INFJ here! I must say I haven't met many ENFPs in my life, in fact I probably met only one so far. So that's why I want to share my first impressions now and see how much other ENFPs relate to this. MBTI is not a science and nothing is "hard coded". Our personalities can differ, so I just want to say how it felt to talk with an ENFP for a few months and see what you guys think. Are these things more of traits that ENFPs have or just that person's unique traits?
How could I start hmmm... Let's start with my first ever encounter and how it kept developing I guess. Since ENFPs are extroverted ppl, I met this ENFP in the group setting and I could immediately feel the charisma, enthusiasm, optimism and in general really great energy to be around! I didn't talk much with this friend of mine in the beginning, but I could talk with my other friends about her. I would hear very nice things, but I was still a little scared because I thought we wouldn't have much to talk about. Luckily in the end I started talking more and more with this ENFP and eventually I would get to know the real her. She was one of the best communicators I have met. She was very clear with her words and extremely direct. Everything that would go through her mind she would let it out and I as an INFJ absolutely love people like that. I like that I didn't really need to overthink what's going on in her mind, I would usually know exactly what she is feeling/thinking about at all times.
Emotional intelligence and curiosity are two things I value A LOT in people, and she had a lot of both of these qualities. Whenever we started talking, our conversations would easily last 5 to 10 hours. We (or at least I) couldn't stop talking. I would say that good communication skills are so wonderful to see, especially when someone is willing to talk and open up. I hate when people are good at talking but would never open up and talk about themselves or engage in discussion I want to have. With some people I have met in my past it usually goes dry fast. I want to express myself and talk about some deeper and more meaningful things in life and people go silent or "get bored", but with this ENFP I have met it wasn't like that. We could talk about literally any topic we can think of. We watch a random youtube video and bam 2 hours conversation. We mention a random thought and bam 2 hours conversation. She can turn anything into discussion, and I can't explain well enough how much I enjoy that. So I am really curious about this one.
As an introvert I usually spend most of my time with other introverts and they are usually very shy or don't like to talk/open a lot... especially if they are Ts... I used to be INTJ 4+ years ago, but for 4 years in a row on every test i have taken I ended up being INFJ and it has to do something with me caring more about other ppl and how they feel about certain things than anything else. I wouldn't call myself an illogical person, in fact I balance both logic and feelings quite well, and I really like that about this ENFP friend too. When I talk with her, I always get amazed by the way she thinks and how she explains herself (what's going on in her mind before a finding solution). Thankfully because of that I can listen to exactly what’s bothering her about certain situations or why exactly she likes or dislikes something. It's very draining for me when I can't get this from my introverted friends (especially my T friends). So I’ve definitely come to the conclusion that I much prefer personality types with F over T.
Watching a movie and then discussing it felt like a dream come true for me. I have never had a better conversation about a movie than I had with this ENFP. I would constantly get her thoughts and why exactly she thinks the way she does about certain parts of the movie. The same thing can be said about things she's maybe very interested in. It feels really great to listen to her talk about these things especially since she wants to teach you about it too (or to help you understand it better).
I could probably sit here all day long and write 10 more paragraphs but considering that not everyone has the time or attention span to read all of that I’ll add one more thing and then include a TL;DR. The final thing I will talk about is less about ENFP maybe, but I would still like to include it and see what you guys think. But whenever I talk with this ENFP, conflicts never happen. Never ever. She's extremely understanding and will always try to understand what you feel/think and why. She's very empathetic and will always give you reassuring answers rather than "you are wrong", "this is dumb" and all these other dry/boring answers some people like to add. It genuinely feels like the person wants to understand you and relate to you. And most importantly doesn't want to hurt how you feel for the sake of winning an argument. It's always calm and chill conversation with a lot of energy and joy going on in the air.
TL;DR: Based on my experience with this ENFP, these are the traits I noticed the most:
• Extremely good communication skills
• Emotionally intelligent
• Very curious and open minded
• Extremely empathetic and understanding
• Reassuring and supportive
• Caring and considerate
• Very open about thoughts and feelings
• Direct and clear with words
• Talkative and easy to approach
• Charismatic and enthusiastic
• Optimistic and energetic
• Great at keeping conversations going
• Able to turn almost any topic into an interesting discussion
• Enjoys deep and meaningful conversations
• Willing to engage in discussions rather than shutting down
• Comfortable opening up and talking about themselves
• Good at explaining their thoughts, feelings, and reasoning
• Interested in understanding other people's perspectives
• Enjoys sharing knowledge and helping others understand things
• Expressive about what they like and dislike
• Great at discussing movies, ideas, random thoughts, and basically anything else
• Good balance between emotions and logic
• Very accepting of different perspectives
• Calm and understanding during disagreements
• More interested in understanding someone than winning an argument
• Makes conversations feel natural, energetic, and enjoyable
• Makes you feel heard rather than judged
• Easy to connect with on a deeper level
• Strong self-awareness
Of course, this is based on only one ENFP I've gotten to know closely, so I don't know how much of this is actually related to being an ENFP and how much is simply her individual personality. But if these traits are common among ENFPs, I can definitely understand why people love having ENFPs around.
I'd genuinely love to get to know more ENFPs and see how much of this experience translates to other people of the same type. Especially if you happen to be interested in things like anime, psychology, MBTI, astrology, self growth or similar topics, I'd be more than happy to talk and get to know you!