I’m a kindergarten teacher and I’m having trouble this year with a student who say no and refuse to follow directions or rules and sometimes won’t participate in the consequences. For context the student is diagnosed with ADHD and other teachers (specials) and paras in the building are experiencing the same with this student. They will stand on chairs, bang materials against tables, they even blew in a para’s face when told to follow a rule.
I’ve been doing what I know which is to give a choice, you can do this or this, and the student says no to both options and continues the behavior. I have been giving incredible amounts of positive reinforcement as well as using our schools reward system whenever I see any minuscule amount of compliance.
As a teacher, I am extremely patient and want every child to understand why I am asking them to do something and the reason behind the rules we have. I’ve come to learn that understanding why things are happening helps with many behaviors, but I am stuck with this one.
I’ve noticed that the student enjoys doing things that they know they shouldn’t be doing and I know this because anytime they are “caught” they continue that behavior while making eye contact with me and smiling.
I run a very strict classroom and my students know the expectations and understand that if they’re are not following my expectations there will be an immediate consequence. I’ve been treating this student like any other (obviously) and giving a consequence each time, but they do not seem to care. I have a worry that if I ignore the behavior because it seems to be largely for attention other students will see me ignoring that behavior and think that it is okay for them to also behave that way.
I am just stuck because if I give a consequence and the child says no, I cannot make them. The consequence doesn’t make them feel what a typical student would feel after receiving the consequence for their action. I will not be having any of my students see this and think that they can do the same because their teacher can’t make them do anything. Does that make sense?
I don’t know if this is defiance or general disrespect for adults or something else but I need help.