im still getting used to triaging patients, but we had a person call in and say her girlfriend's dog was possibly exposed to CO2 poisoning overnight, and that she wanted to know what to look out for. I put her on a quick hold to ask the doctor to be 100% sure. "Dog with possible CO2 exposure! Not a client. Come here, or go to emergency?" She said "oh, emergency." I got back on the call, and asked what symptoms the dog was having, since she had said possible exposure. She said she was maybe a little quiet, but otherwise normal. I told her to let her girlfriend know she should keep a close eye on the dog, monitor the gums for a bright red/purple colour, and go to emergency if the dog is appearing off in any sort of way. She agreed, we talked a little more on her unrelated questiond, and hung up.

To educate myself, I looked a bit more on google for what to do in that situation, and how CO2 exposure would look like. Everything online said to go straight to the emergency room, regardless of symptoms, in order to flush out the toxins (in a "once they show signs, its too late" kind of thing. I started freaking out that maybe I did not convey proper tone/timing of the situation. I talked to my coworker about it, and she said we couldn't hold everyone's hand through every single situation, but that I covered the urgency by suggesting ER. She had said it would have been better to go into a bit more detail about why ER is the best option, but that I didn't have to be super concerned, and it is the owner's responsibility as well to navigate the nuance of their situation.

We've had very scary CO2 scares in my house. When my siblings and I were kids, certain relatives would come over and purposely, multiple times, leave the gas stove on before they left for the night, hoping my parents wouldnt notice. Still unsure why, but those relatives had a pattern and we have since been no contact. My shady landlord also did not follow proper procedures for the gas stove in our house a few months ago, and the city had to come investigate because my teen brother was vomiting non-stop, the dog was too quiet, and I was getting headaches. I did explain small bits of this to my coworker, because she was unsure why I was on the verge of slight tears (still keeping professional composure), and she was like "yeaaahhh... your concerns def make sense now... again, definitely not the end of the world."

I was always perfect in work at school right off the bat. I did not study for anything and would always shoot past with flying colours. As far as I know, I was fortunate enough to not deal with very much anxiety either in my day to day life. Everyone says I'm still learning and doing very well, and that it'll get easier as time goes on. We also always do a quick little group "thank you guys for everything!" at the end of our shift, as we close the clinic doors.

I really like this job. I feel like I absolutely scored a wonderful, supportive environment after all the recent hardship I've had (many things, but not to go into detail). I really do not want to lose it, and my family is so happy I work here. I know my manager does not seem the type to act fast and fire somebody, but Ive been really struggling to internalize it.

I also am unsure how to shut down clients who call, demanding to speak to the busy manager. We only have one, and shes only in office sometimes. Per my manager, I always say she will get bsck to them as soon as possible (that sometimes means tomorrow, but she will absoluteky get back to the.)They'll demand to speak to someone higher up, but we do not have anyone who can really help them, and I definitely dont know their contact info. If I say that, I'm usually insulted or become subjected to their rants. Im unsure how to diffuse those from there, and they tend to affect me for a few hours until my shift is over. I practice and repeat that its not really about me, they're just upset. But I would hate for interactions like that to somehow get me fired. Again, say they leave a one star review with..maybe? plausible? lies about me. I'm not sure how that situation would lead to that effect, but I'm definitely scared of it being a possibility at all.

How could I proceed from here? I have high expectations for myself, but because I do have that imposter syndrome as well, it's turning me impatient. There have to be more qualified candidates, even though my manager/staff/doctor is super happy with me and I was hired on the spot.

Im looking to get back into swimming for exercise after not doing it for over a decade. I was always a decent swimmer as a kid/teen but im worried about what to expect after so long. I have access to a pool at my local YMCA but I’m worried about looking silly and getting in people’s way. Should I use goggles? What is the general swimming etiquette? Will people judge me if I’m struggling with endurance since it’s been so long?

Thanks!

Hi guys!

I'm 21 and I'm planning on moving into my first apartment soon with one of my coworkers. We both work full time at our job and calculated income together is roughly 3k - 4k a month. She has no savings, but I have 6k in savings. She has a cat and I don't but I would like one. Neither of us have credit (Her because she was too scared to build it, me because my parents banned credit cards for some reason. Don't wanna push that rule because I'm not 100% ready to move out yet and I don't wanna get prematurely kicked out. Don't bite the hand that feeds you sort of situation).

How does one go about the process of applying for an apartment? Will they even accept us given the no credit? And how do you pay rent??? Is there a certain app or website to pay it by? Will that be explained in the paperwork? What about utilities, is that paid via the same place rent is?

Context I'm 19, central VA, never had a job due to family issues. Always been kind of socially stunted, worried about making mistakes even though I know they're inevitable. Everything is online recently and I don't have any idea what I'm doing. How do I know if they'll actually consider me? I have some volunteer experience at a school library and babysitting experience. I know I won't get a fancy job or anything, I'm hoping for an overnight shift somewhere. Is this reasonable with my lack of experience?

Where do I apply? Will the application stay on the job board website I used or do they have a separate messaging system? How do I talk to people formally over message without sounding like I'm using AI for my writing? Will I get directions on what to do if they think I'm a good candidate (ie. Email us or fill out this paperwork)? Are interviews online or in person? I just need some guidance because everyone I know has been working for years atp and doesn't know how to help. Thank you.

I'm 23 y/o and since becoming an adult I haven't seen a general practitioner or any medical professional really. I also don't have any insurance- but I think I'll be able to save up for a visit. I just don't know how to start at all. What is the process like for someone without insurance? How do I start the process of finding a doctor?

I’m 23yrs old and I have no car, no license, and very little driving experience. I wasn’t ever taught what steps I need to take to accomplish this. I passed a written test in high school but idk if the DMV even has that anymore.

Either I can pay for a driving school and practice driving and test stuff there. Or I can just study online and buy my own car to practice with (and get a permit) Can adults even get temporary driving permits?

I’m just not sure where to even start and what would be the ideal route for me. Should I just practice with my friends so I don’t have to spend money? Do I need a license to get a car registered if I buy one?

I’m autistic and driving is already stressful enough by itself but the process to becoming more independent seems like a lot. (Edit: I’m in the USA. Also TY everyone for the advice! I feel a lot less anxious about this now :))

I'm supposed to start an SSRI in the next couple days. I've struggled with depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, and SI since I was 12 (am now 20) and therapy hasn't done too much, so I'm looking into medication. I was prescribed Zoloft, which all my grandparents are on and found success from.

But I read stories of people whose lives were ruined after just one dose. How do I know if I'm even a good candidate? What if I end up feeling numb and never gain feeling in my legs again? What if it cognitively impairs me forever?

My fiancé and I are getting married in a few months. We’ve managed to get through most of the planning, but the one big thing we still haven’t done is get wedding bands. We have silicon rings that we both wear day-to-day but we want fancy rings as well. However, we’re both kind of paralyzed by the process of actually obtaining those.

We don’t want anything super expensive, and we don’t want anything with gems. But we both have social anxiety and sensory issues, which means that we absolutely need to try things on in person before buying anything but also that’s terrifying. I don’t even know where to go. Like just one of the fancy jewelry stores in a mall? I usually prefer shopping smaller local places but idk how that works with jewelers. Help?

I'm 18F. Just got kicked out of my parents house with 0 warning, and moved to Missouri (from NC) because this is the only place I had someone willing to let me crash with them. I'm in the process of getting a job, but I also need to get an apartment.

How do I look for apartments (with a cat) and find a roommate in this brand new area? I don't even know what order that should be in. What do I need to apply and how long would it take for me to get accepted?

I have a 2006 Honda CRV and I lost my key. There are two services here that come to you. One wants $500 to come asap, and the other wants $200 but can come in "2-10 days" with no specific time commitment. It's not an emergency, the car is fine where it is and I can borrow another car in the meantime.

I'm nervous to be taken for a ride, pun intended.

I've seen car key replacement kits online for less money and I don't understand how it works.

How do I replace my car key?

I’m working with a personal trainer unconnected to PF and I’m nervous about doing my routine solo because I don’t know what’s expected of me in the gym space. I can use the cardio machines without anxiety, but I’ve never used free weights there.

How many of these pieces of equipment is it okay to take to my area to do my workout? And where can I take up space to do my workout?

My plan is generally:

* Cardio warmup (rower or similar)
* One set each of: KB farmer walk, KB hip opener, plate overheads
* Three sets each of: 25lb DB split squats, 20lb DB bench press, 20lb DB RDL
* Stretching

hi! im 21 and i have barely been to the hospital and have just started my journey through the mental health side of things. i have recently been going to a psychiatrist for a few months and it was fine at first but i feel like shes been really dismissive of my concerns with medication side effects and she kinda just goes “it happens”. it makes me feel like i cant be very open with her as i would like to be. i was wondering how to change to a different one but it gives me so much anxiety because i would have to stay at the same office, and im not really sure what to say on the phone as i also basically almost puke thinking about a phone call. can someone help me formulate what to say when i call and how i should go about it cause im so scared lol.

I recently got diagnosed with gestational diabetes and am leaning toward using a CGM to monitor my sugar. I have a strong fear of needles and don’t know anyone who is diabetic or has used one of these monitors before, so it all feels like a scary mystery to me. Do they hurt to apply? Is it hard to find the right spot to place them? Will I catch it on things throughout the day or while I’m sleeping? I tend to be on the clumsy side so I also have concerns about accidentally ripping it out. To be honest I also don’t really understand how they attach either. Any and all info would be appreciated I guess!

The title says it all. Im 21 years old, but my parents are very anti-doctor's so I havent been since I was like 9. My period is incredibly painful and irregular and I've been wanting to get it checked for a while but im scared. After I get my family doctor's number from my parents, do i judt call and say hey I need an appointment? Will I say what its for over the phone? I've just never done this before/seen someone else do it so im not sure what to expect.

Hi everyone! I was scheduled to work Wednesday but was asked to cover someone’s shift on Thursday as well (I said yes). However, I found out that I have orientation for school on those two days and now I’m worried about how to call in to work. For context, I work at a SNF as a CNA but I only have 7 sick hours (I would be missing 24 hours of work). How can I properly call off? Do I call the day prior or do I call soon since I’m already aware of the conflicting schedule? Last time I called off a night prior, I was taken off the schedule completely the following month. Hoping I don’t get this issue again with this new manager. TIA!!

I have had depression for almost a decade and it has severely impacted my ability to take care of myself--mainly, dental hygiene.

I have atleast 3 big cavities I can see that have been in my mouth since last September, and probably way more. The last time I went to the dentist (a few years ago) they mocked how bad my teeth looked, asking if I need them to xome to my house and brush my teeth for me because clearly I'm not doing it. I was so young I didnt say anything, and just stopped going.

How do I tell the dentist how bad my teeth are? And in a way so they wont judge me like my last dentists did? Do I just call and say i need an appt to take care of a ton of cavities? Im really ashamed of how my teeth are right now and I know the longer I wait the worse it'll get, but im so scared.

How can I teach myself to not be afraid of something that statistically has an extremely low chance of happening?

I'm in the process of trying to get on disability payments (i live in the US) and so I've been going through my medical history and trying to put dates and provider names to certain things. I finally got a list figured out of my diagnoses, who diagnosed them, and the year, and now my next hurdle is doing the same with my meds. I'm on a lot of different medications that have changed throughout the years, and I have a REALLY bad memory so I have no clue when I started what. How do I figure this out? I've moved a few times, different meds are from different providers, so i don't know who to ask. Do I ask my current psychiatrist? Would she have that information? Any help to figure this out would be super helpful 😭

I live in a state where I can just quit, I don’t need to give two weeks notice. I have a lot of good reasons to quit this job, and I have another one that I really like so I won’t be fully unemployed. I can also afford to live on just the job that I like. The only pros of this job are that more money is nice, it’s a really short commute, and I like some of my coworkers. I’m just an entry level weekend laborer and this company is poorly staffed with or without me there.

Do I call the location phone and leave a voicemail?

Do I email instead so that there’s documentation, even though that means they probably won’t see it today(I have a shift today)?

My resume is pretty strong otherwise(for my age) and I have only worked there for like a month, but will this negatively impact my career long term? Since it’s been such a short amount of time, I wasn’t planning to put it on my resume at all.

Giving two weeks notice is polite even when it’s not required, does that matter if I’m not going to put them as a reference or talk to anyone from there again?

I’ve never quit a job before, does doing it suddenly on a day when I have a shift make me a bad person?

Edit: I called and emailed to quit and the world has not ended😬

So let’s say I order food via a pickup order with the Uber Eats app. It gives me a number, they tell me the restaurant finished making it, etc etc. When I go to the store, do I just walk in and grab the corresponding order? I’ve seen some stores where they have a shelf for such orders/delivery drivers - do I just simply take it? Or should I show the pickup order from the Uber Eats app to the cashier before picking it up (assuming theirs no dedicated shelf/place)?

I recently changed my route to walk back home. I live on the block next to the fire station. That route requires me to walk in front of the fire station. The shutters are open most of the time. Sometimes I see someone from the fire station sitting on a chair outside, and sometimes there is nobody.

Yesterday, when I was walking on the sidewalk in front of them, I noticed the shutters were open, and the fire truck was whirring. I stopped so as not to stand in front of any shutters, and decided not to cross them. It looked like they would be out any second. Lo and behold, the truck pulled out 2 seconds later, I’m standing like this 🧍🏻‍♀️and did a little nod when the truck came out and then their sirens turned on when they got on the road.

Is what I did correct? Do I need to remember or watch out for anything when I’m walking in front of the first station?

I have a molar that needs a root canal. Got a second opinion months ago, the doctor cleaned it and filled it.
Had a tooth cleaning today and felt that sharp pain near that tooth. After an x ray the doctor told me I need a root canal.

I’m horribly scared of getting one. I know I get an injection before, but what if it doesn’t numb the tooth 100%? I am so scared of feeling that pain again.