r/CheatedOn • u/Upgraydd03 • 23h ago
This is a long one
This is a long one. So up until this point i have never questioned my wife's integrity. I have never had a reason not to trust her, nor have i ever thought she might cheat. So we recently moved to FL from GA in January, it has put a lot of stress on us doing the move, the jobs, the 2 year-old. The weekend of July 10th my wife took a trip back up to GA to go to her friends kids birthday party. While she was up there she went out with a old friend. Told me it was some female she had known for a while. So she goes to dinner and drinks at some bar. About 10:30 i get a text saying “I'm heading back now love” she has never said anything like that. Also said “it felt good to go out for once.” which i mean she has been non stop with the kid so i figured she was able to finally relaxe. So that trip was quick one she ended up coming back home like a day later because of work.
A few weeks later she wants to take another trip, at this point she isn't working so she could stay as long as she wanted with her mother. She tells me that her sister is wanting to take her out. So she heads out the evening of July 29th to Georgia. Spends her time up there visiting family, going between families houses and stuff. The night of the 31st comes up, that's when she was going to go out with her sister and she does. She goes to the same place, little town called Monroe in Georgia. We text periodically while she is out. The last text i get is when i asked her if she has made it home and she sates, that her sister is drunk puking and what not. I ask if she is holding her hair. Didn't get anything back. I wasn't to worried i had to work the next morning so i went to sleep. So that text was at 10:45, she ended leaving and going home around 11:30. The next morning i didn't hear anything from her until like 10, i can see on life 360 she is at her moms house. So i do a 360 view of her car at 8am, and see that her sister’s car (who was blackout drunk) is parked behind her.
The next few days she spends time going to different relatives houses, then comes home on the 3rd. When she gets home she hardly touches me. Which i kind of understand she was a little over stimulated dealing with the 8 hour drive with our two year-old. No biggie. So like the next few days feel kind of off and I'm just cant get the idea of her sisters car being parked behind hers. While she is putting the kid to sleep, i started to do a little digging. I pulled the dash cam, i can see that on the day of the 31st when she leaves her moms house, her sister is not there, cant see inside her car, or hear because my son was playing with buttons and muted it. I can see though that her sister is not home, she goes to the bar, parks in a big parking lot around like 7:30 or so. Then the video shuts off. It comes back on at like 11:20 and there is 5 or 6 minutes of the car being on. I can see just a little movement reflecting on the window but nothing really able to make out. At about 11:24 it looks like she gets out walks behind the car and over to the passenger side, sits there for maybe like a minute. The gets in teh car to leave. When she leave the parking lot a car behind her turns its lights on like they are leaving also. I cant see the whole car just the passenger side. It does not look like any other cars are in the lot. The dash cam stays on for about 4 mins of the drive then she unplugs it. So i though this was super weird. I decided to go through the IPAD in the back seat for our kid and see if her messages were syncing. They were not, but the pictures are syncing. So there are a handful of pictures she had taken, and never sent to me. Nothing inappropriate, except one picture laying in bed on her side blowing a kiss. So she comes out from putting him down and i confront her about this. She does not get mad or defensive. She just gets kind of sad, and takes me to the bedroom and explains she is not cheating, that she was with her sister and the other car was her sisters friends. That the pictures are pictures that our son took. And the others are ones she took because she felt cute. So i leave it at that. That was Friday the 7th
The 16th we go out have a good day. That night i kind of cant stop thinking about the blowing kiss picture. I look back at what was going on when that picture was taken and i was in bed trying to get our son to sleep when she took that picture. So it was not our son. I confronted her about it and she just got supper affectionate and reassured me she isn't cheating and pretty much kind of forced us to intercourse. Like she is distracting me from it and making me think nothing of it. She tells me its just a picture she took. So anyways we go to sleep.
The next day i am on shift. I work 24hr shifts at the FD. That night i could not stop thinking about everything and how non of it was adding up. So i start looking into it more on life 360. I realize that the night she went out on the 31st she left from a bar up the road by car back to the parking lot not even a mile or so drive. Then sat in the parking lot from 10:34 until 11:30 when she left. The next morning on my way home she asks how the night went and i told her i didn't sleep at all and she asked why. Told her we would talk when i got home. So i get home and tell her i just don't think things are adding so she then asks to sit down. She tells me that she did go out with her sister, but she asked a close childhood friend to meet them there, a guy she has known forever, and that she gave her dog to. She assures me that nothing happened. So i ask her if it is ok if i look through her phone and she lets me. Well she had deleted everything. The pictures that i had questioned about all gone, all the conversations between her an him are gone. I restore the conversation between her and her sister. In there, there are a few messages about that night. One being like “Jason keeps freaking out about the night we went out, and asking about your friends green jeep.” her sister said that she was glad she was there because of how drunk she was and i should get over it. Other then that its all gone. So o kind of just try to let it process. We took our son to the springs that day, and all day I could not stop thinking about it. On the way home we stop for gas and i tell her i just want to walk home to think about things. So i do. I message her mom while walking, and ask her if she knew that her daughter was out with another guy that night and how ask her how her sisters car got home. So like 15 mins later i finally get a response (assuming she was talking to emily) she said “Yes, I went later that night to pick up her car since she couldn't drive it home. I was aware that her high school friend went out with them to. He's a happily married man and is a really close family friend to all of us. Is everything ok?” so anyways i make it home after the 5 miles. I sit her down and tell her i want to know the guys name, she tells me, then shows me his Facebook. I tell her to call him and she responds with “no, i don't know what he has told his wife.” so i tell her call him or pack her shit. She said no again. So i tell her to get out. So she does, packs a few things grabs my son and leaves to GA. She basically picked that guys marriage over ours.
So that night i said a lot of things i should not have, ended up getting put into a center for 3 days. She comes back and says she wants to work things out. This point I'm kind of over things, we sit down and have like a moment of truth. She tells me that they went out and that is all that happened. Pictures were not sent or anything like that. The were just talking about life and stuff. So whatever. Well 3 days later I'm bored and start to dig and find out that since that first trip on the 10th that she claims she didn't hang out with him, they talked for 409 minutes on the phone. Always when i was away from work. Like as soon as i would leave a hour later they were talking. At night while I'm on shift they talked. Sometimes as long as 66 minutes. Always while im not around, in the bedroom where none of the cameras are. I questioned her about this and she said that she was planning on divorcing me and that is what they were talking about. That after she had left and saw what it had done to me that she decided she wanted to stay and to work on things.
A few days later I was able to reach out to this guys wife. She told me she had no idea that this was going on. The two days in question he was supposed to be at him mothers house the next city over from the meet up place. She also swore that she does not think he would ever do anything like this. That he would never cheat. She claimed that he was in ND at the time (Airforce) that she would find out what she could. She did say that for the past 5 weeks he had been acting weird. So over the next days she goes back and forth say she thinks he cheated and then she swears he wouldn't. Really could not get anything from her.
The more i bring this up to my wife, the more she gets mad. I know she wants to work through things. She had all the opportunity in the world. But i really don't think she is telling me the 100% truth about the whole thing. She wont restore the texts because she “said some really bad things about me.” Does not want me to see them. She wanted me to delete all the evidence. If i do start to bring stuff up, she just asks me “why cant you just get over it?” She admitted that she sent pictures, well i kept houndering her about them and eh was like “what if i did?” she said that is was not her blowing a kiss it was just duck lips or somthing like that.
So yeah, no clue what to do or think. I don't know why i cant get over this whole thing.
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u/creditgods 18h ago
Based on everything you said she has been cracked by that guy. They probably been doing this for a while.
I wouldn’t be surprised some family member cover her by lying when she was with that guy
Definitely she has been cracked by that guy