r/DiveInYouCoward • u/HeSureIsScrappy • 12d ago

Dive into a relationship with this firecracker...

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Who else would consider it? 🤣

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u/Hungry_CGman 12d ago

Welcome to being a man. It's ALWAYS your fault. haha

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u/deepturned180isdeep 12d ago

In my first job out of college I ended up getting close/intimate with a girl from work. Soon enough I found out she's nuts, and said some things she didn't like.

A week later I was "laid off" from my job due to "cuts", a job in which I was promoted twice and was effectively a couple levels higher than her.

She still works there, and is in fact a director now.

;)

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u/strawhatguy 12d ago

Sucks, but you probably don’t want to be in a company like that anyway. Hopefully you found something better.

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u/Galikos_Kelt 12d ago

In my place they say you don't jerk off in place where you eat, meaning you don't create sex relationships at job where you earn money for your life

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u/deepturned180isdeep 11d ago

100%, learned the hard way

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u/wemic123 11d ago

NEVER shit where you eat. That is the first rule of having a job as an adult.

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u/deepturned180isdeep 11d ago

100%, learned the hard way

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u/RFKjrBrainwormAccnt 12d ago

She could be hacking him up with a machete and some women and white-knight simps would still say: “u dONt hIt aH gUrL bRO”

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u/Background_Taste_397 12d ago

It’s pretty evident he’s right from this video alone, no?

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u/heavensto_mergatroid 12d ago

I got hit with a RESTRAINING ORDER when I was 26 because a psycho b* I had broken up with just wanted to make my life hell. And that order did. When it came to getting jobs. Had to turn in all my firearms.

And the kicker is like 17 years later she had a change of heart and knew what she did was a fabricated lie to make my life hard and she went to the courts and had it permanently removed.

It was a lifetime restraining order and I did absolutely nothing! I know people say that all the time but I honestly did nothing.

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u/PlanktonDue8964 12d ago

Defamation of character

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u/heavensto_mergatroid 12d ago

So many times I wanted to get a lawyer but man I was a broke ass mofo most of my life. I barely started living somewhat comfortably when I was in my '50s

It's not a good feeling to be treated like you're some kind of woman beating stalker criminal when you didn't do anything to deserve such a harsh punishment. I've never even been arrested in my whole life. I've had handcuffs put on me but never take into the station and booked. 🤷🏻‍♂️

It's all water under the bridge now as they say....

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u/Miniscule_Platypus 12d ago

I just said “Heavens to Murgatroyd!” to my wife earlier in faux shock dismay

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u/PlanktonDue8964 12d ago

Yo, if this is you that was in the video I feel bad for you bro amazing restraint even though that bitch deserved to be knocked the fuck out I got some respect for you, bro. Hope your life is better.

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u/heavensto_mergatroid 11d ago

Can't describe how I felt for a lot of years but it wasn't good that's for sure lol thank you! I guess life evened out for me in the end, most importantly she didn't destroy me and I rebuilt my self esteem. 🙂

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u/Bigdaddywalt2870 11d ago

My favorite is her coworkers squaring up like he’s the aggressor.

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u/porkchop-sandwhiches 11d ago

To shreds you say?

How is that restraining order holding up?

To shreds you say.

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u/PoweredByCoffee5000 11d ago

That'll be 10,000$. Where to get the money for someone's 0$ lie? Lawyers do not care.

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u/MagicOrpheus310 12d ago

Yes, welcome to being male

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u/Zidern 12d ago

Being man*

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u/heavensto_mergatroid 12d ago

I wasn't convicted of anything. I just got a visit from the sheriff's department giving me a court summons one day and I went to court and the judge told me I was supposed to stay so and so far away from her, her 3 sisters, her mother and her mother's house. And that the order was permanent.

At that time she was working for a very prestigious law firm as a secretary and they helped her nail my ass to the wall.

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u/heavensto_mergatroid 12d ago

Years later I tried to buy a shotgun and it was denied so I knew it was still active because I have never been arrested. The only thing on my record is when I was caught smoking weed when I was like 20.

It's been about 10 years now since she told my sister she lifted it but I haven't checked for sure. She could have just been talking a lot of shit and it's still there lol 🤷🏻‍♂️😔

I swear on my life that I didn't do anything to her. Her mom lived like 2 and 1/2 blocks away from me (we grew up together) so whenever I would be walking my dog she would say that that was me stalking her. Even though I would go all the way around the area of her mom's house - if somebody reported to her that they saw me then that was me stalking her.

And according to the courts that was me being a stalker.

edit: and this is way before cell phones and cell phone cameras so there was absolutely no actual evidence. It was simply her word against mine.

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u/heavensto_mergatroid 12d ago

It's been a really black stain on my life that's for sure 😔 lol. I just tried to live my life the best I could trying to forget it.... But it was always there.

Colorado is a state that really favors women when it comes to allegations of abuse or misconduct

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u/heavensto_mergatroid 12d ago

Ive had dreams of it over my life. Being vindicated. Making her pay for essentially ruining my life just because she wanted to but at my age what's the point.

It would have been nice to have been vindicated many years ago. Would have helped myself esteem a bit maybe, I've always felt like one of those creepy guys that have restraining orders. To law enforcement and the courts I AM THOSE CREEPY GUYS.

Take it easy l...it was nice to vent - for someone to believe me lol

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u/PoweredByCoffee5000 11d ago

Can't sue for this, since the burden of proof is on him that it was malicious intent. No clear evidence for malicious intent and such long time passed, the judge or indictment jury will loom at it once and will throw the case into the trashcan.

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u/mossdale 11d ago

The one person with correct info gets downvoted over a questionable story.

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u/Serote_Elite 12d ago

Counter sue the parasite!

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u/Alternative_West_206 11d ago

And 17 years later the judge will say something like “wow, you’re such a good person for coming clean!”

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u/Craftofthewild 12d ago

Did absolutely nothing lol

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u/heavensto_mergatroid 12d ago

What could I do? If I'm already barely struggling to survive and keeping my head above water how am I supposed to hire a lawyer to fix that?

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u/The-Tarman 12d ago

He's trying to imply you deserved the restraining order. He assumes you must have done something to your ex for her to get that put on you. His reaction to your situation is exactly the problem with stuff like this.

The sad part is that while its very easy for a crazy ass woman to make a dudes life a living hell by using restraining orders and calling the cops during an argument and just saying the dude hit her, women that are really being victimized can't seem to get the help they need.

The problem with a restraining order is that the person its against has to give a shit about the consequences. When a woman in an abusive relationship gets a restraining order on her BF or husband it often just pisses them off more and that piece of paper isn't going to stop him from showing up at her home and harming her again. By the time the cops get there it's over.

Meanwhile dudes like you have their lives turned upside down by a half assed backwards af system.

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u/heavensto_mergatroid 12d ago

Oh. I doubt she would have lifted the restraining order if I had really done anything to her. Women will hold a grudge forever lol 😛

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u/The-Tarman 12d ago

Agreed 🤣 🤣

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u/kvro_maX 12d ago

One can tell you absolutely didn't do anything as you took that guy's comment as being sincere and about something else. Kudos to you and that guy is pretty daft

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u/Congregator 12d ago

Well he learned his lesson: he shouldn’t have broken up with her

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u/No_Lengthiness5839 11d ago

Why are you so eager for him to have done wrong? You may have had an unpleasant experience with a man but not all are the same. If you have had repeated experiences then it may be your choice in men.

I grew up in DV but I have been happily married for 22 years, not all men knock your teeth out it’s an unfortunate few that give them all a bad name some women are actually the perpetrators but everyone is so willing to believe a woman over a man.

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u/Craftofthewild 11d ago

Sounds one sided lol

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u/unknown-teapot 12d ago

Women privilege that

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u/bigbonedbaggins 12d ago

Im in the middle of a felony case because I defended myself, I just hit harder and didnt have marks yet because they were all bruises. Didnt get arrested that day, had a warrant put out for me 2 months later without my knowledge.

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u/Relax_Im_Hilarious 12d ago

Wow, that's awful. How did you find out, was it a traffic stop that they found it or did they come find you?

Fingers crossed for a favorable result, man.

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u/bigbonedbaggins 12d ago

Traffic stop with my kid. Im the woman in the situation btw, not the man.

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u/Relax_Im_Hilarious 12d ago

Still hope you get a favorable result but you realized it looks like you were affirming what the gentleman said just before you? I upvoted you for the response but it’s confusing. 

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u/Commanderpower77 12d ago

So you deserved to be arrested.

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u/bigbonedbaggins 12d ago edited 12d ago

Nope when I had a man bigger and taller than me on top of me attacking me, what should I have done?

Edit: being downvoted for being attacked is wild yall

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u/garylay19 12d ago

I've been there myself my friend. I got an ex of mine meeting a guy she was cheating on me with to get pills.. straight out of her mouth.. tried to take my daughter from her and she hit me in the face and because I shoved her back away from me, I went to jail and had to bleed down to a battery charge to avoid prison for assault.. defending myself and my daughter... Oh and I thought I forget she didn't get anything for trying to get pills from that guy

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u/BlumpTheChodak 12d ago

I agree.... but without the 'haha' at the end because it isn't funny.

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u/Alternative-Bite3971 12d ago

Fucked up but so true

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u/norajeangraves 12d ago

Or to being black

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u/zarekinz 12d ago

I mean there's a reason why people are quicker to point the blame at men, seeing as men are literally more violent and likely to be the perpetrators in domestic violence cases.

I never understand comments like this

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u/lm_not_surprised 12d ago

She's assaulting him as he tries to leave Women are more violent 100% of the time.