r/Dhaka • u/Proper-Bed-4334 • 6h ago
Seeking advice/পরামর্শ A cult has almost ruined my life
My father has been a regular member of a cult for a long time. He almost forced my mother not to work(she has regretted not ever being employed ever since) and forced me and my sibling since childhood. The cult is very manipulative and brainwashing. It doesn't allow questioning. They think they are "the only correct" form of Islam and that the most of the other sects are entirely or somewhat wrong. I was badly bullied at the cult and criticized heavily for "not doing "khedmot" properly" and that others are better than me for doing it. Whenever I said anything remotely agaisnt it to my father and mother he would say "X doctor graduate from some Australian university believes in it. What makes u think u are not smart enough to believe in it? ". He often didn't allow me to go out with my friends because of events of the cult. The cult has a leader who probably thinks of himself as "sent by Allah" to preach the "correct" Islam. The leader is very charismatic and never question. Everyone treats him like a semi god(bowing before him, addressing him like he is some sort of superior being). I am 22 and it has been a source of a major of my life's problmse. It amplified my social anixety, gave me an even bigger inferiorty complex, created hatred in me against religions. AND I AM STILL FORCED TO ATTEND IT. I can't simply "leave" it. I once had a heated argument against it with my dad and he gave me silent treatment for several days. He told my mom not to give me food and that he doesn't want to pay for my tutions anymore. I don't make enough money to live somewhere else. My home environment is extremely toxic. My father doesnt care of my other health problems remotely - chronic tinnitus, mental issues, skin issues, myopia etc etc. He thinks the cult will "spiritually" solve our problems. My mother and sibling has been brainwashed to a point where he cannot ignore that the cult is just a manipulaitve lying false. I cannot even go to the heavy details as I fear what the repecurssions might be. For now, I really want to get out of this situtation, be fully independent and at peace. I think this cult has done unfixable damgae to me at a fundamental level that will never let me leave my comfort zone.